What Are “Hard” and “Soft” Limits?

If you’re new to BDSM, one of the first things you will hear about are limits. You may also see people declare themselves a “no limits slave” or demand a submissive partner without limits. What does that mean and what are limits? What is the difference between hard and soft limits? Why do we even need limits in the first place? Limits are basically a boundary, a thing you … [Read more...]

6 Ways to Determine Your Limits in BDSM

In the last article, we spoke about hard limits vs soft limits and what limits are. Today, we will look at 6 ways to determine your limits in BDSM. These methods can be used to determine both your hard and soft limits (or limits in general, if you choose not to draw a line between the two). 1) The easiest and most obvious method to determine limits is to think of the … [Read more...]

5 Typical First Time Mistakes – and How to Avoid Them!

This article is an excerpt from Morgan Thorne’s recently released book, Exploring BDSM - a Workbook for Couples (or More) Discovering Kink. When you’re brand new to something, you’re bound to make mistakes. It’s one of those things you should be okay with before you start experimenting. You’re going to make mistakes and that’s okay! Learn from them, handle them appropriately … [Read more...]