PirateStan

Setting The Scene

June 9, 2019 By PirateStan 2 Comments

(Note: As always, this article is presented from the perspective of MaleDom/femsub. I can’t speak with even vague authority to any other dynamic. Please adjust appropriately to your own.)

Always remember: No one is a mind-reader.

So it’s Friday night and you’ve been talking with your girl all week about the scene you’re going to have at week’s end. You’ve both had a stressful five-day-period, what with your job and the world in general weighing down upon you. You’re both looking forward to an evening’s worth of kinky fuckery followed by mind-blowing, multi-orgasmic sex.

But after it’s over, you’re both sitting there in the afterglow thinking, “Wait, what was that? I wanted something different, something more.”

And yeah, sure, you can chalk it up to the phenomenon of overblown expectations, the reality of which was never achievable. But in the back of your mind is that tickle that, no, we’ve done better before, and we can do better again.

And you can always do better, with the simple expedient of setting the scene. Plan ahead, at least a little bit.

Because always remember: No one is a mind-reader.

The key is, know your partner, know yourself, and know your skills. This isn’t about pick-up-play with a relative stranger at a party. This about crafting a scene with someone you know, hopefully more than a little bit. You’ve explored their fetishes, their triggers, their preferences, their sensitivities, their proclivities, their likes, their loves, their limits, and their erogenous locales.

If you’re at all introspective as a Dom, you know all of your own as well.

But if you don’t know these things, remember the rule:

No one is a mind-reader.

You’ll need to talk things out, discuss what’s worked for you in previous scenes, and what hasn’t. Maybe throw a vodka spritzer in there, a glass or three of wine, a few beers, a fine single malt, some tokes on a doob. This isn’t about playing while vaguely intoxicated, it’s about loosening the strings on your tongue, to get beyond those inhibitions and really communicate.

(and if you don’t imbibe, that’s cool. Utilize whatever technique you prefer to loosen your tongue and psyche.)

Here’s the thing; your’s and her’s fetishes usually don’t align 100%. And if your girl is a service-orientated-submissive like mine she’ll still take a tremendous degree of satisfaction in simply working towards achieving yours. But eventually she’s going to grow weary of merely scratching your itch, leading to resentment that her’s aren’t as well.

And here’s where setting the scene comes in. Because with a bit of planning you can satisfy the both of you.

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So here’s the thing. My girl likes to be tied up, but not quite so much as I like to tie her up. And she likes to be scratched and abused, but maybe not quite so much as I like to scratch and abuse her. We have plenty of mind-blowing scenes (and sex thankyewverrymuch) but, as the mighty Dom, my itches tend to get scratched more than hers.

Because most or our scenes are thrown together or improvised (often after a bottle or three of wine… yes we play with intoxicated, which I don’t condone, but it works for us) they tend towards the “Master-wants-to-tie-you-up-and-get-serviced” end of things rather than the “let’s-construct-a-scene-which-satisfies-everyone” area.

But periodically we’re at a public event and I have the opportunity to plan something out, to set the scene. And on those occasions I do my level best to ensure that all parties involved get their minds blown.

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So now we’re gonna do a “f’r’instance”; that is, I’ll set out an example of a scene we had at a recent event (Dark Odyssey: Winter Fire in Washington D.C.), explain how and why I constructed it as I did, and how it worked it worked out for us.

My particular fetishes I enjoy playing with are mostly those of control, in that I enjoy having a girl under my control. But I’m not much of a pain sadist; I don’t get off on inflicting pain. Instead, I combine it more with my love of bondage. So I’ll do something like tie up & gag a girl, then tell her to go over to my bag and get a paddle. If they succeed they’ll get a spanking. And when they complain, through the gag, that they can’t do it because they’re tied up, I’ll pretend to mis-hear what they said.

That’s pretty basic, and it’s not all I’m inclined towards, but you get the idea. I can certainly get a gal up on a cross and work them over with floggers, paddles, whips, hands etc. with the best of ’em. But that’s not necessarily my go to.

My girl, while a big fan of impact play (and the bruises that come with it) also quite enjoys sensory play. My toy bag includes any number of pokey-proddy things with with I can scratch, stick, scrape, lacerate, and score such as claws, darts, knives, and wartenburg wheels. So I’ll try and incorporate both aspects into any of our planned scenes.

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At the event in question we’d acquired a fun new toy, a ring gag. We already had a few, but this one was 100% zeirah approved as it was relatively comfortable, the metal ring being covered in multiple layers of tool dip. If you want to understand the appeal of a ring gag, think about how it distorts a girl’s speech satisfactorily for us gag fetishists, makes her unable to stop drooling for us control fetishists, yet still able to use her tongue for various and sundry.

So this was definitely going to play into the scene.

We were in the overflow hotel, which had it’s own playspace, which hadn’t been too crowded on Friday evening, so I had hopes of something similar on Saturday. I’d checked it out and, specifically, on one end it had a St. Andrew’s cross next to a sort of breakfast nook area, which seemed perfect for what I had in mind. And when we arrived there Saturday night, it was indeed free.

The scene began with her removing my boots, a service offering that gets us into the right headspace. I then had her strip and put up her hair while I pulled out the leather straps I prefer when tying, as well as a variety of other toys. Next I handed her the ring gag, as I’ve found it’s better when she puts it on herself, and a blindfold.

I tell her to come forward, turn around, and put her hands behind her back, binding them securely, and adding a series of straps around her body and arms running from her shoulders to over her hips, leaving them secured tightly to her body such that she can’t do anything at all with them.

I added tight straps from her upper thighs down to her ankles, having her sit for the latter and adding a small pad between them to keep her ankle-bones from rubbing.

Now comes the fun part.

I told her to stand and spent the next hour commanding her to hop to me, whereby I attend to her with various implements of pleasure and torture. She’s uncomfortable enough normally when she’s made to hop while tied up, so the blindfold adds an exquisite element of torment. But she’s a good girl and trusts that I’m not putting things in her way to trip over and, indeed, are insuring there aren’t any. Additionally, I’m directing her left-and-right to ensure that she doesn’t trip. And if some of those directions are arbitrary simply to keep her confused, disoriented, and off balance, so much the better.

Meanwhile I’m also insisting she speak through the ring-gag, which drives both of us crazy in very different ways. At one point she says, “I’m afraid I’m going to fall,” but through the gag it sounds like “Uh ah-hade uh un-enh eh hhaaal,” to which I reply back, “You’re afraid of the hall?”

Because, with her mouth forced open by the ring gag it’s impossible to make an “F” sound.

We went back and forth like this for several minutes. She later told me that she was trying so. fucking. hard. to say “fall” and when I kept mocking her with “hall” that it drove her crazy.

