A Deeper BDSM Experience Awaits You, Outside Your Comfort Zone

Illustration by Dirk Hooper I hear from people with very different problems, but all share the same solution. One guy is into FinDom, and deeply enjoys the interaction he gets online, but then feels a profound sense of loneliness afterward. He thinks he knows about BDSM, but, he’s only had a small taste of it. A woman has practiced professional domination, enjoys … [Read more...]

How Not To Be Afraid to Top

There was a huge shake-up within the NYC public scene late 2017 into early 2018. Some big names in the scene were accused of various consent violations, some of them several years old, one after the other. “Pillars” of the (gak) community, as it were. Long time educators and party/convention promoters went down in flames, one by one, almost overnight. The whole thing got very … [Read more...]

The Play

SUBMISSIVE, in a short evening dress, flees darkness to center-stage, which is spotlit. SIR: Who do you think you are? SIR enters calmly, at the edge of the light. His SUBMISSIVE stares frightened, out. SUBMISSIVE: I’m sorry, Sir. SIR: Not yet. Following the edge of the light in a circle, taking off his belt. You will be. The SUBMISSIVE shivers. SIR … [Read more...]

Why My Girl Isn’t Allowed To Say “No”

I am sure we have all heard the sweaty, uber-dom declare; "True submissives I play with don't have safe-words." and "My partner isn't allowed to say no to me." followed by a grin which could only be described as unfortunate. I would argue that such an attitude is at best pointless posturing and at worst an indicator of dangerous abuse. So let us explore these two points, the … [Read more...]

Writer’s Block

“Not right now, Pet,” he said as she slid up behind him, her hands reaching out to his hunched shoulders. He had always carried his stress there, and she could read him well enough to know when he needed to relax. He had awoken before her, and had been perched over his laptop at least since she had gotten out of bed three hours ago. She knew better than to bother him while … [Read more...]