Rika’s Lair – Finding the Potential Dominant in Any Partner

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  This week, I’m going to discuss a topic that, I recognize, has been done to the hilt. I’m talking about finding a dominant when … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair – A Question of Correlation: Female Empowerment and Female Dominance

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  A short time ago, I received the following question regarding the possible correlation between increased female empowerment and … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair-Marrying Your Power Partner

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  The question of marriage, as it relates to power dynamics, seems to baffle people. I often get asked, “Should a dominant marry … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair-Please and Thank you

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  This morning, I received a PM on Fetlife from a woman who is new to dominance. She was a switch in past relationships, but found … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair-Re-Declaring Affirmation

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  Each week, I get a number of emails from couples who are struggling with issues regarding their power dynamics. I’ve noticed that … [Read more...]