I would hardly say I had a rough childhood.  I rarely wanted for anything material.  Yet at the same time, it was a childhood without the security of loving biological parents.  I was raised by grandparents, and the lack of my natural parents in a regular routine in my life definitely contributed to a lack of emotional security for me. In being someone with a fairly … [Read more...]

We've all had relationships with characteristics we weren't happy with. Maybe we built a relationship on obligation and reciprocation. Maybe our relationship had controlling behaviors which damaged self esteem, such as ignoring or passive-aggression. Maybe we didn't communicate well. Maybe we closed ourselves off from our partners. Maybe we lied or sought … [Read more...]

While these relationships may look different on the surface, at the root of them, they are characterized by one individual having the final say when it comes to decision making.  That doesn't have to mean the other party / parties have zero input. There are books written about contracts and power exchange, so today, I'm just going to share what some of our structure looks … [Read more...]