Be Aware When Your Sub Spaces Hard

Photo by slave boy julia (sjstudio1.com) As a Dom, you’re looked at and expected to always be in control no matter what, and that you’re managing everything within a scene. It’s a lot of hard work as many will acknowledge. I know a couple of Sub’s, my FunUnicorn included, who after being allowed to top for a few hours/a night promptly gave that control straight back with … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair – Expectations, Rights, and Obligations – Part 1

As the new year approaches, most of us are thinking about the year gone by and looking forward to the future. It’s the perfect time to consider our New Year’s resolutions: How we’d like to improve ourselves and our relationships going forward. It’s the perfect time to consider what this D/s dynamic really means to us. Last month, we started with a discussion of “Intent” over … [Read more...]

A Deeper BDSM Experience Awaits You, Outside Your Comfort Zone

Illustration by Dirk Hooper I hear from people with very different problems, but all share the same solution. One guy is into FinDom, and deeply enjoys the interaction he gets online, but then feels a profound sense of loneliness afterward. He thinks he knows about BDSM, but, he’s only had a small taste of it. A woman has practiced professional domination, enjoys … [Read more...]

Why My Girl Isn’t Allowed To Say “No”

I am sure we have all heard the sweaty, uber-dom declare; "True submissives I play with don't have safe-words." and "My partner isn't allowed to say no to me." followed by a grin which could only be described as unfortunate. I would argue that such an attitude is at best pointless posturing and at worst an indicator of dangerous abuse. So let us explore these two points, the … [Read more...]

ADVANCED DOM/ME TIPS

This article is intended for those of you who have been a Dom/me for a while. (If you are a newbie, I have written an article for new Doms: http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-baadmaster/tips-new-dommes/ If you are interested in advanced D/s theory check out: http://www.kinkweekly.com/article-baadmaster/advanced-ds-theory/ ) Many of you have gotten to the “first plateau” in your … [Read more...]