Rika’s Lair- Avoiding Escalation and Exploring Together

have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  This week, I’d like to rekindle a thread I started a bit over a year ago in my FetLife group. The topic is “Escalation”; a concept on which … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair- A Little Insight Into A Submissive Man

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  This week, I’m not going to write an article. Rather, I’m going to share a poignant piece of introspection I received from a … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair- If You Want To Submit, Submit!

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  This week, I’m going on a little rant. Over the past couple of months, I’ve been working with a number of couples who have been … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair- Accepting Power Dynamics

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  This week, I would like to address the notion of whether relationships that have power dynamics will become mainstreamed, that … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair – Finding the Potential Dominant in Any Partner

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  This week, I’m going to discuss a topic that, I recognize, has been done to the hilt. I’m talking about finding a dominant when … [Read more...]