Joining the Kink Community

Discovering the world of kink can be a fabulous and overwhelming experience. So where do you go? What do you do? This can be especially nerve wracking if you are coming in like I did - unpartnered and clueless. In my opinion Fetlife is the best way to find events in the scene. Most event coordinators will promote there whether or not they promote elsewhere. So the … [Read more...]

What is a Switch?

When someone tells you they identify as a Dominant or Master, submissive or slave - you have a pretty good idea what that means. But how about when someone tells you they're a switch? Well, it means you need to ask more questions. I often compare somebody that identifies as a switch to someone who identifies as bisexual. Now, before you get all upset, I understand that … [Read more...]

Raise Your Hand If You are a Sensualist

Not everyone is into pain (for pleasure). Not everyone who enjoys kink is into pain. A sensualist is not into pain. There are tens of thousands of sensualist dominants, sensualist submissives, sensualist slaves, and sensualist kinky players out in the wild who know what sensualism is about. Many of those thousands are entangled with the SM part of BDSM waters because it’s … [Read more...]

Cause of Triggers During Play

Triggers are things that should be acknowledged in a relationship and are one of the things we look at especially when we are going to play. This article can't cover all the specific triggers you may or may not have, however, it will cover what various things can cause a trigger. You can be triggered in a positive way as well - which is lovely and not in need of an article! … [Read more...]

Psychology of BDSM Players

When Fifty Shades of Grey came out it quickly became a book surrounded by controversy. To a majority of mainstream readers it was a titillating adventure filled with concepts that were foreign and sex that was taboo. To most of us in the BDSM world it was, at best, a trashy romance novel. However, there are some pros and cons to the book series and movie. What did they … [Read more...]