Rika’s Lair-One Sided Negotiations

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  This week, I’d like to share a little fun I have on those occasions when I feel like playing with power dynamics in scenes. These … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair – Female Dominance and Role Reversal

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  I’ve recently heard the term “Role Reversal” used in the context of female-led power dynamics and it struck me that this is … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair-A Lesson in T&D From The Golf Goddesses

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  This week, I thought I’d discuss a comical correlation that “dawned” on me. My husband is an avid golfer. He absolutely loves the … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair-Avoiding Ineffective Motivation

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  The catalyst for this article is a discussion I had with a man who was looking for advice on creating a contract with his wife … [Read more...]

Rika’s Lair- Giving Directions vs. Setting Direction

I hope you have been enjoying Rika’s Lair, my monthly column dedicated to thoughts and experiences regarding power dynamics in Service-Oriented D/s relationships. Look up “Ms. Rika” in the search box for links to all of my articles in KinkWeekly!  In my latest book, “Uniquely Dominant: Being the Dominant in a D/s Relationship”, I have a section on determining the style of … [Read more...]