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The Misunderstandings of Littles

November 18, 2018 By Christmas Bunny 7 Comments

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I was still finding myself when I met my Daddy.

Correction.  I hadn’t even begun trying to find the self I had lost when I met him, yet he inspired me to begin that journey.

Along the way, he pointed out to me that I had some of the tendencies of littles.  Having read very little about people who identify that way, but finding those things to be negative, I rejected that possibility for myself.  It was only after I did some more reading and spent some time being honest with myself that I was able to accept that part of me.  I have met others along the way who struggled similarly with their preconceived notions of littles and thus fought against their desires for things such as pacifiers.

I genuinely cannot count the number of times people have become friends of mine and at some point remarked casually at how they hadn’t known someone who was a little before.  They often go on to describe characteristics which are often associated with littles, such as brattiness and childishness, and express distaste with those traits, but pleasure that I am “not like that.”  The conversation usually moves on, leaving me with that hint of sadness that one of my identifiers is so widely misinterpreted.

For a portion of society who preaches about tolerance and not judging one another, I see an awful lot of misconceptions about subgroups in our community.  Perhaps the only experience some has had was with a little in a forum, or seen from across the room at a play party, all in pink stomping a foot and emphatically saying no.  This trend towards treating littles somewhat dismissively tends to hit me hardest where I live, as these things often do.  Rather than seeing those of us who identify in this category as whole, healthy individuals who have embraced their inner child, they are often seen as annoying, with much misconception. However, I see it in the case of “littles,” so let’s talk about us!

There are at least three large categories within the “little” heading.  Littles, middles, and babygirls are often grouped together.  So let’s break it down.

Littles often, but not always, identify that way because they have an age regression.  This can be a state of mind for them which is sometimes situational.  It can sometimes be referred to as little space in discussion.  This age regression is different for every person who experiences it.  Some people will identify an age they feel they regress to, others will have a range.  For the most part littles tend to identify on the lower end of the age spectrum, generally under age 10, taking on characteristics of those age groups.

This may mean your little wants to have a pacifier, or takes comfort in stuffies.  It may mean games of Candyland or coloring.  It could mean Disney movies, a system of reward and punishment, or the endearment good girl being a thrill.  It may mean they do not want sexual contact while in their age regressed state.

It does not mean that people who identify this way are incapable of taking care of themselves.  It also does not mean they act like children all of the time.  There are generally specific things which will trigger age regression for them, and may require them to feel comfortable and safe with the people around them.  That generally doesn’t occur during the work day or with just anyone.

Middles generally identify in the middle of the age spectrum, somewhere from 11 and up.  Again, some may experience age regression and some may not.  They may or may not enjoy some of the more childlike things like coloring and stuffies and may be more open to sexual contact while in this mindset.

Babygirls often do not identify with age regressive experiences, yet strongly desire to fully integrate their inner children with their adult experiences.  They may enjoy some of the same activities that littles and middles do without necessarily needing them or being restricted to one age bracket.

Confusion can come because all three subcategories can exhibit similar outward characteristics.  Individuals identifying in these manners can often project a certain level of naivety or innocence in some form, whether it exists or is simply a projection of childlike innocence.  Generally all three groupings are seeking a Daddy or Mommy relationship with an individual who is often, but not necessarily, older in chronological age and who guides the pairing.  This partnership can provide mentoring in areas which may be less developed in the submissive partner, or simply provide emotional fulfilment.

The important thing to remember when dealing with anyone who identifies in any of these ways is that they are still adults who are perfectly capable of rational and intelligent thought.  They shouldn’t have to hide their identifier out of fear of misconception or ridicule as I have seen some do.  This community should be as inclusive as it claims to be.  We should offer all those we meet an opportunity to educate us about areas of kink we were previously unfamiliar with, and perhaps learn a little about ourselves in return.


