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No Easter Bunny For Me

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Like most people I started practicing rope in the bedroom long before I realized there was an active community. Trying my best to replicate what I had seen in porn or in photos. My long suffering partner at the time kindly sat through incompetent hours of practice.

There were no terms for the two of us involved and certainly there were no names for the unrecognizable patterns I was tying. When I really became involved with rope I voraciously consumed private tutorials, classes and books. During this time I began to learn the language of rope. As I learnt the names for certain ties, cinches and patterns I also learnt that my partner was called a bunny and I was a rigger.

Without thought I started to use these terms, and for almost 10 years I continued to. I have referred to some of the most skilled and physically able people I have ever met as a bunny. I find it embarrassing to admit that I absorbed this term without thought for its meaning; it was just a defining word. I gave no consideration to strength of a label.

We are what we say we are

For years I happily went along absorbing information and regurgitating it without question. I uncritically parroted what I learnt with absolute confidence. But then something changed, it was a small thing and hard to identify at first, I found that the term bunny had began to sit uncomfortably with me.

Something itched in the back of my mind and would not settle. I found myself compelled to find the source of this discomfort. I turned to exploring the word itself and what weight it might carry.

Labeling theory argues that the description or classification of an individual directly influences the perception and self-identity of that same individual. Consider the words we use for the person who ties, Rigger, Rope Top, Nawashi, Teacher… All of these are strong, evocative words. And what term do we use for partners in all this? Bunny, a young rabbit, helpless, cute and weak.

These partners are tied, swung, suspended, risk injury, suffer the pain of our mistakes and look amazing while doing it. This was the source of my discomfort; I felt the name I had been taught to use to define my rope partner inherently placed them in a position of weakness.

I had ignored the incredible power in the naming of a role.

Now I should pause before I go further as I fear I may sound as if I am condemning people. I do not have any judgement to pass on anyone who uses the term affectionately or self-identifies with the term. I felt that I had made a mistake in not questioning why I chose to use it.

Hop off

Consider the impact of saying; the person who does this thing is a bunny. As a community when we introduce a classifying term it forms the basis of our perception of that role. If we ascribe all our terms of respect to only one individual in a partnership without regard to the nuances of that relationship what impression does that give? We fix the power dynamic without regard to the people involved.

Our willingness to allow such infantilising terms to be used is symptomatic of a lack of thought regarding the effect we have on those we work with. If we absorb and repeat without thought then we only perpetuate.

There is of course a secondary aspect of this which is when we say; you are a bunny. In this case we place an identity on a person, placing a value on them. There is no agency granted to this individual even if they rebel against the word because it has become an accepted identifying term used by the community they have entered into.

Welcome to the real world

“The fact of the matter is that the ‘real world’ is to a large extent unconsciously built up on the language habits of the group” (Sapir, 1929).

As a group we have developed a habit betrayed in our use of words. The one doing the tying is portrayed as the one in control, the powerful one and is granted equally powerful terms, while the one tied is relegated to a weaker, supportive role.

To define someone with a powerless term is to rob them of the authority and respect they deserve. To use the term in ignorance is the fault of the community, I think we need to challenge ourselves to think about why we use it and if we still want to.

Model behavior

I don’t have a perfect solution to what I perceive as a problem. I hate to present an issue without a solution, so instead I can only offer what I have found sits comfortably with me.

Rather than refer to those I tie with as bunnies I refer to them as models. As anyone who does modelling will tell you, it is not easy. It is hard work that requires skill.

Clothes, like rope, are lifeless. Throw rope onto a floor and it does nothing, tie rope about a mannequin and it has no passion. It is our model who brings life to our work, gives energy to our rope.

We tie the same ties with different people because of the uniqueness of what they add. If all the beauty of rope came from the ties and the rigger then we could achieve nothing new with different people.

Respect your partners in word and action. I have found the way that works for me, find what works for you. The first step is simply thinking, thinking about what words mean, why you use them and the impact they have.

About the Author
Will Hunt has been involved in the UK kink scene for the last 10 years; running clubs, teaching workshops, performing and generally encouraging naughty behavior wherever possible.
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Wedding Present-Part 2

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Jason lay back on the couch, nude from the waist down, his half-hard cock still dribbling the tiniest traces of his cum on his leg as he watched Jessica sashay into the bedroom. As the door closed, he turned to look back to Phil, who was still bound to the chair, naked except for his restraints and the cock cage which contained his diminutive manhood. A ring gag pried Phil’s jaws apart, and Phil was actively trying to swallow down Jason’s cum which Jessica had spit into his mouth.

