We just completed a month of kinky fun. “Anal April” was our challenge to only have anal sex for a month. In truth, it was a bit more than that. My slut was actually in “pussy chastity”. Not an actual chastity device mind you, but an imposed mental chastity. As my obedient slut, she would adhere to “no touching except to clean yourself” for the month of April. At first, we agreed on the idea as a dare. I dared her and she said, “bring it on”. Now, to give you context, you must understand that as kinksters, we have a sex forward and kink forward dynamic and we have kinky sexual scenes just about every day. So, my slut has the experience of being my daily and well-used “3-hole whore”. She is accustomed to being used hard every day where she experiences multiple vaginal and anal orgasms.
When I first met my now collared slut, she told me that she was not fond of anal sex. She had good reason. She shared that during her marriage, her ex-husband has abused her ass. He had done things like forcefully using oversized dildos on her without lube – a real no-no – resulting in dangerous anal tearing that left her in pain and legitimately weary of repeating the error. She was left feeling that in the world of anal sex, it was “better to give than receive”.
Before she put herself forward to be claimed by me, I had made it clear to her that intention was for her to be my personal “3-hole slut”, and I also shared that because “I don’t break my toys”, I would take my time to train her to be used as an ass-whore so that she would want me to fuck her ass (I wrote about training here once before.) Knowing this, with eyes wide open, she made the choice to submit and to kneel for me with a view to living in a 24/7 dynamic in a Total Power Exchange (TPE) as my 3-hole slut.
After she was claimed, her anal training began in earnest. Training her to be a daily use ass whore required that she be fully enrolled. To help achieve this, I shared with her that what I was committed to was that in the end, she would authentically love anal sex and enjoy it as a normal part of our sexual dynamic. She is an amazing and committed slut and she understood that in our 24/7 TPE, her responsibility was to serve, so with those thoughts in mind, she registered into be trained as my ass whore. Remember kinksters, in kink, consent is everything. She was being trained to have her ass lit up with a flogger and fucked to completion.
She first learned to prepare herself for anal by defecating before sex and using an enema to clean herself further. Because I desire my slut to be my ass-to-mouth whore, she needed to be sure she was thoroughly cleaned. She would complete the pre-anal sex prep by squirting a dollop of lube into her ass so she could confidently approach anal sex knowing that she was clean and lubed and that there would be no “visitors”. A note here that “dirty” anal sex is potentially dangerous as well as messy, and since neither she nor I are into scat, we prefer not to engage in “dirty anal”. Also, I like to eat her ass, so I want her clean too. So, with that in mind, thorough preparation before play is a must.
Second, there is the issue of lubrication. It is important to remember that the anus makes no lube at all. None. So, you must use lube in order to have safe and fun anal sex. Rectal tissue tearing is dangerous and painful and gets in the way of regular anal sex. For this reason, there are three key words associated with anal sex that every kinkster must know. LUBE, LUBE, & LUBE! Both during training and since, I use lot of lube every time we have anal sex, and I still make sure to never force my way into her ass. This is the third principle of training her. I first surf her ass with my hard cock, then I put the head of my swollen thick cock against her anus and allow her to take me in at her pace and with the force that she generates. This allows her to control and manage the process of relaxing and getting used to my size (I have a very thick cock, so this is necessary, and it is a good method to use no matter your girth). Whenever we have anal sex, I use lots of lube, even more lube than one might think necessary. In anal, there can never be too much lube. Let me say that again. Use as much lube as you can to make sure that you are both having fun. There is nothing quite like fun anal sex. Its really, really hot!
The 4th principle I applied while training her is that I require her to wear a butt plug every day, all day, whenever she is out of the house. It is a way for her to keep me “close to her”, and it has the dual benefit of training her ass to be accustomed to penetration. She is also required to send me a picture of her plugged and marked ass every morning, which helps to codify our dynamic. As time passed, we gradually increased the size of the butt plug to make sure that she was getting used to accepting bigger items in her ass.
I also made it a habit to use her ass with every scene so that she was rewarded for preparing her ass for me to use. On a gradient she began to experience anal pleasure and then anal orgasms when I fucked her ass. It seems that the combination of my size along with the angles that we explore while engaging in anal sex during our play causes me to hit her G-spot when I am fucking her ass, which results in anal sex making her dripping wet and she even has squirting orgasms with ass sex.
