Poly Dating vs. Childbirth (just go with it)

I know what you’re thinking – “WHAAAA????” Just stick with me here and I’ll explain. A discussion came up at the most recent SoCal Poly Support Group meeting about poly dating. Somebody was sharing some bits and pieces about their dating life – the highs and lows (as I’m sure most people have experienced, poly or not). This person said that their opinion was that it was … [Read more...]

D-types: Knowing the Other Side

My last article was about s-types “knowing the other side” – so now it’s time for the D-types out there. I realize this is typically a harder sell. There are many D-types that when it’s suggested just to feel what their implements for play feel like they answer with something along the lines of, “Hell no!” I get it. You’re not a masochist. That’s fine, I’m not telling you … [Read more...]

s-types: Knowing the Other Side

For anyone out there who has taken the second class of my BDSM 101 class series, this topic will be familiar. I teach this concept as it is related to both sides of the slash. This article, however, will focus just on s-types. When I first came into the BDSM community I identified as 100% submissive. My intro to kink was via kinky things in the bedroom as I started to … [Read more...]

Five Reasons to Support Your Local BDSM Community

Here are 5 reasons to support your local BDSM Community: 1) If you are new I highly suggest you get out and start by attending classes and munches. Even if a class topic doesn’t particularly interest you I still suggest going if you can. No matter what, you will learn new things, meet new people, or perhaps run into people you’ve met at previous classes and/or munches, etc. … [Read more...]

Cause of Triggers During Play

Triggers are things that should be acknowledged in a relationship and are one of the things we look at especially when we are going to play. This article can't cover all the specific triggers you may or may not have, however, it will cover what various things can cause a trigger. You can be triggered in a positive way as well - which is lovely and not in need of an article! … [Read more...]