“You know man, this is a lot to process,” Jason said to his friend as he sat up, unbuttoning his shirt so that he was now fully nude. “We’ve been friends forever. I never thought I’d be the one cuckolding you.” Jason paused, lowering his voice enough that Jessica wouldn’t hear it from the other room. “You’re ok with this? You want me to fuck her?”

Phil nodded vigorously, and Jason saw that Phil’s constrained cock twitched with excitement.

“Well, if you’re sure, I’m not going to say no. I’ve wanted inside her pants since I met her.”

“I know you have,” a sultry voice said from the doorway to the bedroom. “And now you’re going to get your chance.” Jessica stood there wearing a black leather underbust corset that pressed her ample breasts up, high and proud on her chest. Each breast was full and lush, well more than a handful for Jason. She had silver dollar-sized areolae and nipples that were as thick as Jason’s pinkie finger, the light brown color in stark contrast to her pale skin. There was a lower part to the corset, but the gusset of the attached panty was open, revealing a thick auburn colored bush that did nothing to hide her thick outer labia.

Jessica’s legs were covered in fishnet thigh-high stockings which led to a pair of high-heeled short boots that strapped to her feet. She wore black elbow-length gloves that gleamed with a satiny sheen, and in her left hand she held a leather flogger.

“Are  you ready to serve your Mistress, worm?” Jessica asked as her normally kind smile curled into a wicked looking snarl. She slapped her right palm with the flogger, a loud “smack” echoing across the apartment.

Phil nodded his assent and submission, but something in Jason rebelled at the thought. He wanted this woman, desperately. And since Phil seemed to be ok with it, he fully intended to have her. But being submissive wasn’t in his nature.

“I don’t think so,” he said as he stood. With a few long strides he crossed the room and grabbed Jessica by the wrist holding the flogger. “He may be fine with being your little sissy cuckold, but I’m not that kind of man.”

Jessica opened her mouth to protest, but before she could speak, Jason had his other hand across her mouth.

“Listen, slut,” she flinched at the term, but didn’t otherwise react, “You brought me here for a reason. You wanted to be fucked hard by a man, not by your little sissy over there. You wanted him to watch. And that’s fine. I’m here for that. But you don’t get to treat me the same way you treat him. You may not admit it, but you want someone to control you the same way that you use him.”

He released the wrist holding the flogger and reached out to gently massage Jessica’s left tit, his fingers gliding across the fleshy globe until her nipples were hard as rock, the skin of the areolae puckering up. He then pinched her nipple hard between thumb and forefinger, pulling gently until it was stretched out.

Jason paused before continuing. “Now, I’m going to remove my hand. When I do, there are two possible outcomes. The first, you drop to your knees, and beg to suck your Master’s cock again before he fucks your slut cunt. If you do or say anything else? I get dressed and walk out that door, leaving you to try to get satisfaction from his wimpy little dick. If you understand, nod yes.”

There were the beginnings of tears in Jessica’s eyes as they widened, in fear or excitement Jason couldn’t quite tell, but she nodded yes, the thick mane of her red hair waving in the air, her ample bosom bobbing, sending delicious looking jiggles through her mammary flesh.

His hand came away from Jessica’s mouth, but Jason’s dark brown eyes stayed locked on Jessica’s blue ones. He stared at her as he waited for her reaction. With some reluctance, Jessica sank to her knees, keeping her eyes on Jason.

“May this slut suck on her Master’s cock?” Jessica licked her lips as her hands came to rest on Jason’s thighs. “Please, Master? May this slut use her hot, wet mouth on your gorgeous cock? May she make you hard and ready to fuck her slut cunt?”

Jason smiled as he felt a rush of blood start to make his manhood swell again. She improvised the lines a little, but she made up in enthusiasm what she failed in discipline.

“She may,” he said with a smile.

As Jessica’s red lips engulfed his cock, Jason looked over at Phil, taking in the naked look of lust that was in his friend’s eyes. The two of them may have enjoyed having Jessica dominate Phil, but apparently they enjoyed seeing Jessica controlled by someone else just as much. Well, he was certainly able to accommodate that desire. While also accommodating his own. After allowing her tongue to do a few delicious things that reminded him of the earlier blowjob, he was back to his full hardness. He reached down and hooked his hands under her arms, pulling Jessica to her feet.

Once she was on her feet, Jessica leaned in, and for the first time, Jason’s lips met hers. Her mouth was hot against his, and her lips parted, allowing his tongue to invade her mouth and claim it as his property. He could taste himself on her breath, and that made him harder than ever. His hand dipped between her thighs, feeling her heat and arousal. His finger grazed past her nether lips, the fingertip bumping her clit, and causing her to moan into his mouth.

