Kink Life In A Vanilla World

Being involved in the kink scene requires a certain amount of vulnerability, openness, and honesty. Communication is the foundation among all types of BDSM activity and, as such, is a practice that is required to be honed and understood. We are all used to negotiation, safewords, and sharing parts of ourselves that the vanilla world may not ever get to see. When there is a … [Read more...]

Kink and Community: Our Responsibility

  Knowing My Origins   Having been an active participant in the BDSM lifestyle and my local BDSM scene for the better part of the last decade, I am still and forever always learning new things. My years of experience have taught me quite a bit and, though I still find myself falling somewhere in between “newbie” and “seasoned”, I definitely have wisdom … [Read more...]

An Ode To AgePlay

The Arduousness of Adulthood It's hard enough being an adult and going through the regular day-to-day. Paying bills, remembering to stay hydrated, and keeping up with one's hectic schedule can seem almost nightmarish. As children, we thought that adulthood was the ultimate goal. Now grown, we find ourselves thinking, 'This isn't what I signed up for!' Would that there was a … [Read more...]

BDSM Basics-An Intro To Pet Play

Curious about how to unleash the animal within? Pet play or human animal role play is an excellent means of getting into a different and unique headspace and learning more about oneself. No matter what animal with which you find you identify, there are plenty of ways to bring your fantasies to life.   Benefits   One of the benefits of pet play … [Read more...]

BDSM Basics: Cathartic Scenes

What is a Cathartic Scene? In the context of BDSM play, a cathartic scene is one wherein the players achieve a certain level of emotional release (catharsis) from the giving and receiving of pain and sharing in a power exchange dynamic. Often times, this will involve pushing against boundaries and soft or hard limits provided that fully informed consent has been given … [Read more...]