Navigating Negotiations With Chronic Pain or Illness

I write from my own experiences and from the submissive perspective.  I realize there are many s-type identifiers (slave/sub/bottom/brat, etc.) and many D-Type identifiers (Master/Dom/Top/etc.). However, for the sake of simplicity for this article, I will use sub and Dom going forward. The same is true of gender identifiers that correspond with s-types and D-Types. However, … [Read more...]

How About A Little Personal Responsibility Here?

I am going to start this off by dispelling some rumors, and I am sure people may get upset with me, but oh well. So be it. We all came to like kink because we "Chose" to participate. I know, what a concept, right? I know you are all nodding your heads right now. Now, here is where I get myself into trouble. Whatever role you decided to be was a "Choice". Don't make me bold … [Read more...]

Who’s In Charge Anyway?

Question: My boyfriend & I have been dating for a year, and he's a Dom. I'm new to this, but I have been wanting this for a long time. I've been wanting him to restrain me with ropes, cuffs, straps, whatever & he's always making excuses. I even brought him silk scarves and he only partially tied my hands together. How can I convince him to do it? I've told him … [Read more...]

How To Kink Without BDSM

Hello everyone! I was recently inspired by my own M/s dynamic to write this article. For many of us in the lifestyle, it IS standard to practice BDSM. However, a lot of individuals think of kink as encompassing solely BDSM. When in reality, there are so many other ways “to kink.” Of course, BDSM is one way to participate in the lifestyle, but I think it’s important for … [Read more...]

This week in kink: September 17, 2018

“Displaying Art" by Sir Render Original reference from Model Victoria Learn how to make consent sexy from Mistress Velvet Click here to read more “A Present” by Sir Render Original reference by petite There are so many differences between what 50 Shades perpetuates and what BDSM is really about Click here to … [Read more...]