He normally preferred a little more foreplay, and he desperately wanted to taste her – to experience the ambrosia of her cunt, to suckle from her full breasts. But the way Jessica’s body pressed against him, and the way her pussy pulled at his finger, begging it to slip inside of her, he could tell that she wanted to be fucked… now.

“Turn around,” he said authoritatively. He pushed her forward towards her bound fiance until she was standing directly in front of Phil. Gently he pressed on her shoulders so she bent forward, breasts swaying seductively in front of Phil’s face. She put her hands on Phil’s shoulders to steady herself as Jason pressed her thighs apart. He stroked his cock between her partially spread open pussy, coating it in the thick fluid that flowed from her womanhood.

“Can you feel how hard I am? How ready I am for you?”

“Yes… Master,” she whispered huskily while looking right into Phil’s eyes.

“Tell him. Tell him what you want.”

“I… want him to fuck me,” Jessica said quietly. “I want that cock. Thick and hard. Pounding into me. Fucking me. Filling me. Claiming me. My engaged pussy, that should be yours and only yours, I want it to be defiled by him. Taken by him. Fucked by him. Overflowing with his cum. I want it to make me cum as you never could. And I want you to watch.”

Phil let out a frustrated and aroused groan. He had never seen Jessica more turned on. And he had never wanted to see her fulfilled more. He nodded an assent to a question she hadn’t asked. He wanted all of that as much as she did.

“Please, Master…” Jessica said, turning her head to look at Jason over her shoulder. “Please fuck me. I’m begging you.”

Jason pushed forward, feeling her snug pussy open up to allow him in, his thickness filling her as she hadn’t been filled in months. Jessica moaned in pleasure that was just slightly tinged with pain as her pussy was stretched. Jason held himself still as he bottomed out in her, his pubic hair pressed tight against her gorgeous ass.

“And now? Now, slut, you’re going to get fucked as you never have before,” Jason said with a wicked grin.

About the Author

Broken Unicorn has been a writer since he was a child, starting off writing decidedly non-erotic stories about superheroes. As he got older, he started writing erotica about superheroes, before eventually discovering his kinky side and writing about people who could live in the real world. He lives in the midwest, and is happy to live in a very full house that includes four humans and two dogs. He can be found under the profile Broken_Unicorn https://fetlife.com/users/8765084

There Is No Bad Blowjob

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Every person who takes the liberty of going down on a someone thinks that their technique needs no work. That the receiver, should be grateful that someone even went down on them. All of this is true but there’s even more. Let’s review what can be done to enhance your blowjob experience no matter your role.

So let’s dive in:

FACT

Blowjobs are a lot a work but can still be fun.

FACT

Going down on your someone is still illegal in over 10 states, so treasure your secret sexytime.

FACT

Not all blowjobs were created equal, sorry.

Now for the fun stuff. Basically a blowjob consist of two main techniques (both of which can be built upon), the suck-swallow and the deep throat. The suck-swallow is the easier of the two and the standard go-to but just because it’s easier you shouldn’t be giving anyone a yawn fest.

Remember these simple things when going down on someone:

Givers…

Breathe!

Since your mouth will be full during this activity remember to breathe through your nose. It’ll help you from gagging and needing to take frequent stops

Use Your Hands

Don’t just hang your hands at your side during a BJ, use those extra tools to help stimulate naughty bits in all the right places. But remember don’t grab dangling parts too hard (unless their into that). I try to stick to a “rolling” motion as if I were rolling out small balls of dough.

Pay Them Lip Service

It is a blowjob but don’t forget to use those lips of yours for sucking, nibbling, and of course any tongue action you can provide. This will help keep the receiver going while you give your jaw a break. Sometimes I just like looking down at the giver’s open, gap mouth.

Get Comfy

Make sure you’re in a position that gives you complete access to everything you want to touch without losing your balance. Being on your knees can be a drag after a while so perhaps put a pillow under them for comfort.

Be Creative

Blowjobs are wonderful on their own…but if you want to give someone something they’ll be sure to remember you can try different things to enhance the experience. Ice cubes, humming with them in your mouth, an Altoid. Try different things and see what you both like.

For the people that want to attempt deep throating, beware: Not all blowjobs are created equal. Meaning, not all people have the same ability (or desire!) to deep throat. The main technique of taking a cock deep is to suppress your gag reflex. If you’re unable to do this you will suck, but not literally…literally you will gag. So be prepared for this whole you practice. If you really insist on learning you can practice on a banana (don’t be upset if you don’t get it right away nor if you’re just unable to do it) or you can cheat with this trick: while going as deep as you can on phallic objects, use your hand on the shaft to simulate an extended mouth. They probably won’t even notice as pure bliss washes over them.

