Ask Baadmaster- Lost and Found

The following question is more like an “advice columnist” question than a BDSM query.  But, I am sure, this problem has come up in BDSM so it is worthy of an answer. Reader: I am a female submissive.  How the heck do I find a true, sincere Master? I am totally new to this, and so far I have met many “Dom’s” who use me because I am submissive – but are only interested in play … [Read more...]

Ask Baadmaster-Baby Steps

The following question is a variant of a popular “where do I begin” type question.  But the key word here is “variant.” Within this question is the common dilemma of a couple that must learn at two different speeds.  Thus, my answer should be instructive to beginners regardless of how steep their learning curve is. Reader: My wife and I have both discovered online BDSM … [Read more...]

Ask Baadmaster- Brats

With a whole new generation of lifestylers coming up, we would be remiss if we did not address their concerns.  I am in a unique position to answer millennial’s concerns as my live-in submissive is -- surprise! – a millennial.  And though I hate to generalize, one is more likely to encounter the dreaded “brat” among the newer lifestylers than in the more experienced (read … [Read more...]

Ask Baadmaster

Here is an amazing question so nuanced that I had to ponder the answer for a while.  I am not even sure this is the right answer; thus you can file this under “Opinion.” Reader: Here is a problem, as a fellow Dom, you might be able to help me with. Recently I went to a dungeon party with my collared slave. A small argument escalated to the point where she said, loudly so … [Read more...]

Ask Baadmaster- On Poly

Here is a submitted question that really is in my wheelhouse. I have tried poly over the years with varying degrees of success.  From it all going PERFECTLY to having one of the subs throw – and break - a chair at the Rio Hotel in Las Vegas. So let’s try to help out this slave! Reader: I’m a fulfilled alpha slave, but I worry about my beloved sister slaves. They say they’re … [Read more...]