Since this site is “Kink Weekly,” kink is rather important to us. Often, I am asked how do you find a partner who has similar perversions to yourself? Although it is easier said than done, I think the most important thing is to “know thyself.” Understanding what you love, like or dislike is a big first step in finding out what you are looking for.
In this article, I will not only present a list, but also a ratings system that will enable you to see – in black and white – exactly what gets you excited and what does not. I have listed these with 1-11 ratings that will quickly enable you to see which kinks are most — and least — important to you. At worst, it’s fun to read this list to remind us of all the perversions out there still to do!
So, here is the list. Rate your kinks using a scale from 1 – 11. (11 being the ultimate, the “bestest”.) You might be surprised at the result!
1. Leash and collar play
2. Latex/rubber
3. Rough sex
4. Enema play
5. Public sex
6. Made to cry public/private
7. Sensory deprivation
8. Scarification
9. Labia piercing
10. Abduction scene
11. Rape scene
12. Being marked
13. Blood play
14. Electrical play
15. “Slut writing”, public/private
16. Caging
17. Drinking Master/Mistress’s pee
18. Learning slave positions
19. Signing a slave contract
20. Switching
21. Anal sex
22. Double penetration
23. Golden showers
24. Forced lactation
25. Fucking with a strap-on
26. Being fucked with a strap-on
27. Cuckolding
28. Obedience trainer/training
29. Flogging/caning/spanking
30. Wearing fluids
31. Master/Mistress’s initial’s carved in ass
32. Slave/slut tattoo
33. Learning slave protocols and rituals.
34. Dominance and/or submission
35. Sexually servicing Master or Mistress
36. Writing slave diaries for Master/Mistress
37. Kneeling next to your Master/Mistress
38. Nipple torture
39. Being chained to bed
40. Serving a Master or Mistress
41. Rope bondage
42. Wearing a welded slave collar.
43. Swing parties
44. FMF threesome
45. MFM threesome
46. Being whored out (or whoring out)
47. Being branded by owner
48. Ownership tattoo
49. Wearing insertables
50. Dilations, speculums
51. Getting fisted
52. Fisting
53. Worshipping Master/Mistress
54. Labia play piercing.
55. Nipple play piecing
56. Nipple permanent piercing
57. Nipple torture
58. Labia stretching, weights
59. Saline engorgement of labia.
60. Eye restrictions
61. Sensory deprivation.
62. Humiliation play.
63. Learning to cum on command
64. Becoming/training a slave
61. Hair pulling
62. Face slapping
63. Spitting
64. Anal play — analingus (giving)
65. Anal play — analingus (getting)
66. Orgasm control
67. Bukkake
68. Age play/pacifiers
69. Choking
70. Chastity
71. Throat gagging
72. Gun play
73. Funnel play
74. Handcuffs
75. Immobilization
76. Rope bondage
77. Sadism/masochism
78. Wax play
79. Fire play
80. Spreader bars
81. Tickling
82. Mummification
83. Vacuum bags
84. Breath play
85. Foot worship
86. Boot blacking
Obviously, this list is far from complete; feel free to add your own. But it is a great place to start in identifying what makes you tick – kink-wise that is.
Since all relationships – from high protocol BDSM to ultra vanilla – require compromise, this list should enable you to identify which areas you truly need – “11”s if you will – to those you can live without
By BaadMaster
After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.
Trish Lust says
The first time I gave myself my first real enema I was in my twenties and I ordered my enema bag and I filled my ass with nearly two bags of nice warm water. I loved the feeling of it flowing deep inside me then after I took all I could handle the real craps start to hurt like hell I held it in for almost ten minutes! It’s like slipping into a nice warm bath but the entire time I was on the verge of organum the whole time! Then finally I came so hard!
Trista Lewis says
Play piercing the laybia and tits but I think clit piercing for play should be on this list;)
Blaire says
nice list, baad. good place to start