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Home » Chastity for Everyone! Part One

Chastity for Everyone! Part One

August 15, 2016 By Baadmaster 4 Comments

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In this brave new Internet world of changing orientations, our old pre-conceptions of what is Dom/me and sub must be re-examined. Lately, with the popular “dominance” of Pro Dommes in our social media, we must take a look at the reasons for their ascendance. And, as with so many social trends, it is fueled in large measure by sex.

Yes, we know that sex per-se is often not on the Pro Domme’s menu. But sex, even in its absence, like the 300 pound gorilla in the room, is still something you cannot ignore. Even with the lack of sexual penetration, a Domme’s arsenal is one that is a “sexual magnifier.” And chastity play is one area where the term “sexual magnifier” is spot on.

Here, in Part I, we examine classic Dom/me/sub chastity play and see why it is becoming more and more popular in the BDSM world. But if it is such a great “sexual magnifier,” why can’t Dom/mes partake in this activity? Next week, in “Chastity For Everyone, Part II”, we will attempt to show how even the Toppiest of Tops can participate. Controversial? That will be for you to decide. But enough hype for next week’s article. For now, let’s examine chastity play in general.

There is a certain elemental beauty to chastity play in a Dom/sub setting. In BDSM play, it is the negotiated power imbalance that gives the scene much of its thrill. Whether it is ceding to the Dom/me power to lightly spank the submissive, or consenting to him/her brandishing a bullwhip, the rush can be incredible. But, when it comes to the power exchange, it can be argued that letting the Dom/me completely control a submissive’s sexuality is the ultimate in Dominance and submission!

Orgasm control has a great history in sexual literature. Eastern spiritual-based teachers of Tantric yoga incorporate orgasm control into their regimens. There is no doubt that holding off on climax can increase its power and intensity when it finally occurs. (“Abstinence makes the heart grow fonder!”) Using a strict definition, many would not consider orgasm control to be chastity play. This might be true; after all, in this type of play you are typically chaste only until the next orgasm – which might only be for a few minutes. But why quibble over time? As I see it, whether you delay release for a minute or a month, you are engaging in chastity play.

Much like the range in all BDSM scenes, chastity play comes in a great variety of flavors. The most common type is the ritual wherein the submissive must ask the Dominant for permission to climax. “May I cum, Sir/Ma’am?” is the usual request a sub must make in this style of play. Usually, this is incorporated within another scene. For example, the Dom/me might delay giving permission to cum during sex play. Or, during bondage play. There is no doubt that a Dominant skilled in timing his/her sub’s orgasms can result in explosive release. This is because the physical aspects of the delay are coupled with the psychological aspects of the power exchange; the result of this combination can be incredible

To the purists, as I stated before, chastity play really begins when longer term orgasm denial is the centerpiece of the scene. In a good chastity scene, a skilled Dom/me can bring the submissive to the brink of orgasm, without release, for hours. The balance between pleasure, pain and frustration – not to mention some humiliation thrown in – can make for an incredibly powerful scene. This type of play can be extended to multiple scenes over longer periods of time. But, once you get to this area of chastity play, it is only natural to explore the world of chastity devices.

There are both male (“penis prisons,” “cock cages”) and female (“chastity belts”) equipment. These devices can be put on for short or long periods of time.

When a Dominant decides to use a chastity toy on his/her submissive (with the sub’s consent, of course), the Dom/sub implications are intense. This is not “May I cum, Sir?” This is the Master/Mistress preventing access to the slave’s genitals for the purpose of sexual pleasure! This is the real deal. Even if you are not into this type of play, you must admit it is hot. And, if the submissive is required to wear it into the outside world, there is no doubt he/she is submitting big time. Chastity play is pure power and submission in its most sensual form; it cannot be faked – at least not at this level. That is one of the things I admire most about it. Not only is it a “sexual magnifier,” but it is also a “power exchange magnifier.”

Obviously, chastity play is not for everybody. But, one must admit, it can be an awesome display of uninhibited Dominance and submission — a true extreme power exchange. As such, it must be respected as one the most explosive types of BDSM play.

By BaadMaster
After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.

You may also be interested in:

  • Chastity for Everyone! Part Two
    Chastity for Everyone! Part Two
  • Chastity Belts
    Chastity Belts
  • Three Levels of Chastity
    Three Levels of Chastity

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  1. BWG says

    August 28, 2016 at 8:57 am

    Would be happy to be the model of someone available in Hong Kong to take the pictures………

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  2. lenny g says

    August 17, 2016 at 10:59 am

    looks like kink weekly needs to do a chastity photo shoot soon, huh?

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    • BaadMaster says

      August 17, 2016 at 7:54 pm

      In a month! LOL!!!

  3. HARLEY FIRE says

    August 16, 2016 at 2:16 pm

    Show me the obi one!

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