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Reader: When punishing your slave, is it important to use a device that has never been used for pleasure? If not, how can that punishment be given without it being pleasurable? This is a common delimma that both beginners and not-so-beginners face.  The best way to answer this question is to answer it with a question: What is the purpose of punishment?  If it is for training … [Read more...]

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Reader: About a year ago, I met the Dom of my dreams. He was so attentive and passionate, but he lived 3000 miles away! He couldn’t move because of his job, but I could. So after lots of anxiety over it, we decided I should relocate to where he lives. My D/s relationship with my Dom is fine, but I left my family and friends far away. I’m lonely and in a new place. What is the … [Read more...]

Ask Baadmaster- Halloween Edition!

One of the things that amazed me about moving to Southern California was how seriously people took Halloween. That there were Halloween stores all over the place blew my mind; I had never seen anything like that before.  Thus, I was pleasantly surprised when my email bag produced this query: Reader: With Halloween coming up, I’ve been thinking a lot about costumes. Do you … [Read more...]

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On first glance, this might seem a question that is way out of my field of expertise.  But on closer examination, it is actually in my wheelhouse. And with the current acceptance of gender fluidity, it might be an important question to attempt to answer.  Well, here goes: Reader: I'm transgender and identify as a Domme, and have been contemplating hypnosis as a way of … [Read more...]

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Occasionally questions are submitted to me that, although not a common problem, cannot be ignored. You might call them “break your heart” type queries. The following issue was very heartfelt, and was so very specific to the BDSM world, that I thought I might be of some help.  So here goes: Reader: I’ve been without a Master for two years. I’d love to be back subbing, which … [Read more...]