How About A Little Personal Responsibility Here?

I am going to start this off by dispelling some rumors, and I am sure people may get upset with me, but oh well. So be it. We all came to like kink because we "Chose" to participate. I know, what a concept, right? I know you are all nodding your heads right now. Now, here is where I get myself into trouble. Whatever role you decided to be was a "Choice". Don't make me bold … [Read more...]

How To Kink Without BDSM

Hello everyone! I was recently inspired by my own M/s dynamic to write this article. For many of us in the lifestyle, it IS standard to practice BDSM. However, a lot of individuals think of kink as encompassing solely BDSM. When in reality, there are so many other ways “to kink.” Of course, BDSM is one way to participate in the lifestyle, but I think it’s important for … [Read more...]

This week in kink: September 17, 2018

“Displaying Art" by Sir Render Original reference from www.superbound.com Model Victoria Learn how to make consent sexy from Mistress Velvet Click here to read more “A Present” by Sir Render Original reference by petite deviant.tumblr.com There are so many differences between what 50 Shades perpetuates and what BDSM is really about Click here to … [Read more...]

This week in kink: September 10, 2018

Don't miss Back To School Camp: Submissive Edition event happening this Sept 15 1:30-5:30 at Lair de Sade! Classes, crafts, food, raffles, and more! https://BackToschoolSUB.eventbrite.com More info on the event page: https://fetlife.com/events/688206 Buy your tickets now! The Kink Community, like any other community, has its own language and its own … [Read more...]

Let’s Talk About Aftercare For The Dominant

Illustration by Dirk Hooper I’ve read about a million articles (only a slight exaggeration) on aftercare for the bottom or the submissive, but I’d like to propose a little aftercare for the Dominant or the Top too. Before I get started, this article in no way is meant to minimize the incredible importance of providing aftercare for the submissive. For a Dominant, … [Read more...]