Anal toys are an often-neglected category of sex toys. Too often, people only think of partner sex when they think of anal, and if you don’t have a dedicated partner, or your partner doesn’t enjoy anal penetration, you might just leave it by the wayside. In fact, there are many different types of anal play, and not having a partner, or even not enjoying anal penetration, doesn’t mean you can’t be into it. It’s also great for both men and women. Although there’s some stigma often associated with men using anal toys, once you try it, you’ll never go back. Its versatility plays very well with BDSM and other kinky interests, which means that when you combine it with something you already love, it can make both things even better. If you’re able to open up to anal toys and other anal play, it can be very easy to see why so many people love it.
Especially as you move further into kink and BDSM, anal is a great way to add a bit of spice into preexisting interests like bondage. Mixing and matching is an important part of learning what you like with BDSM, and anal play is one of the possible components. The important thing about anal play is that you enjoy it, and by slowly working your way into more intense anal play, you’re more likely to discover what you love about it. Whether you’re planning on doing some very light bondage or you want to take it into hardcore kink territory, anal play can be a great addition to your sex life. With anal toys, you can take the kinkiness that you love so much and pair it with anal play.
Many people don’t really know what anal play entails. Anal sex in and of itself is something that many people enjoy, but for some, that’s where it ends. Especially if you’re already invested in the kinky lifestyle, anal toys are the perfect way for both men and women to expand their horizons a bit. Here are some ways you can start adding anal toys to your kink play.
- Preparatory Items
Before you ever get to work with anal toys, you need to make sure you’re prepared. Anal play can be very painful or even unhygienic if you just breeze into it without taking a few precautions beforehand. If you make sure you’re building up carefully, you can tackle anal play and get the most out of it without having those issues.
The first thing to do is get acquainted with enemas and anal douches. These will help clean you out, so you’re not endangering yourself or any partners when you actually proceed to anal play. Although it can be uncomfortable at first, it can soon become rather pleasant, and some people even add it to their list of kinks. Second, you’ll need to get lube. You can’t do anal play without lubricant, and some lubes even have additives that can help you relax more easily. Lastly, you may want to grab yourself a toy cleaner. Although you can wash most toys with simple soap and warm water, a toy cleaner can be useful for anal toys because it’s imperative that you make sure all your toys are clean.
- Anal Plugs
An anal plug is essentially a small item that has a head on one end, tapers to become smaller, then flares out at the other end. Just like all other anal toys, in order to use it, you need to relax. Then, you or a partner can slip it inside you. It will stay in as long as you want, and the flared end means it’s easy to take back out when you’re done.
This is a great toy because it’s incredibly versatile. You can start out with a small plug that you wear during sex and increase the intensity until you’re using a larger plug, or you’re wearing it while out and about with your partner. Many people also love decorated plugs, which have a design on the end. To really crank up the heat, combine it with your kink play by wearing an anal plug under a chastity belt.
- Anal Beads
For a bit more of an exciting experience than an anal plug, you can try anal beads. These toys are set on a long string, usually made of silicone, that has beads all along it, with a large anchor at the end. This anchor is usually in the form of a ring or a flared head, and it makes sure that you don’t have any issues with removing the beads after you’re done playing.
One of the interesting things about anal beads is that they frequently start small at the end of the string, then get larger up the string. That means you can go as large as you’re comfortable, but stop at any time. Some anal bead toys even have vibrators inside, making it even more of an exhilarating experience.
- Anal Vibrators
Because anal play is a great option for both men and women, vibrators can serve an important purpose here. There are plenty of options for anal vibrators, whether you want a vibrating anal plug, anal beads, or even a double penetration vibrator. Some general vibrators can also be used anally, but you shouldn’t have one toy do twice the work. To be safe, it’s usually recommended that you buy specific toys for anal play.
Men may also benefit from a prostate toy. Although not all prostate toys are vibrators, a number of them are. These can do the same thing as g-spot vibrators for women; by effectively targeting the exact right spot, you’ll be able to pleasure yourself much more effectively. Most people who frown on prostate toys just haven’t tried one before; they’ll absolutely increase your anal play enjoyment, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.
How do I start?
Anal play isn’t actually that difficult to get started. Most people find that once they decide to try anal toys, those toys become a permanent fixture in their sex life. Get started with entry-level toys; you can always up the intensity in the future.
About the Author
Margaret Tindell is a sexual health researcher and therapist from Baltimore. She prides herself on innovation, using both existing research and the evidence she’s collected over the years to help people of all backgrounds and comfort levels. Her specialty is in helping more vanilla individuals and couples to add some spice to their love life without jumping too quickly into something that could put them off. By bridging the gap between vanilla and kink, she wants to help everyone find their sweet spot. Even in her free time, she loves reading romance novels and picking apart the steamy scenes.