What Is Bondage/BDSM?

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1. Rika says:

   October 6, 2019 at 12:50 pm

   At one point, BDSM was just B&D, and S&M – then in the 90s, someone conflated D/s into the meaning. In my opinion, this was a disservice to D/s lifestylers because, although many people combine B&D or S&M with their D/s dynamics, many do not. By including D/s in BDSM, it created the perception that people who enjoy power dynamics in their relationships likely include pain-based and discipline-based practices as part of it. It blurred the differences between the practices and lumped the participants into a single mold. Much of the resistance I see to engaging in power imbalances (D/s dynamics) is based in a distaste for the presumed inclusion of S&M practices and kink/discipline. Once that assumption goes away, people are free to engage in D/s dynamics which include as much of the kink as they prefer (or none at all).

   I don’t know if B&D practitioners felt the same way when BDSM linked them to pain-play, but to me (someone who looks at power transfer independently to kink or pain), it has created more confusion than convenience.

   – Rika.

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2. caracoughs says:

   October 8, 2019 at 8:41 am

   Cool video!

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3. jim says:

   October 10, 2019 at 12:06 pm

   i have been into BD most of my life and must say that i am the happiest when i am naked and tied tightly either to something or to myself and caused pain by using nipple clips, spanking, flogging, and using electricty on me.

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