Something Is Going to Go Wrong With Your Scene

Perhaps you will have noticed that the title of this piece does not contain the word “if”. In kink it is rare that something won't go wrong at some point, and given enough time something certainly will. This can be relatively minor, a flogger swing that goes too high, all the way to scaring someone with a poorly judged whip strike. Today I writing all about when it does go … [Read more...]

Learning From, And For, Our Bottoms

I'll have what she's having I like to order for my girl when we are out for dinner. This is not a new part of our dynamic, but it is one I am still developing. I started by recording her allergies and basic dislikes. That was enough to make sure I was not going to poison her or try to feed her something she would flatly refuse to eat, but it wouldn't let me do much more than … [Read more...]

Drop and Aftercare

The situation I want to discuss is often referred to as sub-drop. It can be very unsettling to have had a really good scene with someone, have a lovely chat with them afterwards, give each other a hug, only to find out that the next day they are feeling really low. Having had a lovely night, they are now feeling sad, even upset, often without being able to put their finger on … [Read more...]

Sorry Should Be The Hardest Word To Say

Model: Domina Mara Taken by: Domina Mara Disclaimer: This but one person's opinion/perspective in the community. What this writer is describing still falls within SSC (safe, sane, consensual). He is not describing anything non-consensual. Before the practices he is describing take affect the submissive must consent to said terms and protocols. Please note this when … [Read more...]

Trust and Kink

We talk a great deal about consent in the kink community, as we should, however, I fear we sometimes do so at the the expense of other important aspects of a healthy kink relationship. In this article I want to go beyond consent and explore the role of trust in D/s dynamics. We are going to explore it from two perspectives, that of the responsibility of the Top to be … [Read more...]