Dexx Interviews Mistress Cyan

In honor of DomCon LA happening this weekend, we wanted to revisit this interview from last year's DomCon issue. Mistress Cyan is the creator and visionary behind DomCon LA. You'll get a glimpse of the history and importance of this annual event. Enjoy! Dexx: You’re obviously a community leader, pioneer, and inspiration to a lot of the people in the BDSM community. I wanted … [Read more...]

Video: Mistress May I?

Mistress May I? from Gabbi Ewing The Mistress featured in this video shares a very similar sentiment to many of our BDSM practitioner friends both professional and lifestyle. We hope this provides some clarity and perhaps even insight on how to explain what you do to your friends and family, should you choose to. … [Read more...]

The Outing Guide

With the new found mainstream popularity of BDSM – mostly due to social media and the “Fifty Shades of Grey” series – I have gotten many questions similar to the following one -- “I’m tired of hiding my true, kinky self from my family and friends. But, I’m afraid they won’t understand. Is it possible to out myself without it blowing up in my face? How, when and to whom … [Read more...]

Coming Out of the Closet(S)!

So many closets, so little time. Well, ok, only two closets, however, I've had to come out of them again and again. When you hear that someone "came out of the closet" you may think, "Good for them, it's a big step and now they don't have to worry about it anymore." What people may not realize is that once you come out - that's just the FIRST time. Essentially you have to … [Read more...]

Kinky dating vanilla? Don’t waste your time.

A bird and a fish may fall in love, but where would they build a home? If you are regular reader of this web site, then it’s highly likely you are kinky. And by kinky, I don’t mean that you like to spice things up with your partner once and a while with some silk scarves. I mean that BDSM is in your blood… your DNA even. And you likely spend a good amount of time playing … [Read more...]