How About A Little Personal Responsibility Here?

I am going to start this off by dispelling some rumors, and I am sure people may get upset with me, but oh well. So be it. We all came to like kink because we "Chose" to participate. I know, what a concept, right? I know you are all nodding your heads right now. Now, here is where I get myself into trouble. Whatever role you decided to be was a "Choice". Don't make me bold … [Read more...]

How To Kink Without BDSM

Hello everyone! I was recently inspired by my own M/s dynamic to write this article. For many of us in the lifestyle, it IS standard to practice BDSM. However, a lot of individuals think of kink as encompassing solely BDSM. When in reality, there are so many other ways “to kink.” Of course, BDSM is one way to participate in the lifestyle, but I think it’s important for … [Read more...]

This week in kink: September 17, 2018

“Displaying Art" by Sir Render Original reference from Model Victoria Learn how to make consent sexy from Mistress Velvet Click here to read more “A Present” by Sir Render Original reference by petite There are so many differences between what 50 Shades perpetuates and what BDSM is really about Click here to … [Read more...]

BDSM Burnout

As many of my readers know – and many here at – I am in a long-term D/s relationship. Although we are talking more than seven years, it has not been a totally smooth ride. As with all relationships, arguments, tension and boredom enter when you least expect them. That is the bad news. The good news is that – as opposed to vanilla dynamics – it is much easier to … [Read more...]

Under Lock And Key

Photographer: Matthias Wallmeier Model: Miss Fetilicious “The putting on of a chastity belt, by a partner, is an indication of the dominance by the "keyholder" over the wearer's sexual activities. By accepting the chastity belt, the wearer accepts surrender of control over their sexual behavior to a partner, who may grant permission to the wearer to engage in sexual … [Read more...]