Can We Recognize Each Other

Names of people and places changed to ensure anonymity. I believe that people in “The Lifestyle” or fairly serious into BDSM can recognize each other. I mean in everyday life, not in a club. For me it’s little things that give it away. I am talking about everyday objects, clothing, behaviour or things people say. I can be wrong, but personally I have a number of occasions … [Read more...]

Is Planning Good Or Bad?

A little bit about me. I’m approaching my mid-fifties. I had my first exposure to BDSM when I was 16, from a magazine. No pictures, just text. I’m not a professional writer, but I love sharing my experience. However, I always say, if it works for me doesn’t mean it will work for you. If it doesn’t work for me, it doesn’t mean it won’t work for you. So, I’m happy to share … [Read more...]