Back to Basics

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Sometimes it is useful to get back to basics. Whether it is the fictional Rocky Balboa revisiting his old gym or an experienced BDSM lifestyler reflecting on the bedrock that he/she has built his/her knowledge on, it is often inspiring to revisit the fundamentals from time to time. In this installment, we will look at the basic practices of our lifestyle with … [Read more...]

Top 5 List of Beginner Toys and Types of play

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From the title of this article you may have assumed that you would find a list of specific toys that are great for beginners. However, since I like to keep readers on their toes – that is not exactly what you are going to get. I will reference specific toys of course – but the list is written with a broader stroke of the brush. Enjoy… 1) Hands In my opinion your hands … [Read more...]

Introducing a New Person to BDSM


We've written several articles similar to this topic in the past but with the caveat that you were either dating or romantically interested in the new person or perhaps it was a vanilla person you're trying to convert. This article will cover aspects and ideas for introducing a kinky platonic friend into the scene, something which I've had personal experience with multiple … [Read more...]

Learn From My Mistakes: Part Two

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Check out part one here. In this installment, I will concentrate on Internet BDSM mistakes that I, and friends, have made. After all, in our fetish-tolerant age -- there are fetish parties and other opportunities for meeting potential partners real time -- the Internet still accounts for a significant number of BDSM hookups – and slip ups! So, here is my second list of … [Read more...]

Learn From My Mistakes: Part One

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It’s that time of year for New Year’s resolutions that few of us keep. Here, at, we won’t burden you with advice you don’t need or guidance you will ignore. So, instead of the usual suggestions, we will offer a new concept for improving your kinky BDSM relationships -- “Learn from my mistakes!” We all know that the only way a child learns how to avoid a hot … [Read more...]