In The Kinky Closet

Yes Mistress! I am fortunate enough to know some truly wonderful dominatrices...AS FRIENDS!!! (Let us make that clear before you let your imagination run away with you.) I sometimes feel that these individuals represent a neglected field of outreach for our community, that of fantasy exploration. Many of us are lucky enough to be able to explore our kinks and fetishes with … [Read more...]

No Easter Bunny For Me

Like most people I started practicing rope in the bedroom long before I realized there was an active community. Trying my best to replicate what I had seen in porn or in photos. My long suffering partner at the time kindly sat through incompetent hours of practice. There were no terms for the two of us involved and certainly there were no names for the unrecognizable patterns … [Read more...]

Something Is Going to Go Wrong With Your Scene

Perhaps you will have noticed that the title of this piece does not contain the word “if”. In kink it is rare that something won't go wrong at some point, and given enough time something certainly will. This can be relatively minor, a flogger swing that goes too high, all the way to scaring someone with a poorly judged whip strike. Today I writing all about when it does go … [Read more...]

Learning From, And For, Our Bottoms

I'll have what she's having I like to order for my girl when we are out for dinner. This is not a new part of our dynamic, but it is one I am still developing. I started by recording her allergies and basic dislikes. That was enough to make sure I was not going to poison her or try to feed her something she would flatly refuse to eat, but it wouldn't let me do much more than … [Read more...]

Drop and Aftercare

The situation I want to discuss is often referred to as sub-drop. It can be very unsettling to have had a really good scene with someone, have a lovely chat with them afterwards, give each other a hug, only to find out that the next day they are feeling really low. Having had a lovely night, they are now feeling sad, even upset, often without being able to put their finger on … [Read more...]