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This week in kink (March 14, 2016)

March 15, 2016 By Dexx Leave a Comment

New York: Apparently a New York-based Dominatrix is claiming that (former) Republican presidential candidate Marco Rubio engaged her services for a hot BDSM session. According to this article, she has been trying to sell her story to various publications. It sounds like their night included more sexual elements than just some spanking and flogging, begging the question as to the “Dominatrix’s” BDSM credentials (most pro-Dommes would not engage in sexual activity with a first time client or ever). I may not agree with Mr Rubio’s politics, but generally I think people should be allowed to enjoy their kink in peace without threat of being outed – particularly by the woman who topped him! Of course, there are some interesting elements to this like the potential hypocrisy of involving a puritanical politician who is married. But… we don’t know what he has agreed with his wife, and the poor man just suffered some non-consensual humiliation and domination on the political stage from the Donald… so leave the poor guy alone I say. More in the Radar article here.

Connecticut: Rape survivor Karmenife Paulino returned to the scene of the crime but for a positive mission. The Wesleyan University graduate planned a photoshoot in a full Dominatrix outfit along with several “slaves” donning ball gags and leashes outside of the fraternity house where she was raped. She says the outfit and dominatrix concept are empowering to her and she wants to inspire other women. You go girl!

Texas: A new documentary, premiering at SXSW takes a look at the complicated life of Michelle a 20-year-old legally blind and autistic girl. Best and Most Beautiful Things even includes mention of Michelle’s experimentation with BDSM, proving that the lifestyle and community can be inclusive of all people.

We had a crazy weekend at the home of Dexx and anniebear. Many friends gathered for a night of high protocol and kinky play. We’re still recovering in fact!

Enjoy this week’s issue including guests photos by Redd Dyver.

-Dexx

This week in kink March 7, 2016

March 7, 2016 By Dexx Leave a Comment

USA: A Federal District Court ruling on a case involving consensual BDSM has implications for kinky Americans. A male student at George Mason University had engaged in consensual BDSM activities with a female (non-student). During the scene, she pushed him away and when asked if she wanted to continue, she said she wasn’t sure. He continued the scene, until she used her safeword, which he then honored.

There are many more details to this story, but based on the encounter the student was expelled for Sexual Misconduct. The federal court ruled in favor of the expelled student, but merely on grounds of due process.

Troublingly, the court did not agree that BDSM was protected under previous Supreme Court case law which prevents states from criminalizing intimate activity between consenting adults. The judge wrote that “engaging in BDSM sex is clearly not protected” under the constitution, and “there is no basis to conclude that tying up a willing submissive sex partner and subjecting him or her to whipping, choking, or other forms of domination is deeply rooted in the nation’s history and traditions or implicit in the concept of ordered liberty.” We at Kink Weekly disagree.

BDSM is no less legitimate than other non-mainstream forms of sexual intimacy. But it is perhaps less understood by those who don’t practice it. It is essential that BDSM with informed consent be protected by law so as not to criminalize the millions who happily and responsibly enjoy it. Culture and society are shifting to more widely accept kink – legislators and courts need to catch up. Read more about the case here and here.

Worldwide: A series of animated videos released by Project Consent aim to explain the principles of consent in a simple and entertaining way. We at Kink Weekly are always on board with teaching and reeducating people on this topic. Take a look at the video for yourself and let us know what you think! (We find them to be pretty weird and adorable).

We’re very excited about our guest photographer this week, Zenshin Art.

-Dexx

This Week in Kink February 29, 2016

February 29, 2016 By Dexx 1 Comment

UK: A seventy six year old grandmother in a nursing home is making waves with her erotic fiction. She has penned multiple books covering topics such as spanking and other erotica. Her family is in full support of her activities, as it should be 🙂 Read the full story here.

Worldwide: It’s awards season and Fifty Shades of Gray has made top honors as the worst film of the year according to the Razzies, an online group dedicated to weedy out some of Hollywood’s worst flicks. Other “special” awards were given to Jamie Dornan for worst actor and to both him and his costar Dakota Johnson for worst onscreen combo. It’s good to know the pair are getting credit for their work. Read more.

We hope you enjoy this week’s Kink Weekly debauchery!

-Dexx

This Week in Kink February 22, 2016

February 22, 2016 By Dexx Leave a Comment

UK: A leather catsuit raised some eyebrows in England. The item was found as part of a grandmother’s estate, apparently passed down since the 1960’s. The Dominatrix style outfit will hit the auction block on February 23rd. It’s safe to assume since the item is now being auctioned off, kink does not run in the family.