I finally had her hop out into the hall, where there were a few other con-goers mingling. I asked them, “Is there anything scary in this hall? She says she’s afraid of the hall.” To which they replied with some degree of , “Of course not”.

“See honey,” I said. “There’s nothing to fear in the hall!”

At which point I directed her to hop back into the room, and over to the cross. When she was literally an inch away from the base with her bare toes I had her stop. She had no idea that she was standing directly in front of the cross. I went up, carressed and tormented her for a few minutes as I’d been doing…

… then pushed her directly onto the cross.

Again, she had no idea that she was perfectly safe, that she’d fall no more than a few inches before being stopped by the cross. But for that second or so she was faced with the horrible, wretched panic that she might be helplessly falling flat on her face.

It was perfect, the sort of utterly and precisely engineered moment that can only be accomplished by careful planning and setting of a scene between familiar partners.

The entirety of our time had been geared towards that one, exquisite, single second of utterly abject terror.

As I slowly untied her, in my mind I was going through the impact scene I had planned next. But, as I ungagged her, she indicated that she was spent, at that wet-dishrag point to which any good Master dreams of bringing his slave. She had been touched, tormented, and terrorized just slightly beyond the point she could emotionally manage. And it was good.

There followed 20 minutes of aftercare followed by 20 minutes of pick-up and clean-up before retiring to our room. We could have finalized our session there but, being old, fat, and creaky, we prefer to engage horizontally in a bed these days. To do otherwise is to risk disaster.

But rest assured, the evening’s worth of kinky fuckery was indeed followed by mind-blowing, multi-orgasmic sex

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So always remember that nobody can read anyone’s mind, and that you need to know yourself and your partner. Keep that in mind as you’re setting the scene and you can work yourself into parosyxms of pleasure previously undreamt of.

About the Author

PirateStan has been involved in his local BDSM community for over 11 years, after having had a lifelong inclination towards it. He currently lives a contented life in Southeastern Virginia with his girl, zeirah, while working by day for a Major Metropolitan Publication.

PirateStan Interviews Mister

April 7, 2019 By PirateStan 2 Comments

A while back, a local friend (‘Mister’ on FL) started doing something a bit unusual; chain bondage. I initially found the idea intriguing, as metal restraints are something I find more than a bit appealing.

Then I saw photos of what exactly he was doing, how he was not simply binding, but actually suspending people wrapped in roughly their body weight of chain. The heaviness of the chain contrasted with the seeming lightness of the person floating in it, made for some powerful imagery.

I had a chance to see him in action at a recent event. I was particularly impressed by both his utter professionalism and the reactions of the people he was suspending. This, I thought, was something that needed further investigation, and more widespread publicity. You gotta see this.

The interview was conducted via email with copy-editing by me.

Q: So why chain? How did you come up with the idea of suspending people with chain? What drew you to it?

A: When I first started in the kink scene about 10 years ago (not that is a measure of anything other than longevity) many, many people implied to me that rope was the end all of bondage, and that if I wanted to be kinky I had to learn how to tie both knots and people with rope. One of the first events I ever attended was a local event where Jay Wiseman taught some rope bondage, and I learned that I was horribly incompetent at it.

Future “101” events that tried to teach rope were equally as galling as, to me, rope work looks like magic; anyone who’s good at it looks like a wizard. I’m lucky that I can lace and tie my boots, and keep shit from moving around in a van.

The TL;DR version is that it grew out of my wanting to do bondage, but knew that I was incapable of learning rope techniques. I was also heavily influenced by a chain aerial performance that occurred during Winterfire 2017 or 2018 (I forgot which).

So having been incompetent with rope, and noticing that the majority of suspension photos used rope, I wanted to see if I could do it with something different. I’ve observed suspensions with duct tape and pallet wrap, but those are disposable mediums, and you have to utilize a pretty significant amount to get someone in the air.

I knew that if I wanted to suspend people using alternative bondage techniques, I had to evaluate certain criteria: Is the medium strong/reliable? Can it support a person? Is it reasonable in cost and is accessible? Can it be adaptable and configurable?

From an engineering perspective, chain is all of these things. I think the technical feasibility drew me to figuring out how I could make it work in the ways that I thought were appealing, creative, and aesthetic.

Q: When did you first realize that people found the idea of chain bondage appealing?

A: I didn’t really consider that people would find it appealing. I had seen chain bondage photos of some techniques that didn’t look great, and I thought that I could improve on it in a way that was much more visually appealing and traditional in terms of what rope is capable of.

I think it’s only been the past few weeks (as of March 27, 2019) that people have started to gain an interest in it, aside from the few observers that we’ve had when I’ve/We’ve done this thing at Dark Odyssey:Summer Camp in 2018, the Leather Flea & Play Party in Fall 2018 and Spring 2019, and Dark Odyssey:Winter Fire in 2019.

Summer Camp 2018 was the first time were I did any chain bondage that people could watch, and a huge thank you goes to ‘BondagePupNHeels’ and ‘devab’ for bidding on my first public chain bondage scene at the auction! They really made me feel like I was doing something great and it gave me a huge confidence boost to keep going forward.

Q: How did you decide what chain to use and what sort of equipment you’d need?

A: When I first acquired a few lengths of chain, I knew I needed lengths long enough to wrap around a torso, as well as the waist. I also needed shorter lengths because, sometimes, you just need a smaller piece.

The size of chain was chosen because I wanted connectors and equipment that were well-rated for supporting human beings, but weren’t anything that felt too big or too heavy in the hand. The bigger the connectors are, the heavier they are and the more space they take up next to the skin. In the end it was purely out of practicality more than anything else: smaller chain wouldn’t have been sufficient for holding people up, which was something I knew I eventually I wanted to do.

Q: Do you use anything besides chain?

In the past I have used tubular, high-strength nylon webbing to lift people or limbs in the air, but I haven’t utilized it nearly as much. I’ve found that I simply don’t have sufficient body mass to counter-weight most other people, even using mechanical advantage techniques.

However, I definitely use leather cuffs for ankles and wrists. I’d like to give a shout out to Leather By Danny for making some pretty resilient cuffs. I’m sure I’m using them in a way that he never really considered, but so far they’ve held up nicely.

Q: Where do you get your chain? Do you do any preparation on it? What do you do to maintain it? How is it stored?

A: I get my chain and connectors from hardware stores. However, recently I’ve found that I can get similarly rated and sized connectors directly from manufacturers or suppliers, avoiding the retail markup. It brings the cost down quite a lot.

