Did reading that title send a little shiver down your spine? It use to do the same for me too. When I first entered the scene many years ago (but who’s counting!), Age play wasn’t really ‘in’. It wasn’t a kink people were talking about. There were no spaces for Littles, Bigs, Middles, or those who were happy to interact with them.
In fact, I’d go so far as to say 10 years ago Age play was quite taboo, but perhaps it was just the communities I was circling around. Any time anyone mentioned being a ‘Mommy’ or a ‘baby’ I couldn’t help but feel a little on edge.
What kind of fucked up play is that? I would often think to myself, too fogged by my own judgement to inquire more. Anyone within earshot must have felt the same because an admission of those statements were often left hanging in an awkward air of silence until a quick subject change was bulldozed in. Little spaces at events didn’t exist. Period. It was something a lot of kinksters did in the privacy of their homes, I now think out of fear, embarrassment or worse…shame. This is something I now feel strongly should be faced head on within BDSM on a constant basis. This community is the one place people should feel okay to express themselves without judgement.
So like any oddly curious kinkster with my uncomfortable-ness I started digging into this ‘Age play’ thing. I wanted to understand it. I wanted to view it. I wanted to witness it for myself and most of all I wanted to know if there were a place for me in it…even thought I knew absolutely, there was not. Diapers, pacifiers, bottles, baby talk? Umm no thanks. There just couldn’t be a place for me in that realm. It was “too weird” even for me.
Apparently I am one really weird person…and I love it.
Today I am proudly a loving Mommy and a strict Daddy to certain people in my life and my Age play can involve any (or none) of the things I want, including those above.
Yes I am cruel, sadistic, ruthless at times, demanding, overbearing, controlling, and a lot of other things a ‘Mommy’ or ‘Daddy’ traditionally wouldn’t be, this is my naturally Femdom side. But Age play isn’t about traditional and within kink—I can express myself as any kind of Mommy and/or Daddy; even though in real life I would never want to be in such a role. I’ve also been a bullying older sister, naughty baby sitter, naughty nurse, unsuspecting step sister and a strict teacher when the situation has called for it.
- You want a grilled cheese with no crust?
- Back rubs until you fall asleep in my arms?
- Sport a onesies of favorite your animal for cuddles?
- Need someone to color or build Legos with?
- Feeling like nuzzling in a bosom would ease that mind chatter?
- Will I be sadistic and scribble on your page? Only if you want that.
- Will I sneak lettuce into your sandwich and make you be a ‘good boy/girl’ for a late snack? Yep I sure will.
- If you’ve been bad will I enforce corner time? You better believe it.
- And if you have a favorite stuffie, well, expect me to hide it just for fun but only sometimes, promise.
What I have come to learn about Age play was simple. The more I was exposed to it the more I enjoyed watching others enjoy it. When it was hidden away and shunned, it was unknown and the unknown can be scary. It was shrouded in such secrecy I assumed the community on a whole was equally uneasy about its presence. I am happy to see the kink being embraced in all forms. Age play doesn’t have to mean you’re role playing a younger age, you can age play any age. I’ve seen a range of ages from “adult babies” all the way to bratty “barely legal teens”. I say this time and and time again to the ignorant folks but I’ll say it one more time:
Age play is not pedophilia (an often gross misconception) which is actual sexual feelings directed towards children and is totally illegal and I am in NO way condoning that.
Age play involves only consenting adults, just like all BDSM play and hence the word ‘play’ should be the main focus.
I am not a particularly maternal person but something about watching an adult pleasantly and willingly regress is hot. Like most BDSM activities their responsibilities, worries, stress, and overall negative day-to-day emotions melt away and are replaced by the feelings of being young, naive, playful, and unguarded. All because they feel safe with the person they are deciding to share this with and hand them the baton of responsibility and protection. I’ve found I can go from torturous bitch to Mama Bear in a matter of moments if I feel my boy or girl is in need of protection or comfort from anything or anyone.
The dark part of Age Play has been a natural and gradual move for me and is a space I hold dearly for those I trust. Intertwining submission, domination, bondage and discipline into guilty foreplay, “forced” intercourse, exceptionally vulgar adult language, incest roleplay, explicit sexuality, severe spankings , mind games, power trips, and humiliation settled into all the tiny cracks I had still waiting to be er…filled (hehe)…in my kinky crevices. Pushing people within their “forbidden” fetishes, ravaging their senses, unraveling their defenses and watching them squirm with a mixture of delight and regret for feeling so deliciously dangerous…it excites me on every level of my consciousness. If I am pinning you down internally without lifting a finger and making beg for permission to fantasize about what you’ve always been told you shouldn’t…
Well…then you can understand why this ‘Mommy’ signed up.
About the Author
d20domme is unapologetically kinky after over 10 years in the community. She is known as pint-height, poly(androus), plus-size, POC, 24/7 Femdom who knows what she wants and will use her craft in mindfuckery and persuasive viper tongue to get it. Her main kink is normalizing kinky lifestyles across the board and thus she can often be found writing on her blog From Mundane To Mistress, chatting away on podcasts, teaching classes, demos, or presenting locally in the Washington, DC area, New York, and sometimes across the pond in Europe.