CHINA: Two tourists stranded in China were accidentally booked into a BDSM-themed hotel room for the night when their flight was delayed. Apparently the two females were complete strangers who agreed to stay together due to a shortage of rooms available.

LOS ANGELES: Please see our posting about local BDSM legend Mistress Melissa who needs our help.

Enjoy this week’s issue!

-Dexx

This Week in Kink February 15, 2016

February 15, 2016 By Dexx 1 Comment

UK: The two co-founders of Fem-dom porn site The English Mansion have been embroiled in a legal battle over ownership of the web site. Steve Dawson originally met Laura Bell as a client of her pro Dominatrix services. Romance blossomed and they created the Fem-dom themed site together. Now, following an acrimonious split, they have been wrangling over the business. According to the Daily Mail, Mr Dawson accused his ex of bullying and intimidating him into signing over his stake in the business to her for far below market value. So far, the courts disagree, with judges ruling in favor of Miss Bell owning the business.

Los Angeles: Well-known submissive anniebear raised more than a few eyebrows when she showed up to the Fem-dom / male-sub oriented club WICK (Women in Charge of Kink) event at Sanctuary on Friday night, bitch-face on and ready to dominate some men. Did she wake up and have a sudden change of kink identity? When asked, anniebear commented “I’ve been curious about topping for a while and just wanted to experience things from the other side. WICK was such a fun event, and with a very different energy than the Male-dom parties I normally attend. The women were very friendly and welcoming, and there were a ton of cute sub boys eager to play.”

I hope you had a wonderfully kinky Valentine’s Day!

Dexx

BDSM Scene Ideas: Forced Exercise

February 8, 2016 By Dexx 2 Comments

Being in Los Angeles, we have the advantage of many many types of dungeons, events, classes, and munches. But what if you live in a place that does not offer this type of diversity? We hope this ongoing BDSM scene idea series gives you some good ammunition to practice in the privacy of your own home.

This week we’re offering exercise scene ideas, inspired by a local forced exercise class at Dungeon East hosted by the talented Mistress Justine Cross and personal trainer Samuel Every. anniebear was lead through a series of exercises, but no tapping out if she got too tired. Mistress was at the ready with a crop for those lazy booties!

What you will need:
-Honestly, nothing! All you need is an open space for your bottom/slave/submissive to move about. But here are some recommended, optional accessories:
-yoga or exercise mat
-terrible (to your submissive’s tastes) music
-hitting implements-crop, cane, flogger, etc.
-timer or stopwatch (most phones these days come with time keeping apps)

You can prep this scene by scheduling an “exercise night” with your submissive. Give the illusion that you two are going to workout together and have them be at the ready in workout clothes on the designated date night. You should also show up in work out clothes too just to keep things going. If they pepper you with questions about the impending workout, simply say it’s a surprise but that you’re pretty sure they’ll enjoy it.

Begin with a quick interrogation of their recent eating and exercise habits. anniebear has a rule that she cannot eat sweets without asking permission so this would be a good time to see if the rule was broken. The fun part about this scene is it does not matter if your submissive is a health nut or hasn’t seen the inside of a gym in ten years, you can modify your torment to fit their abilities. We always recommend sticking to moderate/easy exercises unless you’re a trained professional. This is also the time to check in on any injuries new or old that they’ve sustained.

Once you’ve determined how good or bad they’ve been that week, let the exercise begin! I know one Master that makes his slave disrobe before the workout, thus enhancing the humiliation of the scene. The choice is entirely up to you. You’ll want to start every good work out with a stretch. Focus on lots of stretches that require bending over to better access the rear. You can deliver some good swats or spanks while they focus on stretching. Then of course, arms up to the sky to stretch the torso and torment the nipples.

For a warm up, start with jumping jacks. Put some music on that you know your slave will hate; anniebear particularly “enjoys” heavy metal/grunge (where the guy is kind of screaming over the top of a beat) or Britney Spears. Between each jumping jack, you’ll have access to swat or tease the genitals. Have them keep doing the jumping jacks until they’re a bit out of breath. You can introduce a stopwatch or timer, having them count aloud the number of jumping jacks they can accomplish in a certain time period. If they meet certain goals you can reward them…with more spankings of course!

Next, we’ll lay down on the floor for everyone’s favorite, sit ups! Sit ups or crunches are really hard for a lot of people. This would be a good time to offer some positive reinforcement and encouragement while at the same time reminding them that if they do not complete a set goal for number of crunches then they will be punished. If your submissive looks a little “heated” you can cool them down with a surprise, swift spray in the face with a spray/misting water bottle. The reaction will be hilarious!

