UPDATE: Five Aspects of BDSM We Forget

This is an update of an article I originally wrote back in January 2016. I decided to resurrect it with some new (and some same) info, for your reading pleasure! While I love the lifestyle and specifically the very active scene in my home town of Los Angeles, there are key elements that are sometimes overlooked or completely forgotten. In an effort to not make this a list of … [Read more...]

Kink and Kids

Don’t be fooled by the title. I am NOT suggesting that the two go together! What I am going to talk about is the possibility of having both in your life. On numerous occasions I have been drawn into discussions about this because people know that I am heavily involved in the BDSM scene, am out about my kink to my friends and family of origin AND I have two young children. … [Read more...]

The Vanilla – Kink Pendulum

The signs for me that the pendulum has been hangin’ out on the vanilla end too long are fairly easy for me to read at this point. My stress level seems higher than should be expected in relation to the amount of stress I’m under, or the level that I’m normally able to handle better. I get more irritable, tearful, and emotional. When hormones aren’t to blame I know what is. … [Read more...]