Being Property


It’s very hard for some people to understand the concept of being property, and I’m sure there are many definitions that people within the scene attach to this term.

Despite both these things, I’m writing this article to explain my definition of “being property,” the freedom it brings, and the challenges one could face concerning this topic.

I am not just my Master’s slave. I am his property at all times as well. For me, there is a difference between these two roles. Being his slave means I am here to serve him, carry out his will, and always try my best to make him happy at all times. My slave self is expected to follow all protocols, rules, and orders. This side of me is still human with the understanding that sometimes I am going to falter.

The property self is one that doesn’t have to do anything for my Master per se. I simply am His property. It’s not an act or a gesture that makes me such. It was agreed upon by myself and my Master early on in our relationship, and continues to be a very strong influence in our protocols and daily life.

To me, being His property means that Master makes all decisions for me. My Master decides where I go, who I talk to, who I hang out with, what I wear, what I do in a day, all medical and career decisions, and all other decisions concerning me. He is also responsible for my health and well-being at all times.

For example, when I go to the grocery store, I am on an outlined budget, we usually have a pretty routine grocery list, and I must send the receipt to my Master. I also must ask him if I can go to the store the day before, and let him know when I got there and when I am leaving. Everything concerning me is accounted for, and he is always informed of everything I am doing.

However, he does work a full- time job, so he can’t be with me every second, or control every little thing I do when he is a way. If he tried to do this, we both wouldn’t get near as much accomplished. Imagine if I had to ask him to go to the bathroom every time I needed to when he was at work. That would be quite time consuming and could possibly lead to accidents if he was in a meeting when I asked.

On weekdays, certain things such as using bathroom, eating, showering, household chores, making meals, and exercise are always approved. These are things that have to get done on a daily basis, and he trusts me to manage my time well enough to get them all done. I am expected to keep our home running smoothly, so it’s impractical to think that I have to ask to fold every sock in the house or to wipe up every bit of dirt I see.

He does control my life from the office as much as he can. As I have already touched on, the big decisions such as: my whereabouts, who I contact, what I wear, my daily schedule, medical decisions, career decisions, finances, when I orgasm, are all controlled by my Master 24/7.

On weekends, Master puts me on high protocol from Friday evening- Sunday evening. When I am on high protocol I must ask for everything-bathroom, shower, water, food, etc.

So, as you can see, it’s not like on weekends I am his property and weekdays I’m not. He is just able to have more control on weekends because he is able to be home with me, and doesn’t have to worry as much about work.

If anyone in interested in adding “being property” to your dynamic I would pick protocols and a level of control over your submissive that is realistically sustainable. Don’t try to force things that will breed more stress for you or your submissive.

Being property is supposed to limit stress for both parties. I know it has for us. My Master never has to worry about who I am contacting, what I am doing, where I am going, what I am wearing, what I am spending money on etc. It limits stress for me as well, because I know as long as I am doing what he told me to and what he approved, I can’t disappoint him.

He also gets to use me as his sexual property anytime he wants. Because of this, I am privileged enough to know that he is always getting what he needs in the bedroom. He also has expressed to me that it is the most amazing feeling to have a partner that will always fill his every sexual need, no matter what, and that he can ask anything of. My Master says because I always make myself sexually available to him in whatever way he needs, he will always remain fully satisfied and never need to look elsewhere for sexual pleasure.

This is the greatest freedom I gain from being His property. The freedom from worry. I never have to worry if I am disappointing or upsetting my Master as long as I am doing what he asks of me and what he approved of.

In short, being property is about doing what you are told, and only doing what is approved.

In my opinion, it’s a little more cut and dry than being a slave.

I do believe it is harder to train someone to become property than a slave though because we are all human with our own drives. Being property entails over-riding that individual drive to the best of your ability. And replacing that drive with the drive of your Master’s/Dom’s.

Being property isn’t necessarily never thinking for yourself.  It is, however, putting your own thoughts on the backburner, if they don’t agree with those of your Master/Dom.

This is something I will be forever working on. It’s not easy to be raised in a world where people are shoving independence and feminism down your throat, and trying to train your mind and body to do otherwise.

When we first started my training, it was all about creating a contract that outlined all his expectations of me, and me following the contract. I began training with merely informing him of everything I was doing. After a while, we added more protocols that involved me asking for more things (even pre-approved things). Finally, we implemented high protocol every weekend.

For me, my slave self tells my Master, “I’m going to go do my chores now”. My property self asks if I can go do them.

My slave self wants to serve my Master by taking care of our home-which is made clear in the contract that it is both my responsibility and approved by my Master. My property self can’t even do pre-approved things without my Master’s approval before beginning the task.

What if he wants me to do something else for him in that moment or maybe he has a reason why the chores should be taken care of later?

Most people are taught to say what they are doing, never ask. Asking is often viewed as a sign of weakness, unsureness, or insecurity. But I assure you, asking shows a level of care and respect for your partner’s time, state, needs, and wants that telling/informing will never be able to do.

My suggestion for anyone interested in becoming property is to begin with training yourself to inform your Master/Dom of everything. After you have become quite good at this, slowly begin implementing more protocols that involve asking. The higher the level of control the D type has, the more you will feel like their property.

About the Author:

Slave Bunny, a 1950’s power slave, is involved in a wonderful and loving TPE 24/7 M/S relationship with her Master and husband. She is also the Creative Director of Kink Weekly.

Along with being a part of the Kink Weekly team, she will be teaching Kink classes all over the Los Angeles area this year, and is also proud to announce that she will be presenting two workshops at the BDSM Writers Con in Seattle and New York.

Slave Bunny graduated Magna Cum Laude with a degree in Psychology and has ample experience in the mental health field. She is also a NASM certified personal trainer and was declared “One of the Top Five Personal Trainers in the LA District” in 2016.

She has dedicated her life to working on herself mentally, spiritually, and physically, and hopes to inspire others to do the same. Through teaching and mentoring, she hopes to help everyone in the Kink community as much as she can.

Feel free to add her on Fetlife (Slave_Bunny992) to see her upcoming workshops and classes.


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