Moving on to push ups. During this “workout” it’s important to recognize what your submissive is actually able to do and stick to that. However, you both may find your own joy in “making” them try to do one whole push up or pull up if that’s where they’re at physically. Some folks are into the humiliation aspect of it. It all depends what you’ve negotiated. The push up is a great opportunity to offer swats to the behind or increase difficulty by propping your feet on their back while they labor away. You can also focus n the under size by teasing or pinching the nipples.

Get creative with this scene! The possibilities are only limited by your submissive’s abilities and even then you can modify almost any task to make it less difficult. Do you have any funny or clever forced exercise ideas? We’d love to hear about it! Happy sweating (and swatting)!

Writer, photographer, hedonist, Dom. After years of at-home BDSM, Dexx finally embraced the kink community and met many fantastic fellow kinksters in the scene. Along the way, it occurred to him that it would be just super if there was a magazine-style web site which catered to people interested in BDSM, and he recruited some of his friends to help create it.

Week of February 8, 2016

February 7, 2016 By Dexx Leave a Comment

I checked out the first class of Master Gabriel’s Dominant Training Series at Sanctuary LAX on Wednesday. The start of a new 8-part training series, the first class was fairly high level and introductory. The turnout was great – there must have been about 60 people in attendance. In the words of Master Gabriel:

“We all have different roots that have brought us here. We as a community have an opportunity to define what it means to be dominant, and an opportunity to define the next three generations of kink. The future is watching us!”

On Thursday, a dominatrix was spotted in Birmingham, England walking her human dog through the streets on a leash. The now-famous-in-England domme is 21-year old financial dominatrix Paige.

According to the mirror article, the man puppy paid her £1,000 for the puppy training experience, which also involved having his hair shaved and an egg cracked over him (slightly random – I hope she doesn’t crack eggs over real puppies!). Sounds like a fun scene, despite the non-consensual inclusion of vanilla passer-bys, which I generally think should be kept to a minimum.

Watch this video on YouTube

Despite her being outed to her family by a vanilla co-worker, I hope that Paige’s new-found fame will bring her lots of business for her other job!

Also last week in the UK, a man has reportedly died in a BDSM accident. The Manchester Daily News reported the incident, in which an unnamed man reportedly died wearing a “bondage suit”, following an online hookup. Further details are scarce, and UK newspapers are known for their sensationalism, so I’ll reserve further commentary until we know more.

Have a great week – may your Valentine’s Day be full of joy and kink!

Dexx

Week of February 1, 2016

February 2, 2016 By Dexx Leave a Comment

This past weekend, anniebear and myself were involved in all sorts of fun at the Debauchery: Taboo event hosted by the Monarchs, a heterosexual men’s BDSM club here in Los Angeles. We sat through a full day of classes on topics ranging from interrogation to fire play followed by an incredible play party.

There are lots of interesting tidbits in BDSM news this week; in Canada, former super star radio host Jian Ghomeshi begins his trial this week for the sexual assault charges brought against him. He claims the choking, slapping and other acts of sexual violence multiple women have accused him of were consensual BDSM or “rough sex.” If it wasn’t pre-negotiated, then I strongly disagree with his perspective and he deserves to get locked up. We’ll have to wait and see how the trial pans out.

Also this week, for those that are into “those books”: Kim Basinger will be playing the character of the dominatrix that induced Christian Grey into the world of BDSM in the Fifty Shades sequel, Fifty Shades Darker. Some of you might recall that Ms. Basinger has some on screen experience with such matters alongside Mickey Rourke in the cult classic 9 1/2 Weeks way back in 1986. Fifty Shades Darker will be screening in theaters in 2017, and will no doubt reignite all those conversations about kink and “real BDSM” all over again.

-Dexx

Week of January 25, 2016

January 25, 2016 By Dexx Leave a Comment

This has been an exciting week. Myself and anniebear have just arrived back from a long stay in Las Vegas for the AVN (Adult Video Network) Awards. It was great catching up with friends and seeing the vendors at the expo. You can read my full review in this week’s issue.

We’ve got a lot of other great content including some major BDSM urban legends from Baadmaster, Phi returns with some erotica from our favorite pair Mr. and Mrs. Shameless, and some other great tidbits.

We’re currently accepting submissions for 2016. If you’d like to see your work on Kink Weekly, either in the form of articles or photography, send us an email.