I don’t do any special preparation on it other than cleaning it with appropriate wipes or solvents as necessary. I try not to store it connected together with any other devices because of galvanic corrosion (an oxidation that occurs when dissimilar metals are in contact with each other while exposed to the elements). It tends to make the surfaces of the chain links and connectors become dulled and really unappealing to look at or to handle.

I accidentally had this happen during Summer Camp 2018 when it rained where my chain and connectors were stored in a backpack. While all of my connectors are stainless steel, the chain is zinc-plated and it looked really bad by the time I got home. Thankfully, you can clean the surfaces with vinegar to restore the appearance. You can either spray and rinse it, or dip it in vinegar and rinse, then let it dry. It doesn’t hurt the surface very much. You definitely don’t want corrosion happening long term, as it will eventually start to damage the metal.

Currently, all of my chain is separated by length in bags with my connectors grouped together by type in a bucket with a rubber-sealed snap-on lid. It works great for keeping everything together but, no shit, now the bucket weighs 60 pounds! So it’s not the best solution. I’ll be looking into wheeled boxes soon as it’s finally becoming unreasonable to lug around.

Q: What’s the cost to become a “chain novice”?

A: If you source the connectors from direct suppliers or manufacturers, the cost can be pretty reasonable for a few lengths of chain and connectors. The size of chain I use is a little over US $2.00/foot, and the shackles I get are about US $2.00 a unit. You can get a lot of chain and connectors for $50-100, as long as you aren’t buying stainless chain. I’d like to replace all of my chain with stainless steel, but the cost is high and ranges wildly. That should get you a decent amount of chain to start doing regular, non-suspension bondage.

Also, try not to buy from chain marine supply stores if you can avoid it, as the markup is outrageous. Look for their suppliers and the stuff that they sell. Call and visit manufacturers and ask around. You’ll find that industry people will give you the names of places that they recommend. You don’t have to tell them what you need it for. It’s not weird. Just pretend you’re looking for good prices on chain and chain accessories. You can buy in bulk and generally people won’t ask questions.

Q: How much chain would you need to start, and what type/how many connectors?

A: It depends on what your initial exploration and interest is. I didn’t have very many lengths to begin with, and I found myself running short. The more complicated the bondage became, the more chain I needed, even as I made sure to buy lengths that I thought would be more accommodating for various body types and areas.

I recommend people buy zinc/nickel plated chain to begin with as it has a pretty good surface finish for the price. You can buy plastic chain, which is incredibly cheap and is about the same size as most connectors (at least those that have a fairly good rated WLL) but only for practice, experimentation and play-bondage. I’ve thought about buying a bunch in case I ever have the chance to teach.

So far as connectors, you should factor that you need at least one connector per attachment point for each link of chain. If you’re going to use ankle cuffs, you might need one or two per cuff depending on how you intend to support it and how your cuff is made. If you want to connect multiple ends together, think about the connector(s) that you need to accomplish that.

I’ve ended up making multiple trips to stores to buy different connectors as needed, and sometimes I’ve still run short when I’m doing a major project or something with an uncertain execution.

Think about the types of connectors that are available as well. Some connectors are a loop that has an opening, which can attach multiple links together but can only be opened one way in one orientation. Some connectors have two attachment points with only one point able to be opened. For those you’ll need an additional connector to attach to the closed point. Some quick releases are like this.

I can’t stress enough that planning is your greatest asset in this kink.

While I’m on the subject of connectors, don’t ever use padlocks to connect chain links that will be under tension. Padlocks are actually horribly unreliable as load bearing members, and often a little bit of force can cause them to fail. They’re okay for predicament bondage and funsies, but they shouldn’t be relied upon.

The shank of a padlock, no matter the type, is usually one of first points of attack in brute-force security penetration and lockpicking, as it’s often the weakest. Again, don’t rely on any type of lock whatsoever. It’s just a bad idea.

Q: What are the potential dangers of using chain, and what sort of precautions should be taken?

A: Metal allergies are a thing, and it’s important to include it in your negotiation.

It’s direly important to not use connectors for more than what they’re rated for. Do not exceed the Weight Load Limit (WLL) of a connector, even though you are using them all in a system. Don’t use a connector with a low WLL in a main down line. I think this is the worst, possibly most negligent and ill-informed way that you could seriously hurt somebody.

But this comes with a caveat that’s kind of a tip, and kind of a warning; you should be consciously aware of the WLL of connectors you are using to hold up what parts of the body. If you’re holding up someone’s center of mass, you’ll need a stronger connector with a higher WLL than you will if you’re only supporting a leg on its own.

As a rule, it’s always better to have more support than less.

Chain is hard to cut in an emergency, so you should use connectors that can be undone in a hurry. Some connectors when placed under tension don’t allow you to manipulate the orientation to release chain segments. To not fall into this trap, you have to plan ahead accordingly with whatever you’re doing. You can cut chain links with bolt cutters if you have to, but I’m not sure that’s the first emergency step. You might expend more energy and time cutting the chain links than disassembling your bondage. If you plan your bondage well, you can undo a lot of it with the removal or loosening of a few strategic connectors.

You could end up in a situation where someone is stuck in a configuration because you connected chain segments under tension. That can be dangerous, because they may not have the strength, stamina, energy, or the flexibility to be manipulated in a way to remove that tension in order to loosen the connector. Really get familiar with how your connectors work before you make a choice to use them in certain configurations.

It’s possible to squeeze somebody in a way that could be damaging. Think of a lasso that is fixed in size, and you pull on two ends of it, creating a pinching ellipse around the body, or a limb.

You can totally accidentally drop a load of chain on someone’s foot, and it could hurt. It doesn’t feel great when that happens.

It’s possible to cut or pinch fingers and skin while managing connectors and chain. On my stainless carabiner I’ve pinched my finger often, causing a cut that seems to bleed for a little bit. Carry a styptic pencil in your kit to stop the bleeding, because when you bleed all over your chain it gets a little slick.

It’s only happened once that someone started to have what I think was a panic attack, and they were only experiencing a chest harness. Thankfully it happened early in the scene and it didn’t take very long to get them out.

Q: What’s involved with a “chain scene”? How did you come to determine what makes for an effective scene?

A: As with any bondage, have a specific goal in mind. It can be to be bound tightly, suspended, be in a predicament, or to experience sensation.

At this point if I’m thinking of a chain suspension scene, I plan on the logistics of how it might go in my mind. I think about how and where the drop lines are going, what kind of harnesses or lines I need, and how I’m going to support the person so they can let go and sink into the flight. There’s a lot of pre-planning behind a pose or a configuration.

What has worked well is that in the advance negotiation, I bring up the pose that I’m interested in to see if the person is capable of being in that position, whether or not it conflicts with any of their potential health issues. I also discuss how the chain and harnesses will go on. If it’s agreed upon and satisfactory, then that’s how the pose will go.

