The Big/little dynamic involves one partner (the D type) taking on the parental role, and the s type taking on the role of someone younger than they actually are (the little). Littles have a wide age range (infant-adolescent). It is also possible for a little to change ages within a dynamic or from partner to partner. These dynamics can be polyamorous or monogamous, and can involve any gender or sexual orientation as well.
There are many different labels for Big/little dynamics. A couple of the most known are Daddy Dom/little girl (DD/lg) and Daddy Dom/ babygirl (DD/bg). However, you can totally be a female D type in this kind of dynamic (the female D type would usually be called some rendition of Mommy). It is also completely possible to have a Mommy/little girl dynamic and/or a Daddy/ little boy dynamic. As one can see, D types that engage in this kind of power exchange usually have some type of parental name attached to their title.
Many people think that Big/little dynamics are solely about ageplay. I am writing this article to show readers that while ageplay is often a component of these types of relational dynamics, it doesn’t have to be.
On a further note, not all ageplayers are submissives or littles either. Ageplay is a form of roleplay where individuals act as if they are a different age than they actually are. They
could be acting older or younger. Littles that ageplay will often take on the role of their little persona through clothes, speech, activities, mannerisms etc. Despite ageplay often being coupled with Big/little power exchange, the Big/little dynamic can survive very well
without any sort of ageplay.
Non-ageplayers in this kind of dynamic still have a clear parental role (the D type) and a clear little role (the s type). They are heavily based on TLC, nurturing, and guidance. Protocols and rituals may echo these core values of the dynamic as well.
Non-age playing littles may also engage in “child-like” activities such as coloring or playing games, but would still act as if they are the age they actually are. They would appear like an adult engaging in child-like activities. Whereas an ageplaying little would look like an adult acting like a child engaging in child-like activities.
In all Big/little dynamics, the s type may look up to the D type as a role model and/or guiding force in their life. The D type may take an active role (much like a parent) in helping to relieve their little’s stress and help them through daily obstacles.
Furthermore, in both types of this kind of dynamic, the D type is taking on the role of the nurturer and seeing through the eyes of a parent, so to speak, and the s type is feeding the inner child, and receiving a lot of love and support.
It just comes down to what is the best way for those in the dynamic to accomplish these things. Does age play work better or does non-ageplay?
I also want to make it clear that one can totally have a Big/little dynamic 24/7 where they sometimes engage in ageplay and other times they don’t. It is also possible to have an age-playing dynamic 24/7 as well as a non-ageplaying dynamic 24/7. However, if one wants to engage in ageplay, I think a more realistic approach would be to ageplay when appropriate and have a non-ageplaying dynamic the rest of the time (if you are in a Big/little dynamic 24/7).
There might be times when your s type may have to or want to act their age such as at work, around family, etc. But to each his own. You can ageplay solely during a scene as well, and/or non-ageplay in a scene and/or mix and match the two. The possibilities are endless and you ALWAYS want find what works best for all involved.
I am merely providing a lesser known option on how to formulate a Big/little dynamic. Some people don’t like to roleplay, but still need that TLC of a parental figure or need to take on a parental role or need to release their inner child. Non-ageplay is another way to accomplish these things.
I hope this was helpful to anyone interested in learning more about Big/little relationships. As always feel free to ask questions and leave comments.
Thanks for reading and stay tuned!