And receivers, don’t think you got off so easy. If you want a blowjob don’t make it difficult for blowjob givers. Sometimes you are your own demises. Be courteous and follow these tips:

Receivers…

Don’t Hold Anyone’s Head

We are going as deep as we want to. Any head pushing makes you look like an ass, unless of course the giver places your hand on the back of their head, then gently push deeper. If you feel resistance, let up.

Groom, Groom, Groom

Tame the jungle that is your pubic hair. I hate swallowing a “furball” as I’m enjoying giving a good BJ. It can t givers her off or worse cause us to instinctively chew to get it out. Ouch!

Be Squeaky Clean

I shouldn’t need to point this out, but after seeing guy after guy forget this important rule…WASH YOUR COCK! If it smells funny, is sticky, or extra dry looking…I’m probably going to head in the other direction (no pun intended). Oh, and don’t forget under those balls! Not using a bio cock? Still clean it. If I’m feeling nice I put a flavored lube on it.

Announce Your Arrival

Never cum in a anyone’s mouth without asking her. Period. I know you all get caught up in the moment but when you feel yourself getting close just say so. This isn’t a porn. Also, it’ll let the givers have the option of pulling away or taking it. Either act deserves gratitude.

Now everyone, go out and have fun sucking someone off.

And for the ultra considerate ones, here’s a recipe of my own that even you’re sure to love, to give you that extra sweet taste:

d20domme’s Super Spunk Smoothie (Take for at least 5 days straight)

1 cup pineapple, fresh or canned

1 banana, frozen

1 cup apple juice

1/2 tsp ginger

1/2 tsp cinnamon

1/4 tsp nutmeg

1/2 tsp vanilla extract

2 Tbsp honey

Optional ingredients: 1 raw egg white, 2 Tbsp wheat germ, 2 Tbsp flax seed, 1 shot wheatgrass juice

Blend all ingredients in a blender until smooth

Drink immediately.

Repeat daily for best results.

Takes about one week to go into effect.

About the Author

d20domme is unapologetically kinky after over 10 years in the community. She is known as pint-height, poly(androus), plus-size, POC, 24/7 Femdom who knows what she wants and will use her craft in mindfuckery and persuasive viper tongue to get it. Her main kink is normalizing kinky lifestyles across the board and thus she can often be found writing on her blog From Mundane To Mistress, chatting away on podcasts, teaching classes, demos, or presenting locally in the Washington, DC area, New York, and sometimes across the pond in Europe.

Ask Baadmaster- On Poly

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Here is a submitted question that really is in my wheelhouse. I have tried poly over the years with varying degrees of success.  From it all going PERFECTLY to having one of the subs throw – and break – a chair at the Rio Hotel in Las Vegas. So let’s try to help out this slave!

Reader: I’m a fulfilled alpha slave, but I worry about my beloved sister slaves. They say they’re happy, but it’s hard for me to believe when my needs come first. Is Poly really possible?

There are actually two questions within your question. The first, regarding your sister slaves’ happiness, is a personal question about the dynamics within your relationship.  The second, “Is Poly really possible?” is a broadband, ultra-mega-huge eternal type question — much like “What is true love?”  Because I like tilting at windmills, I will attempt to answer your second question first.

Is polyamory really possible? In the short term, the answer is yes.  The excitement of a new poly relationship is much like the “honeymoon” period of any relationship. And it works for a while. As to long-term polyamory, that is a bit more problematical. BDSM relationships between two people are notoriously short-lived. When you add a third human being into the D/s mix, you are just complexifying (my word) an already hard-to-maintain relationship. I am living testament to this sad truth; I personally have gone oh-for-three in long-term triads, the longest being three years.  (Of course there are many long-term – over five years as a standard– wonderful poly relationships. But these are the exceptions, not the rule.)

Now why is polyamory so difficult?  In a poly relationship with an alpha and a beta slave, someone is voluntarily accepting being lower on the totem pole.  This is so unnatural that even you find it “hard to believe” (your own words) that someone would accept having their needs be a secondary – or even lower – priority.  The concept of “I live for my Master and will serve him as his beta, gamma or zeta slave” works fine in theory – or online! But this is a hard mental space to maintain in real time. Most people, in any type of relationship from fetish to vanilla, like to be ‘numero uno’ with respect to their significant other.  

Unlearning ego, jealousy and possessiveness, which a beta slave must do, is extremely difficult. But although it is difficult, it is not impossible. In order to override this natural need, the beta slave must ultimately embrace — whether through training or other means — his/her secondary status. So, in your case, the fact that the beta (or betas?) does not mind putting his/her needs second to yours is a sign that your poly relationship is working. Consider yourself lucky. Don’t jinx yourself by worrying about it.  

