Rika’s Lair – Expectations, Rights, and Obligations – Part 1

As the new year approaches, most of us are thinking about the year gone by and looking forward to the future. It’s the perfect time to consider our New Year’s resolutions: How we’d like to improve ourselves and our relationships going forward. It’s the perfect time to consider what this D/s dynamic really means to us. Last month, we started with a discussion of “Intent” over … [Read more...]

A Deeper BDSM Experience Awaits You, Outside Your Comfort Zone

Illustration by Dirk Hooper I hear from people with very different problems, but all share the same solution. One guy is into FinDom, and deeply enjoys the interaction he gets online, but then feels a profound sense of loneliness afterward. He thinks he knows about BDSM, but, he’s only had a small taste of it. A woman has practiced professional domination, enjoys … [Read more...]

Why My Girl Isn’t Allowed To Say “No”

I am sure we have all heard the sweaty, uber-dom declare; "True submissives I play with don't have safe-words." and "My partner isn't allowed to say no to me." followed by a grin which could only be described as unfortunate. I would argue that such an attitude is at best pointless posturing and at worst an indicator of dangerous abuse. So let us explore these two points, the … [Read more...]

Rules

Rules, I LOVE rules. Long lists of complicated instructions relating to everything from when they can speak to what furniture they are allowed to sit on, or short simple ones like always wearing their collar when we play. There are so many to choose from, and as with so many things in kink they are only limited by your imagination. When we set rules is it because we actually … [Read more...]

The Misunderstandings of Littles

Pure Rebel - https://www.patreon.com/purerebel The Dark Arts-https://darkestarts.com/ I was still finding myself when I met my Daddy. Correction.  I hadn't even begun trying to find the self I had lost when I met him, yet he inspired me to begin that journey. Along the way, he pointed out to me that I had some of the tendencies of littles.  Having read very little … [Read more...]