During the scene, if there are any complications or any places where the chain feels wrong or harmful, I make adjustments as necessary. I check in regularly to make sure that there aren’t any issues as it’s happening. Once they’re in the position, they can move around a little to make adjustments, but I still check up on them. If they have even the remotest feeling that they want to come down or that something is wrong that can’t be quickly adjusted, then that’s when the scene’s over and the descent starts. I am usually able to get the chain off pretty quickly. Then I’ll inquire about any pain or difficulty, doing a follow-up if there are any problems.

I suppose it sounds way less sexy and exciting this way, but I’d much rather have informed and enthusiastic/affirmative consent beforehand. I think the more the person knows about how it should go down and what we’ll be doing, the better the scene, as we’re all on the same page.

I haven’t done a lot of “spontaneous” chain bondage. Firstly, transitions are a thing that I’m still working on developing. Secondly, the few times I’ve done it, it ended up looking pretty chaotic. There’s a lot of refinement that needs to happen, which is why I suppose all of our photos look like a “finished product”.

Q: What sort of scenes do you engage in publically? Are they different privately? Is it good for intimate scenes?

A: Publicly, I’d do any kind of scene so long as there’s a sober negotiation beforehand. There’s nothing sexual or different in the scenes that I do publicly or privately because, for me, this is more of an art form and less about sexual experiences.

It can be more than a bit of a challenge to figure out how to make it relatively comfortable while also aesthetically pleasing. A successful scene brings me a great deal of satisfaction and I feel pretty accomplished when I manage to do something to which I aspired.

Is it good for intimate scenes? I’m not sure. Maybe. I don’t really have the finesse at this point to “gently slide the links over the bosoms and clasp the link behind in a commanding way.” I’m pretty mechanical about it, but I think and hope I’m not a bondage robot. I suppose that it could be “sexy” if you use smaller chain, more for looks and for minor restraining, as that’s much easier to handle. It’s also relative, as what some people might find intimate others may not.

Q: What do people say about your scenes? What is it they find appealing? What do you see as the appeal?

A: Most people who’ve never seen it before are fascinated or impressed. We’ve had people come up to us afterwards and tell us that it looked really neat, but they haven’t gone into detail about what it is that makes it interesting, so it’s hard to say what the appeal is. It might be the case that the what we’re doing it is new, in making it look like the way rope does artistically.

People don’t expect chain to be used in this way and are surprised that it can be. Chain tends to be seen as secondary in kink, holding cuffs together, extending a hard point, or things of that nature. Here we’re using it as a primary medium, so people are surprised when my play partner or others who’ve experienced it speak of its comfort and sturdiness.

I feel like another appeal is that it erases the stigma of body types in bondage, particularly suspension. Chain is sturdy enough to support anybody, and I see that as a plus. My play partner and I have conversations about this regularly, about how some rope tops refuse to suspend bigger partners and how frustrating that can be.

Q: Where do you see it going? Would you like to see chain become more widespread in BDSM? Do you feel as if you’re perhaps sort of the “Godfather of chain”?

A: I’d like to see more people doing it in the way that we’re doing it. It’s hard to get better in a vacuum, and I’m sure there are more and better techniques we simply haven’t discovered. It’s still pretty experimental, and I look back on the first few photos/work that we did and cringe over how little we knew.

Now that we’ve been able to settle on a few techniques that work, this would be the time for more development and criticism. Because our photos and work are starting to look more like rope suspension, I suspect people might be taking more of an interest. If anyone had skepticism of it before we started making it look less amateur, it was totally justified.

I’m hesitant to call myself the “Godfather”, as anything you release into the public space is open to anybody. Certainly there’ve been people throughout history who were bondage pioneers. As time’s progressed, there’re people who’ve really ascended to an advanced level with rope bondage, and their work is recognized and appreciated, such that they might be considered a minor authority on the subject.

When I started there were huge shortcomings in the way people had used chain in bondage. Most photos I’d seen used chain similarly to rope, and that’s not a good approach. It doesn’t embrace the strengths, form, and functionality of chain. Sometime in the future someone could take a similar approach to mine, having it take off in ways I’d never considered. Perhaps more elaborate designs of harnesses which are just as supportive, or even more so.

If there’s anything I’d like to be known for in the realm of bondage, it’s for changing up the way people think about what bondage looks like, that rope isn’t the only way of suspending and binding in a visually appealing way.

I’d like to give a shout out to ‘ClimbTheWorld’, as she’s had a ton of input on what works and what doesn’t, utilizing her experience in rope and suspension. Without bouncing ideas, thoughts, and experiments off of her, I wouldn’t be doing this in the way that I am. When I refer to “Us”, or “We”, that’s the other half.

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Profiles

March 10, 2019 By PirateStan 3 Comments

I’ve certainly visited my fair share of dating sites over the years. And I’ve encountered people randomly at munches, or on FetLife, which has led me to scrutinize their profiles that I might, perhaps, get to know them just a tiny bit better. And, friends, I’ve got something I need to tell you…

Y’all’s profile game ain’t what it needs to be. It ain’t what it could be. It ain’t what it should be. I’ve met a great many of you and found you to be friendly, intelligent, charismatic, well-spoken, introspective, and erudite. But when I look at your profiles I see a lot of clumsiness, carelessness, laziness, and lack of attention that you wouldn’t give to your personal appearance on a “jammies, Netflix, and wine” day spent lounging around the house.

So few people seem to have mastered, journeymen-d, or even apprenticed the art of writing a profile that, based strictly on said profiles, I’d have to seriously question the intellectual capacity of the majority of those on dating sites. When the simple expedient of having a profile that’s succinct, informative, entertaining, and typo-free sets you head-and-shoulders above all others, you’d think that more people would put forth the relatively minimal effort required.

It’s kind of a low bar to achieve. Even my own girl, bound and gagged, could probably hop right over it (and isn’t that a sort of vision of kinky loveliness to randomly throw into a column’s opening?).

Yet what I see is a lot of bitching, moaning, kvetching, carping, bellyaching, grizzling, griping, whining, and whinging about all the fakes , charlatans, players, rudeness, inconsiderateness, and general lack of responses they encounter. Meanwhile, the people who’ve figured profiles out are meeting friends, play partners, subs, Doms, slaves, Tops, and more.

So in the interest of making for a generally more open, congenial, charming, and overall friendly online community, I’m offering a bit of a primer along with a few hard-won basic do’s and don’ts for putting together a successful profile, one that the people you’d potentially want to meet will actually read, comprehend, and respond to.

