The How’s and Why’s of 1950’s Power Exchange Dynamics

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In honor of my 1950’s classes coming up (Jan 22 at Sanctuary and Feb 10 at Threshold) I wanted to write an article that shows the Kink community how one can keep the 1950’s alive no matter what your lifestyle entails, and the positives that go along with 1950’s power exchange dynamics. One might think that a 1950’s dynamic is only possible if you are a heterosexual, married couple due to the Ward and June Cleaver stereotype. I hope I can show you otherwise.

A traditional 1950’s 24/7 M/s or D/s home is usually where the Master/Dom holds all/most of the power, is the main decision maker, and is usually the breadwinner. The sub in this kind of dynamic is usually the homemaker (takes care of the home, family, kids, Master, etc.). However, this structure can be heavily modified to fit the needs of your household.

To many of you this may sound outdated, but hopefully after explaining what you can gain from this kind of dynamic you will begin to think of 1950’s dynamics differently.

Benefits

There are many benefits to having a 1950’s dynamic and/or implementing some facet of the 1950’s into your life. The first that comes to mind is the structure of the 50’s provides very clear- cut roles and responsibilities for both the Dom and sub.

The breadwinner/homemaker dynamic has been modeled for us time and time again by our parents, grandparents, and TV/film. Most people have some idea of what the 50’s stood for and have a clear picture in their heads of what the breadwinner/homemaker dynamic usually looked like during this time. This creates a very solid foundation for us to base our dynamics off of.

Another benefit is that one can escape modern society to a certain degree. The 1950’s were about families spending time together, eating dinner together, etc. Family dinners and family outings could be implemented to keep everyone connected to one another. One could also implement protocols that limit technology during these times. All of these things will bring those in the house closer together and help strengthen the bonds between everyone involved.

If you are living in a traditional 1950’s household (where the Dom/Master is the breadwinner and the sub/slave is the homemaker) the Master/Dom (since the sub/slave is taking care of the house, kids, family, etc.) has more time to focus on whatever they wish such as their career, the future, etc. The slave/sub no longer has to worry about having to work and can focus more on hobbies and interests. The slave/sub is essentially free of making big life decisions such as 41 k’s and stocks.

How To Keep The 1950’s Alive

There are three main ways that I know of to keep the 1950’s alive. I’m sure there are more; I am just writing about the ways I am familiar with. Feel free to mix and match these; it’s entirely up to you.

The first is the look of the 1950’s. You can be single or attached to implement this. The look of the 50’s would include everything from 50’s clothes to entertainment to transportation to housewares, etc. It would entail capturing the aesthetic of the era in one way or another.

The second is the feeling of the 1950’s. The 1950’s were thought of as being wholesome, good-natured, and innocent. Men were gentlemen and women were lady-like. Everyone knew their roles and performed their daily tasks to the best of their ability. Handouts were never expected, and people were very appreciative of what they were given including discipline. Many different types of protocols can be used to keep these things present. Below are just a few examples.

The 1950’s were very much about roles. So, whatever your role is in your household, it would be very “1950’s” to define them clearly and be consistent with them.

Polite language protocols could also be implemented to further enforce the feeling of the 1950’s such as always saying “yes, sir” and “yes ma’am” instead of saying “yeah.”

Discipline/spankings were commonplace in the 1950’s. Ads and movies were filled with men spanking women during this time. Spankings were acceptable as long as they weren’t degrading or abusive. Disciplinary spankings could be something you could begin using to add a little 50’s flare to your life.

However, if you engage in spanking for play and use it for discipline please make sure the two are very different. Spanking for discipline should have an adverse effect without being abusive or crossing any hard limits. My Master and I have certain implements for kinky spankings and certain implements for discipline spankings. My discipline implement is a wooden ruler, which gives me no sexual pleasure. My kinky spanking instrument is a paddle which I enjoy very much. Bottom line, just make sure that the spanking for discipline does not turn into play or anything sexual. It should serve its purpose of disciplining the individual.

The third is the relationship style/household structure of the 50’s. This is the “traditional 1950’s” M/s and/or D/s that I was referring to earlier in the article.

Please note, I fully realize that most people cannot live off only one income. I am merely stating the relationship style/household structure that most closely resembles the norm of the 1950’s. This structure can be modified to better suit one’s lifestyle in 2018. It is completely possible for all parties in a household to work full time and still have a 1950’s dynamic to some degree. Many people may only wish to engage in 1950’s roleplay. Some common practices of the 1950’s that would be great for roleplay include heavy petty, bondage, teasing, rubber underwear, and spanking.

Relationship Types 

There are also three basic relationship types that resemble those of the 1950’s. Again, feel free to mix and match these. These all resemble the traditional structure of the 1950’s in one way or another, but can be applied to any gender, lifestyle, or sexual orientation.

The first is called Taken in Hand. This is where the Head of Household (HoH) holds all/most of the power in the home. The HoH makes their relationship their top priority. The HoH makes decisions only with their submissive’s best interest in mind. The people in this type of dynamic are usually married and monogamous, but these are not pre-requisites.

The second is called 1950’s M/S. This type of dynamic is where the Master holds all/most of the power. In this type of relationship, the Master can make decisions that suit solely their needs, and they do not need to justify their choices to their slave(s). S/M scenes, rituals, contracts, rules, protocols, discipline, and spanking (in a disciplinary and/or kinky way) can be used. The people in this type of dynamic are usually unmarried and non-monogamous, but again these are not pre-requisites.

The third is called Domestic Discipline. In this type of dynamic there is again a Head of Household who holds all/most of the power and makes all/most decisions for their household. In this type of relationship, the sub would receive spankings and/or corner time (time out) for infractions. Maintenance spankings could also be given. These are spankings given not for discipline, but just to reinforce the Head of Household’s place of power within the relationship. The Head of Household also can give positive reinforcement to their sub for a job well done.

As one can see, there are so many ways to live a 1950’s-esque lifestyle. I hope this has given readers ideas on how to implement the 1950’s into your home, and the joy it can bring you and everyone in your household. Please feel free to comment and ask questions.

As always, thanks for reading and stay tuned!

About the Author:

Slave Bunny, a 1950’s power slave, is involved in a wonderful and loving TPE 24/7 M/S relationship with her Master and husband. She is also the Creative Director of Kink Weekly.

Along with being a part of the Kink Weekly team, she will be teaching Kink classes all over the Los Angeles area this year, and is also proud to announce that she will be presenting two workshops at the BDSM Writers Con in Seattle and New York.

Slave Bunny graduated Magna Cum Laude with a degree in Psychology and has ample experience in the mental health field. She is also a NASM certified personal trainer and was declared “One of the Top Five Personal Trainers in the LA District” in 2016.

She has dedicated her life to working on herself mentally, spiritually, and physically, and hopes to inspire others to do the same. Through teaching and mentoring, she hopes to help everyone in the Kink community as much as she can.

Feel free to add her on Fetlife (Slave_Bunny992) to see her upcoming workshops and classes.

 

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