Healthy Dominance I have noticed there are a lot of new individuals in the community that seem to be unclear about what a D type really is. A lot of these individuals are also unaware of the responsibilities that come with being any rendition of a D type. Being a Dominant entails so much more than just telling people what to do and getting your fantasies met by doing … [Read more...]

Sensual Bondage When discussing BDSM play techniques, we frequently talk about floggers, canes and whips. But, there is a softer, and equally important, part of BDSM that is often overlooked. And that is the art of sensual bondage. It might not be as dramatic, but it is sexy, beautiful and often just as thrilling as the most edgy of edge play. For many submissives, … [Read more...]

Making A Scene

There are few things in the BDSM world that are better than a great scene. Whether it’s a long, winding Sadomasochism session, a freaky role play, or a good old rough romp, great scenes are one of the best parts about being kinky for many of us. We should start by talking about what a scene is. A scene generally is a period of time which you (usually with a partner or … [Read more...]

Is is Normal for a Person Transitioning From Vanilla to Kink to…?

This article is in response to a reader inquiry.  I will be doing my best to reply based on the information given but if I could I would ask a few questions first. To start off I will post the original question: “My girlfriend is more experienced at BDSM and I still get jealous when her fans worship. She tells me she is mine and I need to be more confident - it's rough … [Read more...]


Meta-communication or metacommunication, is a secondary communication (including indirect cues) about how a piece of information is meant to be interpreted. It is based on idea that the same message accompanied by different meta-communication can mean something entirely different, including its opposite, as in irony. The term was brought to prominence by Gregory Bateson to … [Read more...]