But before we go further a quick note on perfunctory “bookmark profiles”. There are those on FetLife who’re just here out of a vague necessity. They leave them blank intentionally, by design. These’re perfectly valid and serve a very useful purpose for said individuals. But, arguably, they’re the exception which doesn’t prove the rule. This column isn’t really for or about them. Do what thou wilt and get on with your bad self!

I HATE WRITING THESE THINGS

Who are you exactly? While we may spend entirely too much time navel gazing, comparing ourselves against other, silently judging everyone around you, how much time do we actually spend thinking about who we are?

So spend a little time figuring that out. Go for a walk. Drink some wine. Chat with your friends. Meditate. Look at some Internet Porn. Scroll through Facebook. And use that to plant a garden that consist of the essentials of you. Then use those veggies to work up a hearty stew of a profile (I’m not sure where the beef or chicken come from in this analogy… uhm, “It’s a garden in the farm of your psyche”).

You don’t necessarily want to start with the kinky stuff.

What do you do for a living? Is it important to you? What do you do with your free time? Do you have any hobbies? Do you like to drive? To travel? Are you a sneakers and flip flops type, or do you prefer dress shoes? What’s your living situation? Rent or own? Where do you see yourself in five years? Educated or School of Hard Knocks? What does your family do? Who were your people? Are you spiritual or religious?

And then get into the kinky stuff.

What role do you like to play? Or are you a more generalized sort? How long have you been at it? How long have you wanted to be at it? What were your early inclinations? Early formative experiences? What drew you to kink? What’re your interests? What’re your specialities? What do you find intriguing? Is it a dalliance or a lifestyle? Are you a community member or a loner? Do you want to settle down or play the field? How important is kink to your day-to-day?

There are as many questions as stars in the sky. Don’t limit yourself. Be creative. Look at other profiles. Steal! Well, not their profile, but certainly their format or technique.

Look in the mirror. Then write about what you see.

DON’TS

… DON’T make it too long. Nobody wants to wade through all of your accomplishments, background, wants, needs, hopes, dreams, skills, awards, and experience. The KISS principle is in effect: Keep It Simple, Stupid. If you want or need to elaborate, do a separate writing and add a link. Links are astonishingly easy to add on FetLife.

… DON’T overshare. Because too much of a good thing is too much of a good thing. At least until you’ve actually gotten to know someone.

… DON’T start with, “I hate writing these things”. Because it’s boring and cliched. If you hate writing, don’t write it. Go and watch Netflix, drink some craft beer,work on the great American novel, or download some porn instead. Assuredly, nobody cares to engage in the introspection necessary, nor likes actually writing these things, and they don’t want to hear your whining. Which leads to…

… DON’T rant, bitch, and moan. Because nobody wants to hear your ranting, bitching, and moaning. There are television programs, radio shows, books, even movies dedicated to such things. If you must, do it elsewhere.

… DON’T try to portray yourself as other than you are. Because you may feel like most people won’t find you appealing, but you only need to honestly appeal to those people who will.

… DON’T spend too much time talking about what you want. Because nobody comes to your profile looking for a checklist to compare themselves against. Seeing a profile filled with “you musts” is simply a turn off. “I must” move along to the next profile which is, hopefully, better written.

… DON’T trash talk anyone. Because the person reading it is gonna go, “Hmmm… he could trash talk me next!” This of course excludes trash talking about serial killers, mass shooters, and genocidal dictators, because Hitler and Ted Bundy.

… DON’T leave it blank. Because a blank profile says, “I don’t give a shit”. And if you don’t, then why should we? You’re not mysterious, you’re not a closed book, you’re not secretly wizened. You’re lazy and need to make an effort.

… DON’T talk about how you’re “an open book” and “ask me any question”. Because asking questions requires some vague knowledge of a person, and you’re not sharing that. Better to ask, “Do you still beat your wife?” or “Do these jeans make my butt look big?”

… DON’T put the “university warning”, because it’s bullshit, wouldn’t make a difference anyway, and just makes you look clueless. Seriously, how does this thing continue to propagate and why is it still around.

… DON’T lie. Because the truth will always come out. Eventually.

DO’S

… DO make it informative, breezy, and funny. Because people who’re entertained will want to keep reading. Think about who you are, where you are in life, what you bring to the table, and what makes you unique. But always remember the KISS principle.

… DO hit the “return” key a lot. Because nobody wants to wade through a paragraph that’s 20 or 30 sentences long. And always double-space between paragraphs.

… DO make it funny. Because everyone like the funny. And people who don’t take themselves too seriously are the people everyone likes.

… DO tell the truth. Because people appreciate honesty. But not too much honesty. Too much honesty can be as bad as not enough.

… DO tell the truth, even if it’s bad. Because the community, as large as it may seem, is too small for you to hide, so don’t bother trying. Don’t dwell on it, but if you have negative shit, own it. Pobody’s nerfect and trying to pretend that you are is a sure recipe for disaster.

… DO be humble. Because nobody likes a braggart. But at the same time…

… DO list your mad skilz. Because you worked hard on them and people will want to know what you’re good at, what you’re generally focused on. But, again, remember the KISS principle.

… DO put up a userpic. Because that question mark says, “I don’t care”. It doesn’t have to be you, but it should represent you. And have some pics in your gallery that are you as well, but keep them “friends only”. Remember: nobody will condemn you for keeping your face pics private, but friends will want to see you.

Edit: I can understand why someone would want to be on ultra-secret double picture prohibition. But you should still have pics that represent you.

… DO proofread. Because typos really make you look stupid and clueless. And while you’re at it, know your “its” from your “it’s”, your “there” from your “their”, and your “your” from your “you’re”. And always use the Oxford comma.

In summation, take time on your profile. Open a word document. Love it. Craft it. Cherish it. Make it your own. This is you to people who’ve yet to meet you. It’s important to make the best impression you can.

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Gag Primer Part 2

February 10, 2019 By PirateStan 3 Comments

Cleave gags, by and large, simply don’t work.

Try it yourself. Tie a strip of cloth in your mouth (or your girl’s) and see how easy it is to work it out, no matter how tightly you tie it. As an added challenge, place a cloth or ball in the mouth first, then tie it in place with a cloth. If it takes you more than 90 seconds to spit it out then I’d argue you have the sort of lantern jaw that takes chunks out of doorways.

Suffice it to say that cleave gags can be fun for photos, videos, or role-playing, but as an actual effective gag you’re much better off utilizing the next gag on the list: the ballgag.

Ah, the ballgag. It’s ubiquitousness in BDSM makes it almost as much an icon of kinky fuckery as handcuffs (perhaps moreso, as many people brandish cuffs as a way of demonstrating alleged sexual badassery). And there’s a reason for that. Simply put, a ballgag is one of the fastest, easiest, and most effective way to remove someone’s power of speech.

