Archives for February 2020

Restrained

He thumbed through the handwritten pages. Colorful descriptions and dry accounts of their play intermingled with some reflections of her day to day. He knew this stuff. There was very little here that wasn't said or texted. He tossed the journal on the bed and paced the room. He knew Karen had enjoyed the increased intensity, but he was sure she was still holding back. The … [Read more...]

Red Flags and Red Herrings

I'm addressing one question that has been burning in my gut all week. Are Red Flags Universal?  For reference, I'm only using ones commonly mentioned in BDSM relationships/Dynamics. I feel the need to emphasize that red flags are personality driven.  Your role in the dynamic has no bearing on your ability to abuse and manipulate someone.  Never assume that only Dominants … [Read more...]

The Anthropology of Female Submissives

Early History: There are a number of unique primal characteristics in human females, which over the millennia, have resulted in, first and foremost, the survival and proliferation of civilization, and secondarily the unique circumstances we have now come to know and enjoy as human sexuality.  Additionally, Several characteristics of the female anatomy have contributed to … [Read more...]

Why I Struggle With, “Let’s Not Label This”

I was chatting with a friend recently and we ended up on a bunny trail, unsurprisingly. "That's why there's no rush to put labels on things," she concluded her monologue as I nodded along, despite the call being audio only. Labels are such a touchy thing.  We seem to be at a point where we are so adamant that we don't want to get put into boxes, we forget that labeling … [Read more...]

This week in kink news: February 23, 2020

Indiana U hosts Sex Fest Click here to read more Into breath play? Curious about it? Click here to find out more Check out the 10 best BDSM toys Click here to view them now! Have some kinky news to share? Tell us about any upcoming BDSM events, new products, dungeon openings / closings, collarings, kink in mainstream media, and … [Read more...]