Eating her ass is the way she finally got related to her ass as a sexual organ. Keep in mind that the thousands of nerve endings around the ass are related to the Pudendal Nerve, which is the same nerve that innervates the clitoris and the penis. Interestingly and somewhat remarkably, she now actually climaxes when I eat her ass. It’s a very different climax to a clitoral climax to be sure, but she definitely climaxes with earth shattering orgasms with anilingus. Plus, it’s a scene that is hot as hell! I am on my knees stroking my throbbing cock while she is cumming as I eat her red-hot ass. HOT!
For going on 3 years now, she has had almost daily use as a 3-hole-whore. She is my ass-to-mouth slut and she regularly gets her ass eaten, flogged and fucked. Its perfection and its hot as hell.
Imagine the scene where she has had her pussy fucked and eaten to multiple orgasms, where she has had repeated uses of her mouth and ass, where I have eaten her ass which has been flogged bright red and where the scene ultimately ends in a primal screaming simultaneous orgasm as I pump my seed into her ass. Its that really hot, and its our scene every single day.
Anal sex is a big part of our sexual self-expression. It is naughty and dirty and sexy and erotic and it is as exotic as hell. We love it.
Our scenes definitely take us to a place where we are deeply in our primal state. Limbic system creatures. Having ass play create that experience for us has been a most unexpected outcome.
To be fair, she does not have the only butthole in the room when we fuck. I have enjoyed her exploring my ass as part of our play too. This occurs in two ways for us. The first is that I love when she eats my ass. So, for her to be safe from acquiring a disease by doing this, I also prep before sex. I make sure to defecate and to thoroughly clean myself with a washcloth before we play. When her tongue is on or in my ass and she is pulling hard on my balls and stroking my cock, there is so much sensory input that I am a literally quivering mess. She can easily bring me to orgasm this way. The other way she uses my ass is to massage my prostate when my cock is down her throat. Again, she uses lube, and she keeps a particular nail trimmed. She could use a finger condom if she wished, but the truth is that the amount of finger she inserts to get onto my prostate is only and inch or so, so she is unlikely to get feces on her finger even if I had not voided. As she massages my prostate, she describes it as if she is “feeling like a walnut that is a bit squishy”, and when she brings me to climax this way, the stimulus makes me cum so hard and with such volume that I tend to drown her in cum.
The third way we could play, is for her to peg me. Put on a strap-on and fuck my ass. It’s not something we have done yet, and being pegged does not make a person gay as everyone knows, but for us, it’s an item on the menu for another day. When the time comes, I will do the same sort of things she does to prepare to make sure I don’t suffer an injury and tear my rectal tissue in a dangerous way. And she will
use the same sort of strategies I used to get her ready for anal to get me ready for anal. And she will use lube. LOTS of lube.
There are those folks in the gay community especially, but not exclusively, who are into size play. The idea that you can really stretch the rectum and insert bigger and bigger items into the ass, from dildos to fists is the point of the play. To my way of thinking, this way of playing is an extremely dangerous behavior and great care is needed to ensure that one does not tear the tissue or cause permanent damage. Rectal fissures can indeed be deadly. Engaging in anal size-play, one needs to be thoughtful and careful to safely enjoy putting huge items in your partner’s ass.
Back to Anal April. We got a lot out of our month of anal-only sex. And I learned a lot about my slut and myself. It became clear to me how much of a masochist she is, now much of an ass whore she is, how loving she is, how horny she is, and how committed to me she is. You can read about the experience in my fetlife account where I kept a daily diary of the experience. Suffice it to say that what I got out of the experience most of all is the awareness that I am even more of an anal whore than she is. I am addicted to her ass and to have her use my ass. One of the best parts of Anal April was that the sex that followed in May, our after Anal April sex, is truly mind blowing because as we incorporated using her pussy into our scene, she had the experience of being fully present to a whole new context for her ass as a sexual organ.
For this reason, putting all other reasons aside, I encourage you to explore anal sex based on this one idea alone. As a man, your sex organs are your cock, your balls and your ass/prostate. As a woman you have your pussy (including your clit and G-spot), your tits and your ass. For both men and women, your ass represents one third of your sex organs. A third!
Are you really prepared to surrender one third of your sexual satisfaction to morality? Happy anal.
P.S. Use lube. LOTS of lube.
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What do you think of enema play?
It is not something I have explored, other than to give my slut a piss enema. She describes the feeling in a similar way to the feeling of an enema. Being full and having the urge to defecate. She especially feels this when I put a butt plug in her ass after I fill her with my piss. Mainly I think enema play would ultimately be messy!
i adore hearing about your relationship and kink experience
Thats so great! thanks.
I have done a ton of writing about our dynamic on fetlife here :