Consent is Key

“Consent is key.” People in the scene say this all the time. This is because it’s true. Consent is what separates responsible BDSM and abuse. I can, unfortunately, give several examples of consent violation that I’ve witnessed or experienced personally. I’d be willing to bet that anyone in the scene longer than a week can say the same. (ok that may be a bit of an … [Read more...]

The Vanilla – Kink Pendulum

The signs for me that the pendulum has been hangin’ out on the vanilla end too long are fairly easy for me to read at this point. My stress level seems higher than should be expected in relation to the amount of stress I’m under, or the level that I’m normally able to handle better. I get more irritable, tearful, and emotional. When hormones aren’t to blame I know what is. … [Read more...]