I might add, that in the poly world the most popular arrangement seems to be an alpha-beta hierarchy for the submissives. But there are other polyamory systems.  The alpha-alpha structure of two equal slaves is another way of setting up poly. Personally, I believe that an “alpha-alpha” system is easier to maintain for the Dominant. If the Dominant can divide his/her attentions somewhat evenly, resentment can be eliminated as a divisive issue. After all, there is no “beta slave” who, by definition, gets less attention.  I think this is less adversative to human nature than alpha-beta. But this is just a guess. We are dealing with human relationships here, not science. And many other systems keep popping up as people experiment in ways to make poly work.

As much as I love poly, I truly believe it is antithetical to basic human nature. It requires work to overcome this hurdle. A lot of work. If, in your case, your Master/Mistress has accomplished the formidable task of finding/training a beta slave who is totally happy serving in this capacity, go with the flow. Obviously, your needs include being number one; but don’t assume that the beta has the same mindset that you do. But your question should also serve to keep you vigilant. There might come a time that the beta wants to climb up the slave ladder. Or he/she says, “Get your own fucking cup of coffee!”  This is when triads start to unravel. And this is when your question, “Is poly possible?” will be answered, for real, by you and your poly family.

I would suggest that you enjoy it for as long as it lasts!

About the Author
After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.

This week in kink news: May 27, 2019

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Don’t miss this article on Blueberry Porn

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The Pup Play Community is thriving in SF

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This month I figured since it happens already, why not “Disney in the Dungeon”! Of course it’s not mandatory but if you sing a Disney song we will encourage it and clap loudly and most likely sing right along with you! 🙂  

Come SING on STAGE!

Come SING along from the TABLES!!

Come BEAT some BOOTY while friends sing to the BEAT of their favorite song!

Have a drink with FRIENDS and get SILLY!

That’s right….KARAOKE NIGHT AT THE DUNGEON!! Jenn / lostnfound1 is excited to host a one of a kind play party!

Fantastic professional Karaoke DJ will be in the house!!

Special performances of “The Singing Masochist”!

This is a great fun night for anyone – but also a wonderful opportunity to bring friends who have been scared to walk inside a dungeon. Karaoke spans across the kink and vanilla divide!!!

So whether you love karaoke, want an excuse to get out and play or want to have a great night doing BOTH – this party should be a BLAST!!

COST: $20 at the door plus whatever you spend at the bar.

Where: Sanctuary LAX 10914 S. La Cienega Blvd, Lennox, CA 90304

What time: 9pm – 2am!

Food and snacks will be provided but feel free to bring stuff to share if you’d like!

There will be a cash bar for those that are 21+ – yet I remind you to drink and play responsibly! If you get sloshed you may very well be asked to get a ride home.
This will be a regular OPEN PLAY PARTY – which means it will have less restrictions than Club Awakening. Edge play is allowed as long as you get the ok from a DM. No bodily fluid exchange (aka no genital/genital or oral/genital contact) and no penetration.

About the venue:

Sanctuary Studios LAX is proud to have been named “Best Dungeon in Los Angeles” by TimeOut Magazine – February 2016

Sanctuary LAX is a Los Angeles dungeon located within close proximity to LAX. It features a state of the art, air-conditioned facility completely rebuilt from the ground up under the direction of Mistress Cyan. Formerly known as Passive Arts, Sanctuary Studios LAX is the largest Dungeon in Los Angeles with more than 7000 sq ft. and a 1500 sq. ft. main room. The location features many rooms (both large and more intimate), high ceilings, and a large variety of dungeon furniture. It is complete with an outdoor smoking patio and a stage in the main room with plenty of seating.

Facebook event page: https://www.facebook.com/events/250433512531976/

Fetlife Kinky Karaoke Play Party Group page: https://fetlife.com/groups/158264

Fetlife event page: https://fetlife.com/events/772028

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Water & Wolves (Culpation League: Anger Issues)

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“Take her down to the water room. Put her in the cage and leave her be.”

“Yes, House Master,” the lead guard said.

To the elevator and down to the basement level. It seemed familiar to her but she didn’t know why. To the end of the block, left turn, left turn, and into the second door on the left. Numerous cameras were hung on the walls, none of them turned on yet. There were two short cages against the wall by the door, both empty. Her robe was taken off and she was pushed toward the first cage. She had to go to her knees to crawl inside but could sit upright on her butt once inside. The door clanged shut at once and he snapped the padlock closed.

