Archives for October 2019

Buy your tickets for RoseThorn High!! Nov 3 11-4 at Sanctuary LAX!

Discounted tickets are on sale now for the one day educational event, RoseThorn High, at Sanctuary LAX! This is the high school you wish you went to! Presented by the Kink Ladies   … [Read more...]

This week in kink news: October 21, 2019

Check out this informative article about what being a pro submissive is really like Learn why a Dominatrix can be just as healing as a therapist Don't miss San … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair-One Sided Negotiations

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  This week, I’d like to share a little fun I have on those occasions when I feel like playing with power dynamics in scenes. These … [Read more...]

I Will Make You Safeword!

This one is going to be short, not so sweet, and directly to the point. "I will make you use your safe word.” I saw this said in an erroneous supposition that this is how a top learns a bottom’s signals. If a top said this to me, I would look them in the eye and say "Then you will not ever touch me", and I would walk away. Remember a couple months back when I wrote that … [Read more...]

Keeping Score

I was talking to a friend the other day about relationships (no surprise).  I brought up my feelings about keeping score and my friend wanted me to clarify. My example:  "well you did _______ so I can do _______".  Or "I did _________ and you don't ever do things like that for me." I see that sort of thing a lot.  I don't even think some people realize they do it. My ex … [Read more...]