At its most elementary level, a ballgag is simply a rubber ball with a strap or cord through the middle. Once placed in someone’s mouth and secured they can’t push it out, can’t close their mouth, and can’t speak very well. How much speech is muffled depends on the size of the ball in relation to the size of the victim’s mouth. Ideally the ball should pop in such that they can open their mouth only a tiny bit more than the ball itself. But few people in my experience can manage this for more than a few minutes, if at all.

But I’m getting ahead of myself. There are as many types of ballgags as there are restraints (perhaps more) and I could spend an entire column simply going over them. So I’ll just try and hit the highlights.

You can acquire a “beginner ballgag” at your friendly neighborhood WalMart. Start at sporting goods where you’ll find a bag of practice golf balls (essentially tiny Wiffle balls) for a few dollars. Then head over to men’s shoes and pick up some shoelaces (I recommend leather bootlaces). Thread a lace through a ball, place in your girl’s mouth, secure in back and, voilà, she’s ballgagged. With the added advantage that it’s breathable since it’s full of all those holes.

Once you’ve tried that and liked it, you’ll want to upgrade. Sure you could just get a rubber ball and drill a hole through it, but maybe just invest in the real thing. I’d recommend sticking with medical grade silicone, as it doesn’t have a “taste”, and is easy to clean, particularly if it has a removeable latex strap. You can even put it in the dishwasher, which is a good idea if you want to use it with more than a single person.

I always recommend Longwatcher over at Pleasure Paradox. He has an infinite variety of shapes, sizes, and colors. He’s also the go-to guy for the porn industry.

Of course some people don’t like the thick strap on either side of their mouth. For them there’s what I know as the “European-style” ballgag. You’ll recognize it as, rather than a hole, it has two long appendages coming out of either side to which the strap is then attached. I’ve seen this in both a silicone and rubber version. The former has a disadvantage in that it’s stretchy and easy to push out.

Sizing a ballgag is extremely important, as you want one large enough to be effective, but not so large that it causes agonizing pain. Most places start out with the one-and-a-half-inch ball and also have a “large”, which is a one-and-three-quarter-inch ball. Then you’ll find places that go up to massive two-and-a-half-inch balls. In general, start small and work your way up.

You can also find padded leather ballgags out there, and some of them are very nice. However they can be difficult, if not impossible, to clean so I’m not a fan.

Next we have panel gags, which has a flat “panel” which goes over the mouth and straps to hold it around and sometimes over the head. Inside the panel is a mouth obstruction of some sort, often a ball but, in the case of one of our personal favorite gags, a short silicone penis.

These can be appealing to those of us raised on the old-style “detective” magazine gags which consisted of a cloth tied over the mouth and tied at the back of the neck. While those were comically ineffective, most panel gags are very effective. And the harness ones look pretty sexy as well.

Before we move onto open mouth gags, a quick detour towards bit gags. Like most gags they look pretty hot and are available in a variety of materials and sizes. All of them are essentially a large stick with is placed into-and-across the mouth, held in place by straps attached to either end, and buckling behind the neck (and sometimes over the head). I don’t quite qualify them as gags as… well… as gags they kind of suck. They don’t muffle speech so much as distort it.

The majority of bit gags I’ve encountered are attached to large rings on either side and are generally intended for pony players of one stripe or another. We’ve got a few in our collection but they don’t get much, if any, use. But I wouldn’t necessarily dismiss them out of hand; it could be your thing.

Next, we have the ultimate in open-mouth gags; the O-ring, dental, or spider-gags. These are designed to keep the mouth open that… things… can be done to a girl which she has no control over stopping (with her explicit consent always, of course). While these are similar to bit gags in that they distort speech moreso than muffle it, I include them in that they do involve a lot of gagging on the part of the girl wearing them.

Just to be certain we’re on the same page here, when the gal’s mouth is forced open by the gag, the assumption is typically is that a gentleman’s penis will be placed in there for her helpless ministrations.

Anyway…

Most are made of metal, although plastic ones do exist; I don’t recommend them. If they break you’ll have sharp edges poking into the inside of the mouth… involuntary blood play! Some, but not all, of the metal ones come wrapped in some form or padding, either thin strips of leather-or-foam, or a rubber coating of tool dip. If they don’t already have it, I’d recommend doing it yourself. The tooth-on-metal contact could well result in tooth chipping or even breakage. Ouch!

As to the different types, the O-ring is the most self-explanatory, as it’s a simple ring of metal in a variety of sizes. It’s been my experience that these are relatively easy to push out, although I suppose a large enough one wedged into someone’s mouth would be more difficult to remove… and painful to wear as well.

The spider gag is similar to the O-ring but has two triangular appendages on either side, bent so as to come out of the mouth and around the cheeks, then strapped down. They’re quite a bit more difficult for a girl to push out.

Finally there’s the dental gag. This is a set of two ratcheted-opening clamps connected by crossbars, designed to keep an unconscious patient’s mouth open for dental surgery. With the added strap for security that’s little chance of her closing that mouth until you’re ready.

The final gag I’ll cover is the inflatable pump gag, an advanced play toy if ever there was one (never mind because even the cheap ones are expensive). This is a panel-type gag which has an inflatable latex balloon on the inside, and a hose attached outside to one of those tiny hand bladders on the end of a blood pressure cuff. Simply put, you strap it onto girl, then pump it up until her mouth is entirely filled.

As I’m certain you can see, the potential danger is that the inflatable balloon can easily exceed the capacity of the mouth to accept it. Gagging and choking is a real danger. I honestly can’t recommend this gag unless both partners really know what they’re doing. Even then let your girl do try first by herself, untied. Because, let’s say it again, “Vomiting when your mouth is full of gag is hazardous to your life”.

I could go on-and-on about dozens of other types of gags, and even share some amusing anecdotes resulting from intentionally misunderstood gagtalk, but you don’t want to read all that. Get out there and gag your girl! You’ll both be glad you did.

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A Basic Primer On Gags For Bondage Play

January 26, 2019 By PirateStan 3 Comments

I love gags. I love the way they look when worn by a helpless damsel, her eyes above it wide, angry, or even erotically inflamed. I love hearing a girl trying to talk through a gag and failing miserably, her ability to express herself reduced to a series of growls and mmphs. And I love watching her trying to relieve herself of her gag, contorting her face, pushing with her tongue, or rubbing against a pillow or furniture in a futile attempt to accomplish an otherwise simple act, were her hands free.

