Rika’s Lair- Identity and Role

I hope you’ve been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  This week, I was working with a couple dealing with conflicts of identity and role. Several months ago, the woman reached out to me … [Read more...]

I’ve Got To Be Me

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  I often get emails from couples asking for the secret to creating realistic, lifestyle power dynamics within their relationships. … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair-One Sided Negotiations

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  This week, I’d like to share a little fun I have on those occasions when I feel like playing with power dynamics in scenes. These … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair – Female Dominance and Role Reversal

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  I’ve recently heard the term “Role Reversal” used in the context of female-led power dynamics and it struck me that this is … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair-A Lesson in T&D From The Golf Goddesses

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  This week, I thought I’d discuss a comical correlation that “dawned” on me. My husband is an avid golfer. He absolutely loves the … [Read more...]