Guide to buying BDSM collars

Few objects carry so much significance in the BDSM world as collars.  In lifestyle relationships, they are a symbol of the power exchange dynamic in a relationship. They can be also used in play scenes to reinforce power exchange, attached to leashes and incorporated into physical bondage.  There are many vendors producing collars now – we’ve narrowed it down to the best below.
Satin Collar by Eternity Collars
Satin Collar by Eternity Collars ★★★★★ $$$$$
Eternity Collars sets the standard for simple, elegant lifestyle collars. They have several styles available. This one is my favorite. It locks closed using an included hex key. It's very sturdy and can be used in a number of ways in play (consider attaching an O-ring to increase your options). And it's comfortable and just-subtle enough that it can be worn as a 24/7 lifestyle collar and even by worn to vanilla settings and events without attracting undue attention. The Satin finish is pictured - it also comes in some other options including black and gold, if you wanted to use different versions to indicate the different levels of collaring progression.
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Loh Choker by Creepyyeha
Loh Choker by Creepyyeha ★★★★ $$$$$
Creepyyeha is one of my favorite independent creators of fetish-wear, based out of New York. She has some striking and unique designs, which really stand out from the mass produced collars you find at some of the larger stores. Her collars are all custom-made to measure for each order. This is great because you know it was hand-made for you (or your submissive). The down-side is that it can take quite a while for your order to be made (1 - 2 months). When it arrives though, it will be well worth the wait. This choker looks great and could be a 24/7 piece, with the exception that it may need to be taken off for exercise (chafes a little).
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Vondage locking buckling collar by Stockroom
Vondage locking buckling collar by Stockroom ★★★★★ $$$$$
Just want to get your partner into a sweet, submissive headspace and ready for you to dominate them, without worrying about setting fashion trends? This standard, simple play collar will do just that without breaking the bank. It's sturdy and functional, and also part of Stockroom's new Vondage line which is all animal-friendly faux leather. Plus, black goes with everything...
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The Heart Collar by Extreme Restraints
The Heart Collar by Extreme Restraints ★★★★★ $$$$$
This collar is adorable. The hearts add a sweetness to it which can be perfect if you are getting a collar for someone who is new to BDSM - it can help make it all seem a little less scary. Not to mention it looks super sexy on - goes great with lingerie. This collar is also well made, with high quality leather, so expect it to last. Note that the buckle does not lock, so don't expect it to contribute to any inescapable bondage.
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Thorny Rose Choker by Lovely Scum
Thorny Rose Choker by Lovely Scum ★★★★ $$$$$
Lovely Scum make some truly unique collars, borrowing some elements of punk culture and serving up original styles at the millennial generation. They are made in Los Angeles, and seem to be pretty good quality - particularly for their inexpensive price. I quite like this one as a play collar or to wear to a fetish party - but they also have some other very cool collars in their line.
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Red Hot Lover collar by Sub-Shop
Red Hot Lover collar by Sub-Shop ★★★★ $$$$$
A classic leather play collar, re-styled in a striking red which looks amazing. This is one of the things that Sub-Shop does best - reimagining bondage gear in aesthetically beautiful ways, and breaking the mould of all of that black which most fetish vendors seem to adhere to. This is a high quality product at an excellent price.
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Extreme premium bondage collar by Fetish Toybox
Extreme premium bondage collar by Fetish Toybox ★★★★★ $$$$$
Fetish Toybox carries some fantastic products. This bondage collar is one that really stands out from many others out there. The black and white give it a very distinctive looks, while the detail of the stitching shows how much care goes into creating this. You can use a padlock with this buckle to keep your partner from removing it without your permission - guaranteed to heighten the sense of power exchange.
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Tips for collars:
  • The best collars will be sized specifically for the wearer.  This will mean you don’t have random straps and other pieces hanging off it, which can be a hindrance and also not look great.
  • Collars are quite personal.  Unlike bondage cuffs, rope and other things, many people prefer not to share collars with other people – even if they are just play collars.  For this reason, you might find a new play partner prefers to “bring their own” collars rather than using one you may have used with someone else.
  • Don’t go too tight or loose with the collar.  It should fit snugly but be comfortable and allow easy unrestricted breathing.
  • If you are using the collar for more than just symbolic purposes, it’s important that it is sturdy.  You’ll probably want a ring on the front of it for practical purposes (attaching leashes, bondage etc).
  • Be wary of sharp edges on collars – particularly for long term wear.
  • Posture collars are a whole different area which I’ll cover separately.
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