Rika’s Lair-A Lesson in T&D From The Golf Goddesses

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  This week, I thought I’d discuss a comical correlation that “dawned” on me. My husband is an avid golfer. He absolutely loves the … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair-Avoiding Ineffective Motivation

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  The catalyst for this article is a discussion I had with a man who was looking for advice on creating a contract with his wife … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair- Giving Directions vs. Setting Direction

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  In my latest book, “Uniquely Dominant: Being the Dominant in a D/s Relationship”, I have a section on determining the style of … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair- Financial Dominance

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  I recently came across an online documentary regarding the topic of Financial Dominance (known as “Findom”). Most people, by now, … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair – The “Type-O” Submissive

The term “compatibility” pops up a lot in discussions about dominance and submission. “Difficulty finding a compatible partner with whom to establish a power dynamic” is the focus of many of the questions and letters I receive. It’s natural to highlight common tastes as requirements for your relationship search. Finding a partner for a lasting relationship (assuming it … [Read more...]