About the Author

Christmas bunny has been exploring kink since she was legal to do so.  Her serious writing started in college, where she accidently got some of her papers published in educational journals.  She has recently expanded her writing to include her kink journey.  She began writing in the physical realm, but shed some of her inhibitions and began sharing those entries with others.  She now keeps an active blog of her personal growth and her relationship with her Master / Daddy Dominant and writes helpful educational posts on a variety of subjects.

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Kinky Shopping

July 2, 2018 By GlassMenagerie 12 Comments

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I don’t always love shopping for new clothes. I find it boring and an exercise in frustration. Shopping for new lingerie, however, is something entirely different. I love lace and silk and garters and pretty panties. With this in mind, we walked into the mall hand in hand and headed straight for the lingerie shop. You followed me closely as I touched fabric and browsed the racks.

“What colour Sir?” I asked, knowing your answer already.

“You know what I like, little girl,” you muttered as you smirked back at me. “Little girl,” sigh. What is it about those words that make the place between my thighs heat up?

I selected a lace teddy in black, with matching garters, and you followed in back towards the fitting room. I closed the door behind me.

“I want to see once you have it on.” There was a smile in his voice when he spoke.

“Of course,”

I slipped my clothes off, and enjoyed the feel of the lace as I pulled it down over my body. I stepped into the garter belt,  glanced in the mirror, and thought it looked pretty.

“I asked you to show me.” Your voice was a little sharper now.

I opened the door to the fitting room, stepped out slightly, gave you a little twirl, and flashed you a smile.

“Mmmm, very pretty. I like that one.”

I smiled knowing I had pleased you. You pointed back at the fitting room. As I stepped back in and was about to close the door,  I realized you were right behind me. You then closed the door behind us, and put a finger to your lips telling me to “shhh”.

“Kneel. Now.” It obviously wasn’t a question.

I dropped to my knees before you. You had already unzipped and that delicious cock of yours was presenting itself to me. I can never resist it or you.

“You know what to do, little girl,” you commanded with a smirk. “Now.”

I obediently began to lick, base to tip. Traced circles around your cock with my tongue. Spat on it. Gripped it tightly, sucked just the tip. God, you tasted good already.

“Open. And be quiet”

You put both hands in my hair grasping it tightly. You slid that cock in slowly, making me take every inch until I was filled with you. My hand started to travel down my body searching for the place between my thighs that tingled and dripped. You slapped my face. Fuck. It stung.

“Did I say you could touch?”

I shook my head “no” slowly.

“Hands behind your back.”  I did as you demanded as you stroked the cheek you hit gently.

Your hands were back in my hair now; you began to thrust. Slow at first then gaining speed.  I gagged and sputtered. I tried so hard to be quiet. But that cock pushed sounds out of me I could not control. Backed up against the wall of the fitting room there was no place for me to retreat. So, I knelt helplessly as you pulled my hair towards you, making me take you deeper and deeper.

“Mmmm. My greedy, little girl. Take Daddy just like that”

I could tell from your pace and the look on your face, you were close. Harder and harder you went. Taking my air. My eyes filled with tears. My face became wet with them.

“When I explode in that little mouth of yours you are not to swallow. You are to hold what I give you  until I tell you otherwise. Are we clear, little girl?”

I nodded slightly.

You increased the rhythm, and I saw your eyes start to roll. And then it came. Your cock pulsed as I felt your load hit the back of my throat. God, there was so much of it. My mouth was full. But I dared not swallow. You zipped up. Kindly helped me to my feet and out of the fitting room.  I fucking loved the taste. It swished in my mouth as I moved.

“Get dressed. And I think we’ll buy that set. I like it on you,” you said through the door.

I get dressed quickly. It was hard not to swallow. I left the room to meet you in the hall.

“All good, little one?” I nodded. You smiled at me as I followed you out. I handed the teddy and garters to you.

“No, I think you should pay for them.” I panicked a little. How am I going to pay silently?

I approached the counter and sheepishly handed the items to the cashier.

“Find everything okay?”

I could only nod. I could imagine Sir smiling behind me.

“Need anything else?” Fuck I wanted to swallow. I was sure my mouth looked full. I was sure she knew. I felt my face heating up. But I shook my head “no”.

