BDSM can be fun, beautiful, sexy, and amazing when done right. Whether you call it Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) or Safe Sane Consensual (SSC), the general principles are:
Safety – Part of the thrill of BDSM for some people is the vulnerability that they feel in a power exchange with another person. This can mean that a person’s (usually the submissive or bottom’s) physical safety is in the hands of another person. Even seemingly innocuous activities like rope bondage can carry risk of muscle injuries or nerve damage if done incorrectly. Most cities have established BDSM communities that organize classes on various aspects of BDSM, which cover safety considerations. Don’t assume you can safely conduct any BDSM activity contained in articles or photography on this web site. This web site is for interest and entertainment purposes only, and is not intended to be a guide or inspiration for your play. We accept no responsibility for any activities you may carry out as a result of your use of this web site.
Sane – don’t do BDSM while not in a sound and sensible frame of mind. This includes any long-term mental or psychological conditions that may affect your ability to control your actions or emotions, as well as sleep deprivation, alcohol, or any substance that affects your state of mind. You may not realize it at the time, but it can affect your judgment about what is safe for you or people you are playing with.
Consent – always be sure to discuss BDSM play with a play partner in advance of play. If someone isn’t in to it, don’t pressure them – some people just aren’t kinky and never will be. If your partner is into it – great! Because BDSM can cover a wide range of activities, be sure to discuss specifics of anything you want to try and only do things where you have established clear and affirmative consent. BDSM without consent is not BDSM – it is abuse or worse.