Nature or Nuture

Much of what is written about this lifestyle concerns the underlying basis of Dominance and submission. Are they inherent or acquired characteristics? If they are acquired, how does one go about attaining them? Can anybody learn to be a Dominant or submissive or is it "in the genes?" Most of my observations here are the result of interviews with lifestylers I personally … [Read more...]

Conscious Dominance

Defining and Living your Personal Code of Mature, Noble, Authentic, Responsible Dominance For me, being a Conscious Dominant means to be clear about, and aware of the values, principles and protocols I have chosen to live by. It means having my words and actions be in alignment with these values.   Am I living what I preach?   And there can be many further nuances, … [Read more...]

Are We All Switches?

With DomCon Los Angeles (domconla.com) coming to the L.A. Hilton on the 9th of May, attendees will see an array of both Dom/me and subs – from 24/7 to weekend players. Thus it might be interesting to examine Dominance and submission from a completely different angle. Remember, this is my opinion and my opinion only! I think that, in our modern society, it is nearly impossible … [Read more...]

What is Dominance?

Much of what is written about D/s and BDSM concerns, duh, Dominance and submission. But what exactly are they? Are they inborn or acquired characteristics? If they are obtainable, how does one go about acquiring them? I think a good analysis of our kinky needs – after all, this is kink weekly -- is always good for the soul! Once in a while, we should all look inward and … [Read more...]

“Coca-Cola Dominance”

Definition: “Coca-Cola Dominance.” In a D/s relationship, when a Dominant asks only for behavior that the submissive would do anyway. I had touched on the “Coca-Cola Dominance” question in a previous kinkweekly.com article, "Does being in love diminish a Dom/me's power?" In theory, love does make the Dom/me less likely to release the sub and thus diminishes the … [Read more...]