What Is Sex Even For?

What is sex even for? Everything in the world is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power. - Oscar Wilde Sex is a social obsession. The pursuit of it, the commercialisation of it, the regulation of it. Wherever we turn someone is telling us how to get it, how to do it, who to do it with, etc… Cultural expectations and norms change from generation to generation, providing … [Read more...]

In The Kinky Closet

Yes Mistress! I am fortunate enough to know some truly wonderful dominatrices...AS FRIENDS!!! (Let us make that clear before you let your imagination run away with you.) I sometimes feel that these individuals represent a neglected field of outreach for our community, that of fantasy exploration. Many of us are lucky enough to be able to explore our kinks and fetishes with … [Read more...]

Frame The Experience

A friend of mine and I were talking the other day. We were discussing the word "slut", it was a word that had been used to hurt her in the past, now it was a word she was claiming back. I was impressed by her strength and determination, while also being reminded that words can leave invisible wounds that we carry with us through daily life. The word slut had been used to … [Read more...]

No Easter Bunny For Me

Like most people I started practicing rope in the bedroom long before I realized there was an active community. Trying my best to replicate what I had seen in porn or in photos. My long suffering partner at the time kindly sat through incompetent hours of practice. There were no terms for the two of us involved and certainly there were no names for the unrecognizable patterns … [Read more...]

Something Is Going to Go Wrong With Your Scene

Perhaps you will have noticed that the title of this piece does not contain the word “if”. In kink it is rare that something won't go wrong at some point, and given enough time something certainly will. This can be relatively minor, a flogger swing that goes too high, all the way to scaring someone with a poorly judged whip strike. Today I writing all about when it does go … [Read more...]