i have been into BD most of my life and must say that i am the happiest when i am naked and tied tightly either to something or to myself and caused pain by using nipple clips, spanking, flogging, and using electricty on me.
At one point, BDSM was just B&D, and S&M – then in the 90s, someone conflated D/s into the meaning. In my opinion, this was a disservice to D/s lifestylers because, although many people combine B&D or S&M with their D/s dynamics, many do not. By including D/s in BDSM, it created the perception that people who enjoy power dynamics in their relationships likely include pain-based and discipline-based practices as part of it. It blurred the differences between the practices and lumped the participants into a single mold. Much of the resistance I see to engaging in power imbalances (D/s dynamics) is based in a distaste for the presumed inclusion of S&M practices and kink/discipline. Once that assumption goes away, people are free to engage in D/s dynamics which include as much of the kink as they prefer (or none at all).
I don’t know if B&D practitioners felt the same way when BDSM linked them to pain-play, but to me (someone who looks at power transfer independently to kink or pain), it has created more confusion than convenience.
jim says
i have been into BD most of my life and must say that i am the happiest when i am naked and tied tightly either to something or to myself and caused pain by using nipple clips, spanking, flogging, and using electricty on me.
caracoughs says
Cool video!
Rika says
At one point, BDSM was just B&D, and S&M – then in the 90s, someone conflated D/s into the meaning. In my opinion, this was a disservice to D/s lifestylers because, although many people combine B&D or S&M with their D/s dynamics, many do not. By including D/s in BDSM, it created the perception that people who enjoy power dynamics in their relationships likely include pain-based and discipline-based practices as part of it. It blurred the differences between the practices and lumped the participants into a single mold. Much of the resistance I see to engaging in power imbalances (D/s dynamics) is based in a distaste for the presumed inclusion of S&M practices and kink/discipline. Once that assumption goes away, people are free to engage in D/s dynamics which include as much of the kink as they prefer (or none at all).
I don’t know if B&D practitioners felt the same way when BDSM linked them to pain-play, but to me (someone who looks at power transfer independently to kink or pain), it has created more confusion than convenience.
– Rika.