To me, a gag represents a sort of cherry on top of the bound girl sundae. I’ve taken away her ability to move about freely, then I’ve removed her ability to express herself verbally. Typically when you see a damsel in distress in the mainstream media it’s the gag which has the most attention lavished upon it, as almost nothing represents “helpless hostage” more than her hands behind her back and the lower portion of her face being covered.

Of course, the sort of gags you’ll see in movies, television, and magazine covers are utterly ineffective, complete and utter bullshit. A single strip of tape lightly pressed over the mouth, a bandana tied over or through a gal’s lovely lips, they’re almost comical in their inability to stifle speech or muffle a statement like, “You’ll never get away with this!”

For the BDSM or bondage connoisseur there exist a variety of gags to keep your girl quiet or muffled, a veritable cornucopia if you will. These run the range from effective coverings which cover a closed mouth to various balls, plugs, tubes, rings, clamps, and hooks which range in effectiveness from complete to strictly aesthetic. If you can’t find one to satisfy you and your girl you simply aren’t looking hard enough.

But first, a few basic safety tips.

Covering someone’s mouth such that they can’t easily remove it can be very, very dangerous. You run the risk of suffocation if it blocks the mouth as an airway and the nose becomes impeded, which can happen very easily if she gets emotional and cries during a scene. Additionally any gag which goes into the mouth runs the risk of triggering a gag reflex, which can easily lead to vomiting. I suppose I don’t need to point out that vomiting while your mouth is covered can be hazardous to your life.

So it’s important to pay extremely close attention to your girl while she’s gagged. While I’ve heard a variety of techniques, my favorite is the “no nodding or head shaking” rule. That is, if I ask her a question, she must answer as best she can verbally, which can lead to delightful exchanges whereby you truthfully or purposely fail to understand her. However, an actual head shake or nod leads to my full attention, a quick query as to whether she needs the gag removed, or an actual attempt to understand what she’s trying to say (you’d be surprised at how well a girl who’s often in such circumstances can express herself while tied and gagged).

Then there’s the issue of wearing a gag for longer periods. Simply put, the mouth’s natural, relaxed state is closed. When it’s open it’s under stress. Thus keeping it open involuntarily for any length of time can be extremely painful for many people. Sure, there are girls who can wear a two-inch ball gag for hours at a time, but there are also those who can sit with their elbows tied behind their back during the entirety of a Netflix binge of ‘Daredevil’. Don’t assume your girl is extraordinary until she’s been tested and passed. If she says it hurts, believe her, and don’t push the issue.

Then there’s the issue of swallowing, as in your girl could choke on her own drool. Some gags by their very nature can cause a girl to drool a lot. Some let the drool escape easily, others don’t. This is why it’s vitally important to test any gag ahead of time.

I always recommend first trying any gag while she’s entirely untied, and let her apply it as well. This way she can come to terms with the fit and feel while experiencing the emotional comfort of knowing she can remove it at any time. Let her wear it a while, see how long she can comfortably wear it, and make some attempts for her to communicate through it. Once she’s comfortable with it, only then should you apply it when she’s tied up.

Another thing to keep in mind is that a gag does not keep someone entirely silent. Indeed, a gagged girl can make a lot of noise if she’s determined, or motivated, enough. So if your room has thin walls and you’re counting on the gag to keep an especially noisy girl silent, be aware that all it’s gonna do is muffle her speech; that orgasmic, “Oh my GOD!” will instead come out as a slightly less noisy, “Mmm mm MMMMF!” Which may lead to even more questions.

As I said earlier, there are a lot of different sorts of gags. I’ll try to cover the essentials here but I’m certain to leave something (or a lot of somethings) out. And as always, YMMV. I’m sure that people will angrily correct me in the comments, so there’s always that.

Closed Mouth Gags – These are the sort which allow the mouth to remain closed, keeping the lips together such that the girl can only issue forth with comments beginning with the letter “M”.

The first (and my favorite) is good ol’ duct tape. Yes, a duct tape gag can be a very effective one, such that it muffles speech quite well and can’t be removed by an appropriately bound maiden. But you’re going to need considerably more than the single strip seen in most mainstream media. They can be done with something in the mouth (handkerchief, sock, ball, etc) or without. The former are most effective if not without some potential issues, but the latter can also work surprisingly well.

Basic precautions to use with the “something in the mouth” version, particularly with a cloth, is to place the center portions in first, with the loose ends and edges towards the front of the mouth. You don’t want a stray handkerchief corner or panty lace inadvertently tickling the back of the throat, as this could lead to tragedy. If you use something like a Nerf ball, be aware that it could expand to the back of the throat. And if you use a rubber ball, excessive saliva which can’t easily be swallowed can be a significant issue.

Once you decide whether you’re going with or without mouth packing, it’s time to apply the tape. Have your girl close her mouth, lips together (yes, you can pack her mouth so full that she can’t close it, but that wouldn’t be a closed mouth gag now would it?). She should have no makeup on, certainly no foundation, that the tape can adhere securely to her skin.

You’ll want to use the good duct tape; not necessarily the Gorilla Tape, but not the cheap stuff either. Start with one strip around six-inches long, applied straight beneath the nose and over the lower lip (be certain not to restrict her ability to breathe through her nose). Be certain it’s attached very securely, particularly the upper lip. Next use two seven-inch pieces to form an “X”, running from each upper cheek, under the corresponding nostril, over the mouth, and ending at the opposite corner, just under the ear.

Now take another seven-inch piece and run it from under one ear, under the jawline, to the opposite ear. This will leave a small hole at the tip of the chin which you cover with a four-to-five-inch piece of tape, starting under her chin and rolling up-and-over, creating some folds and wrinkles. And to cover those, a last piece of six-to-seven-inch piece goes flat over that, from right to left.

When properly applied this can be a formidable obstacle to coherent speech. Sometimes the adhesive on the upper lip can fail, or she can manage to get her tongue through her lips and wet the adhesive, slowly working it off. But most of the time I’ve found it stymies the most determined convolutions and contortions of a girl’s face. I’ve challenged securely bound girls simply to get the tape gag off that they may be set free, to no avail, even with five-to-ten minutes of determined effort.

And the other major advantage of this sort of duct tape gag is it’s relative comfort (barring the obvious pain involved with its removal). I’ve Netflixed-and-chilled for hours with my girl, even having her nap next to me while wearing it (she was also ensconced in a straitjacket).

I have reached the limit of my words for this session, necessitating a part the second. But before I go, a quick word about tape. Some people are allergic to duct tape, so test it on the skin first. There are a variety of medical tapes out there that work very well. And there’s also clear tape, and packing tape. All have their advantages and disadvantages.

In part the second I shall cover muzzles, then move on to open mouth gags.

