Keeping Score

I was talking to a friend the other day about relationships (no surprise).  I brought up my feelings about keeping score and my friend wanted me to clarify. My example:  "well you did _______ so I can do _______".  Or "I did _________ and you don't ever do things like that for me." I see that sort of thing a lot.  I don't even think some people realize they do it. My ex … [Read more...]

Plus Size Halloween Costuming

It's that time of year again.  As a plus-size woman (like anyone over size 12 juniors, according to most costume makers) I was less than excited about slogging through the land-mine-filled landscape that is Halloween costume shopping. Last year Daddy and I made plans to attend a pretty spectacular Halloween dungeon party.  Finding a Halloween costume that I didn't hate in a … [Read more...]

Reclamation: What Is It And Why Do We Need It?

I recently came across a new concept I was unfamiliar with:  reclamation. From my understanding, it is based in the Stag and Vixen play, which is essentially a respectful “borrowing” of the female, who is then returned and is intimately reclaimed by her partner. I found the concept interesting. It brings focus back on the primary couple. I get how that could seem … [Read more...]

Trouble With The Law

She drove home nervously, checking her mirrors almost compulsively, back roads dark, no street lights to relieve the weight of sky.  Her anxious hand fluttered away from the steering wheel to smooth the tiny skirt against her thighs. She jumped and her heart began to pound when she saw flashing lights in her rearview mirror. *Perhaps it is for a criminal, or a fire, … [Read more...]

Being New

Being new to the Kink Community can be a pretty terrifying thing, particularly those with any timidity, uncertainty or social anxiety.  It can be a scary thing to realize you have desires which defy societal norms, let alone to venture into a community full of people doing so, many of who have a great deal of experience or have been part of their local scenes for many … [Read more...]