She was left alone to look around and wonder. Near the wall to her right were three tall water tanks. Round and transparent, with stairs up to a platform and ladders to the top of each. She could see water dripping in several places. Someone had recently been up there…in there?…and splashed outside of a tank.

There was a door in the back wall. She felt she should know what was on the other side of it. So much about this room was familiar. She surmised she had been here before and didn’t remember, like she didn’t remember the person the House Master had asked her about.

A cushioned bench stood near the back left corner. Two padded surfaces, likely one for kneeling and the other for bending. Clear plastic cuffs were hanging from loops on the wall. Next to the bench was a coil of hose on a big hook. Bigger than garden hose, smaller than fire hose, with a large nozzle.

What had she done in the shower that they were going to do to her here? Apparently she didn’t remember much of her shower. She’d pinned her hair up. She’d washed. She got out and dried herself. She couldn’t think of anything remarkable.

The door opened, an unfamiliar face coming in to stand in front of the cage and look down at her.

“You going to cooperate or you gonna fight?” he asked.

“Fuck if I know. I don’t know what you’re intending to do.”

He laughed and popped the lock open to let her out. A wave of his fingers, casual and nonthreatening, beckoned her forward. He let her walk on the rough cement floor but guided her with his hands to lean over the bench. He put her hands against the wall.

“Leave your hands there or I will strap you to the wall,” he told her.

Bending over, he moved her left foot to where he wanted it and bound her lower calf to the leg of the bench. Then the other and she was held wide open.

With one hand, he lifted the entire coil of hose off its hook and laid it on the floor. Water turned on, he aimed away from her to test the water and the nozzle. He turned a dial on the wall, tested it on his hand for several seconds. Adjusting the nozzle, he brought it to a moderately strong sprinkler-type setting.

Water over her lower back was warm and soothing. Within a moment, it was spraying directly between her buttocks to patter against her anus in a sensation that stole her breath. She found it pleasurable and relaxing. Her eyes closed and she rested her head on her upper arm to enjoy it fully. Farther down, to spray over her open puss in a gentle rain, then back up, stimulating her continually.

The water fell away and a click echoed around the room. The water pelted onto the floor with more force, the stream concentrated. It landed on her anus so suddenly that she cried out a shocked sound and smacked her palm against the tile of the wall. She balled her fist to hit with the fleshy outer end instead, not wanting to hurt her hand.

Aimed at the flesh of her buttock rather than directly on the hole, then the other side, and then the middle, her arousal surged until she groaned.

The angle changed. The water shot upward into her spread vagina, into the hole made vulnerable by the ankle shackles. She grunted with it, gasping and pressing her hands harder against the wall to remain standing. When the water found her clitoris, her muscles clenched in an orgasm until it moved away.

The strong stream began to move from one to the other in no discernable pattern and he gave her both quick and prolonged clitoral orgasms.

During a relentless, extended clitoral orgasm, she shouted “Please stop!”

The water aimed away from her.

“Why should I stop, prisoner? You certainly like it enough,” he said.

“My legs are tired. They feel like they’re shaking too hard and I’m going to fall.”

The water turned off. She heard boots thumping on the concrete floor and two sets of hands worked to open the ankle shackles while a warm body fitting tightly against her back. Arms around her chest held her securely while stepping backwards. As she had said, the second weight was on her feet again, her legs buckled. Another pair of hands lifted them and she was placed on a dry, padded surface. A gurney.

She was wheeled out of the room and into another and moved onto a larger bed surface. Four men were already waiting, each wearing a black mask decorated differently with embroidery. All were wolves, but one was grey and white on the black. Another was black on black with dark gray accents. Another was all white on the black.

One came onto the bed with her at once, rolled her onto her side, and took her from behind. She was more than ready, the water having aroused her to complete compliance. She was near the side of the bed and a cock was put into her mouth. She sucked deeply and vigorously enough that he didn’t try to pump his hips into her face.

The man behind finished and left the bed, the one replacing him, turning her onto her back. He bit her breasts with a wide grip of teeth, hard enough to make her yelp and cry out but not hard enough to break the skin. Using his thighs, he pushed her farther up toward the head of the bed, until her head hung off it. At once, a cock went into her mouth and down her throat. Hands pulled her arms outward, making her grip more cocks while the one biting her finally impaled her anus. Hands held her ankles to pull her legs open wide for him.

However long it took, she was lost to time through her own bliss. She came hard, fingers now and then slapping or stroking her clitoris. Fingers pinched her nipples and smacked her breasts or her face. The cock down her throat pulsed hard and pulled out to spurt warm goo onto her chest. The two on the sides quickly followed. Last, the one in her anus stripped out to squirt onto her belly.

The room emptied. She opened her eyes as one man toweled her off.