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Mummification

January 13, 2019 By PirateStan 8 Comments

I’ve had a fascination for mummified gals since I stumbled across a 1930s magazine cover in a late ’80s pulp anthology. It featured a damsel-in-distress mummy-wrapped up to her lovely shoulders, a gag plastered over the lower half of her face, about to be locked away in a sarcophagus by some dastardly villian. The artist had managed to create a sense of tension and action in her pose, having her bent over and twisted such that the sense of struggling was apparent. And of course, her wide eyes projected the terror the poor girl was in store for should her valiant hero not successfully rescue her.

I was hooked.

It wasn’t too long after that I began to come across videos where a beautiful model was wrapped in duct tape from ankles to shoulders, mmmph-ing through her tape gag that she be released. It was a heady mixture, gorgeous gals wrapped in what seemed absolutely inescapable bondage, futilely struggling in the vain hope that they could somehow free themselves from what was obviously the ultimate in tied-up security.

Fast forward a dozen or so years. I’ve now got my very own bondagette who’s willing, anxious even, to experience such a mummification. What’s the appeal, I wonder? I know what it is that’s tripping my trigger, but could they possibly find the idea of being wrapped head-to-toe in duct tape appealing.

The answer, at least in my experience, is abso-fucking-loutely.

The simple fact is that, if you’re someone who enjoys the feeling of being made helpless and tightly compressed, being wrapped up like a mummy can be the ultimate in powerless constriction. But it’s not exactly an effortless task for either side of the equation. Education, comprehension, and understanding are absolutely essential.

But let’s back up for a moment. No matter which side of the slash you’re on, mummification (or encasement) is not necessarily something you may find appealing. But even if you’re a big-letter-type and aren’t interested, your little-letter-type may find it extremely appealing, particularly if they’re into tight restraint.

Because, here’s the thing; being wrapped up like a mummy leaves you feeling completely and utterly snug, restrained, and helpless without the pinchiness and discomfort inherent in other forms of bondage. You’re wrapped snug and warm in a duct tape cocoon, waiting to emerge as a beautiful butterfly. Or a mind blowingly session of coitus… YMMV.

Still it can be one of those things that seem complex and advanced when the reality is… it kinda is, and kinda isn’t. Indeed, it can be a relatively simple endeavor provided you have the materials at hand, climate controlled conditions, and a willing bondage bunny.

First, some basic safety. You’re going to placing someone into a cocoon which doesn’t breathe, and into which sweat will accumulate over even a relatively short period of time. The space you’re working in should be cool and relatively dry, not humid. This is not something to do at that outdoor camping event in July.

Also, it’s good if the bindee is someone who can stand with relatively good balance, as they’ll have to be standing at the very least while you wrap their legs and ankles. If they aren’t, then someone to help them balance, a “holder” if you will, is a very good idea.

If you’re ready, you’re going to need some basic materials:

– Duct tape of course. Two to three rolls is a good idea. Not the Gorilla tape, as it’s thick and inflexible. The cheap dollar store stuff isn’t bad, although you’ll probably want to do a second, smoothing layer with better tape.

– Cling wrap or pantyhose. Contrary to popular belief the duct tape does not go directly onto the skin. You want to have a barrier, and the cling wrap or pantyhose work exceptionally well. You can also do the tape over clothing although I’d only recommend this if you’re willing to sacrifice said clothing. The tape glue can leave a very messy residue.

– Safety shears. These are an absolute necessity as they’re by far the best way to cut the mummy loose.

Let me start by stating that this is not the end-all-and-be-all of mummification primers. But my girl and I do have some small experience in the matter and I’m going to attempt to address the quick-and-dirty, nuts-and-bolts for some personal fun in the bedroom. Also, for the sake of simplicity on my part, I am going to have the person getting mummified be my girl, zeirah (say hello zeirah) and the person doing the bondage be me.

So, let’s begin.

Start by wrapping each limb (arms and legs) separately. The key here is you don’t want skin-to-skin contact as that can be uncomfortable. If you’re using pantyhose cut a hole in the crotch and have her pull them on like a shirt, then put on the legs as normal. If there’s a gap between the top and bottom you’ll probably want to put some cling wrap there.

Next there’s positioning and padding. Determing what’s most comfortable, hands behind, at the sides, or crossed across the front (like an actual Egyptian mummy!). If you’re going to want her boobs free then this last one may not be the best idea (although I’ve seen it done).

I’ve found that most gals like some sort of padding between their knees and ankles. You can use a folded washcloth, old t-shirt, socks, panties, egg carton foam, etc. Check fit for comfort ahead of time however.

Have her put her hair up if it’s long.

Now it’s time to start wrapping (if you’re using pantyhose go directly to duct-taping). The key is to make it tight and snug as you can, as the overall compression tends to be the appealing part. This part can take a while, but not as long as the next part:

Duct tape!

The thing to remember about duct tape is that it doesn’t stretch, and it wants to go on straight and flat. If your girl is like mine, she is neither of those things. So you won’t be putting on the tape in one continuous strip from top to bottom. Indeed, you’ll probably end up doing it in repeated three and four foot lengths, carefully places one after the other. Don’t worry if the first coat isn’t smooth; if aesthetics are your goal a second go ’round (or second “coat”) will fix that.

Now a note about the duct tape you use. The cheap stuff doesn’t stick as well, but it’s good for a first coat. If you’re only planning to do one coat, then you might want to use the stickier stuff, as you’ll be surprised at how easily she might be able to get loose.

Now as you’re wrapping, pull it snug (this is extra important if you’re going over the pantyhose). I generally go from the top to the bottom, and it takes anywhere from fifteen minutes to a half-hour. If you’re planning on a second, smoothing coat, I’d recommend doing the torso before you do any wrapping on her legs so that she doesn’t have to balance like that any longer than necessary.

Once she’s wrapped you’ll probably want her to lie down, either on the floor, the couch, massage table, or your bed. If your girl’s light enough that you can pick her up and carry her, no worries! If not, have her hop to where you need her to be (while holding onto her lest she fall over), then have her go stiff while you grab her shoulders and lower her down.

Once you’ve got here there, now what? Well you can use your safety shears to cut out certain areas to tease and torment. You can tickle her feet. You can straddle her and have her suck your cock. Or just leave her to enjoy her compressed helplessness. If you’ve done it right that is pretty much a completely secure bondage, one where she can barely move. It’s one that can confound even the most limber, flexible, and athletic of models.

Once you’re done with all of your malevolent ministrations, it’s time to let her loose. And it’s here that you’ll find one of the best things about mummification; how quickly it happen. Take your safety shears, carefully cut from top to bottom and, voilà, she’s suddenly free! It’s not unlike a butterfly being released from a coccoon.

So what are you waiting for? Get out there and get to wrappin’!

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