Rika’s Lair-Why I Don’t Punish

Welcome back to Rika’s Lair - a monthly column discussing a practical, no-nonsense approach to adding D/s dynamics to your relationships! I hope you’ve been enjoying “The Lair” as much as I’ve enjoyed writing it. It’s my opportunity to share some thoughts and hopefully stimulate some new ideas! For my first-time readers, I hope you take some time to go back and read my earlier … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair – Fulfilling the Needs of the Submissive: Without Obligating the Dominant

Since it’s the first I’m writing to you this year, Happy New Year! I hope you had a festive turn of the year. Here’s to a happy, healthy and prosperous 2019! I hope you’ve had the opportunity to read my previous three installments in Kink Weekly and are anxious to move forward with your journey into dominant-centered, service-oriented power dynamics! If you haven’t read … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair – Expectations, Rights, and Obligations – Part 2

For Part 1 Click Here As the new year approaches, most of us are thinking about the year gone by and looking forward to the future. Many of us will be considering our New Year’s resolutions: How we’d like to improve ourselves and our relationships going forward. It’s the perfect time to continue the discussion we started in the December 17th edition of “Kink Weekly”. If … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair – Expectations, Rights, and Obligations – Part 1

As the new year approaches, most of us are thinking about the year gone by and looking forward to the future. It’s the perfect time to consider our New Year’s resolutions: How we’d like to improve ourselves and our relationships going forward. It’s the perfect time to consider what this D/s dynamic really means to us. Last month, we started with a discussion of “Intent” over … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair-Intent

Welcome to the Lair! I'm very excited to contribute a monthly column for Kink Weekly! I've written a lot on the subject of Dominance and Submission through the years, so there's a good chance you've read my writing before. I welcome back my loyal readers and also embrace this opportunity to reach out to new minds, introducing them to viewpoints that hopefully will both resonate … [Read more...]