“Is that it?” she asked. “I’m not done.”

About the Author

TylerRose. is known as Dame Tyler in the NYC public SM/Fetish scene. She is an award-winning author who has written two “lifestyle”, four cartoon, and twenty fiction books that you can find on Amazon. https://www.amazon.com/TylerRose./e/B00HCPLSP2. (USA site. For others, search your country’s site for B00HCPLSP2 )

Culpation League: Anger Issues can be found here: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B079SXVPHK
(For others, search your country’s Amazon site for B079SXVPHK )

You can find more of her work in Fetlife: https://fetlife.com/users/305828

She enjoys crocheting and baking, and will no doubt die with a thesaurus open on her thigh.

Communication 101: Be Honest With Yourself

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Communication is a tricky beast.  You can’t communicate your feelings with someone else if you haven’t taken the time to process them and be honest with yourself.

I say again for the people in the back:  you can’t be honest with a partner or partners if you lie to yourself.

We have strange relationships with feelings in our society.  We like to believe some feelings are bad, and that we need to stop having them.  The truth is, feelings are just that:  feelings.  They aren’t right or wrong, they just are.  By giving ourselves permission to have feelings rather than trying to stamp them down, we leave room to explore the roots of those feelings and work towards emotions we find more pleasurable.

This is where the honesty with self comes in.

Let’s take a look at jealousy.

We tend to look at jealousy as a negative emotion.  People get a little uppity when they talk about it:  well, I’m not a jealous person.  The thing we forget is that jealousy can help us.  It is much like a weather vane before a storm.  It can tell us that some need isn’t being met.  Sometimes that need is emotional security.  Sometimes it is a need unrelated to the relationship in question, such as a need for more general positive attention, perhaps at work, or a need for more balance at home if there is a great deal of unrest or turmoil.  Being able to recognize and explore the root of jealousy when it occurs can help us find better solutions to create relief.

I hate to go there, but when looking at this next negative emotion, sadness, the movie Inside Out is actually pretty great.  Sadness can help motivate us, and help bond us with our friends, partners, and chosen family.  Taking the time to explore the reasons we are sad, such as fear of loss, can help point us in other directions for healing.  Anxiety can have similar function.  I was able to explore my own anxieties to uncover fear of abandonment.  Although working through that fear has been a painful process rather than a quick, easy fix, finding and soothing some of those old wounds has ultimately improved my overall happiness and satisfaction.

The first thing we need to do when faced with a negative emotion is stop and remind ourselves it is okay to have those feelings, though we don’t want to bathe in them and exacerbate the problem.

Once we have taken a moment, a breath, we can ask ourselves why we think we are feeling those things.  While understanding the surface cause is important, since that sparked the emotion, it is also important to dig a little deeper.

Without taking the time to truly understand ourselves, there is absolutely no way to communicate what we need to a partner.

I have used the example of the Marvel movies before as one of the few rules in our relationship.  Early on, my Daddy and I couldn’t schedule time to go see Thor:  The Dark World with each other.  He made plans to go with friends opening night.  Afterwards, I realized how much it meant to me that we take that time and go see those movies together.  It wasn’t instantaneous, though.  I didn’t just realize I was experiencing jealousy the moment he arrived home.  It came in stages, as the preview came on while we were sitting together over the next couple of weeks.  Once I finally realized it was bothering me, I had to understand why.  It was something I saw as special that related back to childhood things that I needed to acknowledge as part of my foundation.  Once I understood myself, I was able to sit down with him and express those feelings in a way that made me feel heard without coming across as hurtful or blaming.

But that’s another story!

Until then, the next time you find yourself struggling with negative emotions, remember to stop, take a moment to reflect, and if necessary, let your partner or partners know that while you have some things to share, you need to spend some time processing where your emotions are coming from.

And good luck!

About the Author

Christmas bunny has been exploring kink since she was legal to do so.  Her serious writing started in college, where she accidently got some of her papers published in educational journals.  She has recently expanded her writing to include her kink journey.  She began writing in the physical realm, but shed some of her inhibitions and began sharing those entries with others.  She now keeps an active blog of her personal growth and her relationship with her Master / Daddy Dominant and writes helpful educational posts on a variety of subjects.

Rika’s Lair – The “Gamification” of Submission

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I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box above for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly! This month, I wanted to share some ideas I originally introduced in my second book, “Uniquely Us” regarding a trend that I’ve seen in our culture. It’s a phenomenon that plays in our everyday life, and it’s having an impact in the way people are viewing their D/s dynamics…perhaps in a way that undermines the long-term success of our relationships.