“And how will you be paying?” I flashed her my MasterCard.

I finished paying. She handed me the bag. I turned and Sir took my hand. As we left the store, he whispered, “Don’t you dare swallow yet.” I nodded.

“Good girl.”

We walked through the mall. I could feel him smiling at me.  I hoped I didn’t see anyone we knew.

We reached the exit, and Sir held the door for me. As we passed through, he grabbed my arm gently and pushed me towards the wall.

He looked deep in my eyes. “Swallow.”

And I did. He held my head in his hands and kissed me deeply.

“Such a good, little girl”

I smiled at him.

I like shopping trips with Daddy.


About the Author:

GlassMenagerie has a love and fascination with the written word, and the way it has the power to elicit different feelings in the reader, especially desire.

The last year has been one of self-discovery as she stumbled upon the world of kink, and found the very things she had been craving down in her core, at last, began to make sense. 

Writing most often about her journey as a submissive (identifying as a Babygirl and Little), she enjoys sharing her erotic fiction and poetry on Fetlife. Her work is sometimes a reflection of her past experiences or just her kinky mind running wild. 

https://fetlife.com/users/8127037

 

 

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Daddy Dom/babygirl BDSM Relationships

March 7, 2016 By Jenn Masri 10 Comments

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You may see this as DD/bg on Fetlife. You may also see DD/lg which typically stands for DaddyDom / little. So what’s the difference?

I will start this by saying that the following definitions are typically true. I never say they are always true because you can never assume that everyone defines themselves the same way. However, I will say that the way I define the difference between littles and babygirls is also similar to how several people who run parties and classes for the little community define the difference.

Someone who defines themselves as a “little” or has a “little” side to them, typically takes on a young persona some or most of the time. Typically it is a mindset where they will regress to a specific age or age set. It could be anywhere from infancy to adolescent. Keep in mind this is a persona and not related to what their power exchange dynamic is or even if they have one at all. They may or may not have sexual relationships. They are usually on the submissive end of the spectrum, but not always. If you attend a littles party you may find that a majority of the space is filled with people on the floor in footie pajamas with stuffed animals, coloring books, etc. The hosts may have a room or two away from the main space that is designated for BDSM play and/or sexual activity. The reason for this is that for many littles, adult activities of a sexual nature would be considered abusive or at least inappropriate. Added note: just because someone identifies as a little does not automatically mean they were abused as a child.

Babygirls, on the other hand, you can think more in terms of role-play – as opposed to regression. I don’t mean that to imply it is not a true and very real head space for them, just that rather than regressing to a certain age they are typically still an adult, but enjoy a nurturing dynamic. Sometimes age play will be included. For a babygirl, sex and BDSM play aren’t usually seen as inappropriate. Babygirls typically can enjoy being in this head space during adult activities. They may also be into incest or molestation play. However, once again, you can never assume that someone who enjoys this type of play was abused as a child. Regardless of the role-play aspect, most babygirls enjoy the underlying dynamic of the relationship.

This is why Daddy Doms fit well with babygirls. They both typically enjoy a more nurturing type power exchange. This may also include discipline. One major misnomer about Daddy Doms is that they are less sadistic. NOT TRUE! Not necessarily true at least. Lol If you are an s-type please don’t assume that getting involved with a Daddy Dom means they are teddy bears. They may be, but again you can’t assume this! There are plenty of DDs out there just as sadistic (or more so) than many Doms.

DDs also fit well with someone that identifies as a little. It is a different experience however. How these partners interact will look different. Some DDs have a preference for one or the other due to this.
As with any identifier people choose the same label for various reasons. Just as someone may identify as a Dom versus a Master – they have their reasons. Just ask!

Jennifer Masri is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, specializing in Alternative Lifestyles for individual and relationship issues. She also teaches the BDSM 101 class series at Sanctuary LAX in Los Angeles every Monday evening. Read more about Jennifer on her blog, A Kink Shrink.

Tagged With: babygirl, daddy dom, dynamic, little girl, littles, relationship

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