-Dexx

Kinky fun at the 2016 AVNs, Las Vegas

January 25, 2016 By Dexx 3 Comments

The AVN expo and awards took place in Las Vegas over the past week. anniebear and I had the pleasure of attending for the first time.

Hosted at the Hard Rock Hotel, the event is at it’s heart a porn industry event, but it does have some BDSM elements as well, which is of course what we were most interested in checking out.

The expo is big enough that it sprawls across three large halls. Porn producers and stars filled many of the booth spaces, with opportunities for attendees to meet and take pictures with their favorite performers. Virtual Reality (VR) porn was heavily featured, suggesting that goggle wearing 3D video may be the future of the industry.

Upstairs, “The Lair” offered a section of the exhibition dedicated to fetish and BDSM. Coordinated by Sanctuary’s Mistress Cyan, vendors and kinksters from Vegas and across America came to offer their wares. With play spaces at either end, there were scheduled performances and workshops throughout the expo, including rope and whip displays. There was even time for anniebear to get a quick demo from Leather by Danny and Scott at Flogger Knows best. She’s never one to turn down some “funishment.”

On the main stage, we were treated to a stage show by Stockroom’s cabaret crew, led by the fabulous Hudsy Hawn. My personal favorite involved some advanced pet-play, with Skin Diamond playing the part of a very sexy kitty who got the cream… and then poured it all over herself (bottles and bottles of the stuff) before splashing around in it and making a great big creamy mess all over the stage.

Skin Diamond, the kitty who got the cream

Back in the exhibit hall, we came across some cool booths. One vendor, Rubber Nipple catering to age play on a whole new level, with adult sized pacifiers, cute adult sized diapers, and a giant inflatable crib. anniebear couldn’t resist jumping in a for a little nap.

Just across the way, a leather craft store visiting from New York, Touch of Fur offered high quality floggers and live demonstrations. The owner was kind enough to give anniebear a good old flogging (was that her second or third for the day?), before teaching me some new tricks. I was finally able to get the hang of the double Florentine, something I intend to keep practicing with anniebear… regularly.

As we walked past the Clips4Sale booth, performer Ashley Fires spotted us and beckoned anniebear over to offer her a public spanking in front of the watching crowd. Well, it’s not every day that you get offered a spanking by a hot porn star, so we of course obliged her and anniebear enjoyed a wonderful little play scene with Ashley and her friends.

Mid-spank with the girls. — anniebear mid-spank with the Ashley Fires and friends

There were many parties on throughout the week, all with wonderful themes and all sorts of interesting folks. The one we were most interested in was of course The Lair Fetish party at Club Vinyl hosted by House Ravynblood. This was where all the kinky crowd were to be found, and it featured stage performances including the hilarious Sir Gear, and the captivating Emily Marilyn. There was a who’s who of notable kinksters in attendance, including Ken Marcus, Mistress Cyan and Master Eragon.

On Saturday evening, we met up with Playboy Radio who were kind enough to do a live on air interview with anniebear and myself about Kink Weekly. They were very interested to learn more about the BDSM community, and we hope that some of their listeners will make 2016 the year that they decide to more fully explore their kinky side.

Playboy Radio in progress with Mike, Holly, and some bunnies. — Playboy Radio in progress with Michael, Holli, and some bunnies.

Saturday night brought the culmination of the show and the main event – the AVN Awards themselves.

Fans and press flocked to the Hard Rock hotel to catch glimpses of their favorite stars – for once dressed up to the nines in fabulous outfits. Everyone was so beautiful and well dressed, one observer noted that it would be difficult to tell the difference between the AVN red carpet and that of the Oscars.

The awards ceremony was hosted by well known adult actresses Annika Albright and Joanna Angel. The pair did not fail to disappoint, even performing a song and dance number “That’s what porn’s all about”.

When it came to the awards themselves, kink had a good night. BDSM flick “The Submission of Emma Marx: Boundaries” cleaned up with four awards, including Best Actress (Penny Pax) and Best Screenplay. Meanwhile, Kink.com took the award for “best alternative website”.

Performer James Deen took a diminished role compared with previous years. Nominated for 33 awards, he was all charm and smiles on the red carpet. However, Deen has been mired in accusations of rape and abuse – first by ex-girlfriend and fellow performer Stoya in November of 2015, and then by a series of other female co-stars. In the end, in taking only two minor groups awards, he did not appear on stage – the award committee no doubt keen to avoid being overtly associated with him amidst the storm of allegations.

Myself and anniebear are now back in Los Angeles, recuperating from a most eventful weekend in Las Vegas. I think it’s safe to say it was one for the books.

Dexx

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