In these trying times of Covid-19, it’s important to remain positive and think of what we can do, instead of what we can’t.
This is a great time to focus on being mindful, grateful, present, and honing our relationship and kink skills.
For example, since all my jobs are currently shut down, I have re-dedicated myself to serving my Master in ways I was able to before I went back to work-coffee service, dinner service, providing extra pleasing and backrubs, etc.
After the initial shock of Covid-19, it’s essential to think of ways that we can help our loved ones and ourselves during these difficult times.
One could work on perfecting their flogging technique or implement a new submissive training program that one usually doesn’t have time for.
Service and mindfulness can really flourish during this period- which in my opinion is what kink and power exchange are all about.
Self-care can flourish too. Lately, I have been drawing baths for my Master with epson salts and candles. I have also been taking hikes and listening to a lot of self- help podcasts.
In short, I encourage everyone to take this time to strengthen their dynamics and themselves. Take this time to be grateful for loved ones, for nature, for your kinks, for your Dom/Dommes, for your subs, play partners, family, friends, vanilla partners, your health, your safety, your home, your food, etc.
For example, My Master and I just completed our second date of eight from the book Eight Dates by The Gottmans. It’s a great project to embark on. The book takes you and your partner(s) through eight specific dates. Each date has a specific topic attached to it. The dates’ goals are to promote bonding and strengthen one’s relationships. My Master and I have found this quite helpful. On date 2 we walked around the park holding hands before we found a bench to sit on to get into the meat and potatoes of the date. The dates help us to be proactive, promote understanding/empathy, and allow us the space to communicate on often difficult subjects in a healthy manner. I highly recommend it! Also taking time with one another before the date discussion begins promotes mindfulness and unity as well.
I have also been scrapbooking and making little gifts for loved ones. I have been writing more than ever too!
Furthermore, it’s so important to come together as a community, as a nation, as one humanity. Connection and hope are going to keep us going strong during these times. Text, Facetime, Emails, Zoom, Phone calls, etc should be happening more than ever. Let those you love know it!
If your schedule has drastically been affected, I suggest writing a to do list of things that you usually don’t have time for and begin with that! Fill your time with fulfillment, growth, community, and knowledge!
Learn new protocols, rituals, and skills! Review your contracts. Dive deeper into service towards yourself and others.
Make this time special, unique, and filled with growth!
I hope everyone stays healthy and safe during these trying times! As always, thanks for reading and stay tuned!
About the Author
Slave Bunny is involved in a wonderful and loving TPE 24/7 M/S relationship with her Master and husband. She is also the Creative Director of Kink Weekly.
She has dedicated her life to working on herself mentally, spiritually, and physically, and hopes to inspire others to do the same. Through teaching and mentoring, she hopes to help everyone in the Kink community as much as she can.
Feel free to add her on Fetlife (Slave_Bunny992) to see her upcoming workshops and classes.