For this article, I would like to explore the world of one extremely popular and overlooked fetish – the “smoking fetish.” And also offer some play suggestions for this fetish.
As with all fetishes, the smoking fetish (called capnolagnia, for you Jeopardy addicts) has a huge range. Fortunately, if you are a newbie with respect to this fetish, it has a rather shallow learning curve – at least as opposed to many other fetishes, such as suspension bondage.
One of the most popular smoking fetishes is the “sexy smoking” fetish. Here, the very act of the Domme dressing up in provocative clothes and smoking turns on the submissive. To the smoking fetishist, there is great eroticism watching a woman smoking a cigarette in a self-assured, sexy and stylish manner. Often, the Domme will have an elaborate, bejeweled cigarette holder and will require a “lighting ceremony.” The key here appears to be the sensual aspect in the “art of smoking a cigarette.” The intricate French inhale — where the smoke is exhaled through the mouth and then immediately re-inhaled through the nose – is a specialty that can be mastered relatively easily. The submissive might even have a preferred brand of cigarette he/she wants the Top to smoke.
Another popular smoking-fetish scene is one where a beautiful woman smokes a cigarette while nude. If this is what your sub is into, you are in luck. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to shed one’s clothes and smoke a cigarette! Another easy-to-master smoking move is where you inhale smoke, and then exhale it into his/her mouth. You might make him/her keep it in for an extended period of time, with punishment for exhaling it too soon.
The sub might want other variations besides the typical the vinyl or leather-clad, high-heeled smoking Domme. Be prepared for this; have some costumes and uniforms on hand. Smoking nurses, smoking French maids and smoking policemen are just three scenarios that come to mind. There are many smoking scenes for the basic smoking fetishist that you can invent; the only limit is your imagination – and your wardrobe. Finally, there are those who are into cigars or cigarillos as opposed to cigarettes. You should find this out; cigarette fetishists can be every bit as specific and demanding as any other fetishist.
If, however, if your sub wants to take it one step farther, elements of humiliation play may be what he/she seeks. A submissive might crave some smoke blown onto his/her face – or even on his/her penis or vagina! Or, he/she might want to be made to beg to light your cigarette. (Note: paying clients can always top from the bottom!) Humiliation play is easy to introduce where a cigarette fetish is concerned. At the more severe end of this fetish, the submissive might want to be made into a “human ashtray.” Or, the bottom might want the Domme to use the cigarette as a torture device. This type of play is not for the novice. You must make sure you don’t permanently burn a submissive or you might find a subpoena – rather than a thank you note – in your mailbox. Especially in this day and age!
To sum up, you should not only try to learn about the fetish, but also learn about your submissive. If you have both under control, chances are your first smoking-fetish session will be a smoking success! (Couldn’t resist!)
About the Author:
After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.