I was talking to a friend the other day about relationships (no surprise).  I brought up my feelings about keeping score and my friend wanted me to clarify. My example:  "well you did _______ so I can do _______".  Or "I did _________ and you don't ever do things like that for me." I see that sort of thing a lot.  I don't even think some people realize they do it. My ex … [Read more...]

It's that time of year again.  As a plus-size woman (like anyone over size 12 juniors, according to most costume makers) I was less than excited about slogging through the land-mine-filled landscape that is Halloween costume shopping. Last year Daddy and I made plans to attend a pretty spectacular Halloween dungeon party.  Finding a Halloween costume that I didn't hate in a … [Read more...]

I recently came across a new concept I was unfamiliar with:  reclamation. From my understanding, it is based in the Stag and Vixen play, which is essentially a respectful “borrowing” of the female, who is then returned and is intimately reclaimed by her partner. I found the concept interesting. It brings focus back on the primary couple. I get how that could seem … [Read more...]