Magnification

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"Magnification." Now, what do I mean by that? It is not a term you will find in any Kink Weekly article. At least I don’t think so. Truth be told, it is not a BDSM term at all. But, it can add a lot to your BDSM play. Let me explain. What I imply by "magnification" is the process whereby a Dominant or submissive, by the use of selected pre-scene sequences, is able to amplify … [Read more...]

The New 24/7 Slave

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In a previous kinkweekly.com article, The Dynamics of 24/7 D/s, I had opined on so-called 24/7 D/s relationships. I would like to expand on that article and offer a 24/7 plan that can work in our fast-paced and demanding society. There are a lot of differing opinions when defining the phrase “24/7” as it applies to slaves and submissives. Technically, the precise definition … [Read more...]

You Can’t Have Everything!

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With L.A.’s Bondage Ball ahead of us, and Kinkweekly’s Launch Party behind us, I thought it would be a good time to see how new BDSM players transition from play to D/s relationship – if that is what they want (and many do). More often than not, upon first play, it seems that all is fine. But when it comes time to get to the next step, I was asked the following question -- … [Read more...]

Collars: Another Perspective

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Collars. In our DomConLA presentation, “Old Guard vs. New Guard,” we all agreed that, with the fashionistas’ adoption of the collar as a style, the meaning of the BDSM collar has been diluted. Or has it? Maybe it has lost its meaning to the outside world – wearing a slave collar will not shock the world anymore -- yet the most important aspect of the collar still remains. … [Read more...]

Reader Question: Non-sexual Rewards & Punishments

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This question was recently sent in to Kink Weekly: “My Dom and I are moving into a nonsexual version of our relationship due to personal reasons. But after so many years of sexual play, He is having a hard time separating sex from our D/s relationship, but I have told him it is possible. Can someone help me with nonsexual ideas for rewards and punishments that do not include … [Read more...]