In our online experiences, we live in a world of advertising-based compensation, where the experience is free for the visitor and advertisers pay the way, in exchange for being able to post their marketing information where you’ll see it. This is the old TV methodology, which has been reborn (after a temporary death due to cable TV) in the digital world and is prevalent in online gaming, intranet-based businesses, and online sites, like KinkWeekly and FetLife. This has created the need for new techniques, designed to assure visitors continue to return to the site, where they can be repeatedly exposed to the advertisements. The industry term is “Attract and Retain“.

One of the trending techniques, is called “Gamification“. It’s the introduction of game-related artifacts (e.g., badges, rewards, goals, “likes”, etc.) into a situation that isn’t really a game. The goal of gamification is to make a “challenge” out of an experience; with small, achievable, usually free, measurements and rewards, designed to provide the feeling of success that encourages people to stay with the program. The advertisers recognize that people tend to have short little spans of attention that require short-termed successes in order make them desire to return. Games fit the bill.

It started to dawn on me that there are a lot of folks seeking to “Gamify” power dynamics. As an observation and not a generality, I’ve noticed that this tendency seems to be more prevalent in the men I meet. I’ve seen a lot of discussion of “Point systems”, “Goals”, “Rewards”, “Consequences”, etc. – The belief is that you will obtain better submission by offering artificial, obtainable, objectives into play, to encourage a submissive to raise their level (or “Level-Up”). They can amass “points” and eventually exchange them for something desirable.

Here’s the issue: Gamification plays to the sub-centric mind and encourages sub-centricity – since obtaining objectives and short-termed wins is all about the player. These objectives shift the sub’s focus from the long-term, practical objective of serving one’s partner, onto the immediate, tangible, short-termed measurements of the game. In short, the objective becomes about “achieving” rather than “providing”. It is very easy for a sub to lose sight of the ultimate objective of their submission – the pleasure obtained by providing the best possible service they can to their chosen dominant – as they turn their attention to “beating the game” and earning rewards for themselves.

I’ve started to realize that the major objective of my approach to D/s; that of dominant-centric submission; deliberately avoids the gamification of power dynamics. The focus of my methodology is on providing for the dominant. As you already know if you’ve read my previous articles or my books, I don’t use rewards or punishments, but rather put the emphasis on communication and expectation. I push away the notion of empirical measurement and encourage the practices of dominant-centered assessment and feedback, where the measurement of success for the submissive is purely the subjective opinion of the dominant. The dominant’s generosity drives reward (gifts/treats), as subs cannot “earn” them by achieving specific goals. My approach is about improvement of service over the long-haul, not short-term gain. It’s about evolving into the best submissive for a unique

dominant, rather than achieving a set of goals / thresholds. Gamification works against those dominant-centric tenets. It distracts a submissive in a way that is decidedly sub-centric. I advise against it.

I’ve had to consider this position carefully…because gamification is a highly successful, proven technique. There is no denying the effectiveness of stimulating dopamine, the body’s neurotransmitter most commonly associated with the brain’s pleasure and reward system (in some games, you earn points that are actually called, ‘Dopamine Packs’). We feel good when we achieve. Whether we are products of our environment, or simply vulnerable to the “immediate gratification mentality”, people respond very well to games (and again, as an observation, more men than women). However, the downside is that playing games makes the benefit to the dominant a secondary consideration, and dilutes the imbalance of power within the dynamic.

Some people feel that, “If it works, do it” …and that’s fine, but I fear there is a cost. Is a person who plays the game and achieves within the reward system, REALLY engaged? Is their submission based in reality or just artificially, within the scope of the game? Will they eventually bore of the game or move on to another one? As a dominant, do you have to keep raising the stakes to maintain the submissive’s interest? What about the quality of their submission; is the highest quality of service obtained when it is intended to serve the preferences of the dominant, or when it is self-serving?

From my perspective the answer to these questions are straight forward. I don’t want to be served as part of a game, I want to be served as part of our reality. Being a game-keeper is more work for me, which is certainly not desirable. Plus, I refuse to have to play within the rules of a game to be a dominant.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on all of this. Respond in the comments below, or write to me at Ms_Rika@hotmail.com…or do both! I look forward to hearing from you.

– Rika.

Ms. Rika is a lifestyle dominant, educator, and author; living in the suburbs of NYC with her husband/slave. She has written several popular books on her approach to adding Dominant-Centric, Service-Oriented D/s to relationships. You can find her books (in both print and eBook formats) at Lulu.com (http://www.lulu.com/spotlight/msrika), or at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, the iStore, Books-A- Million, Kobo.com, or anywhere books are sold. Search for “Ms. Rika”.

This week in kink news: May 20, 2019

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