Spanking: Pleasure or Punishment?

There is a common question in our lifestyle that if a slave enjoys being spanked, how can it also be used as a punishment? Quite confusing, wouldn’t you say? The corollary question is if the Dominant enjoys administering a spanking, how can he/she be objective when deciding when to administer punishment? There is a view that is being promulgated (I sound so pedantic today, … [Read more...]

Trust in D/s Relationships

There are some people out there that think that being a submissive means that we will do anything a dominant says. But that is clearly not the case. Submission is not given lightly, and it usually is only given to those that are deserving of that submission. The key ingredient that makes a submissive willing to give himself or herself over to a Dom in any capacity is trust. … [Read more...]

Domination Without Humiliation

With the proliferation of Pro Dommes on the Internet, one would think Domination always entails humiliation. Granted, the Pro Domme community might be the one group that is keeping the traditional protocols of BDSM alive – surely the “Fifty Shades” Millennials are not doing it. Nevertheless, to the casual observer, it would appear that humiliation is an integral part of all Fem … [Read more...]

BDSM Scene Ideas: The Interrogation

I’m a big fan of getting creative with BDSM play. Rope is great, and impact is fine, but what I love most is power exchange, and putting some thought and preparation into creating a great scene can go a long way towards heightening that dynamic. In this article I’m going to describe one of my favorite scenarios – The Interrogation. It borrows from the genre of captured spy, … [Read more...]

Review: Locking / buckling wrist cuffs

Dexx says: Stockroom was kind enough to send us these leather cuffs to review, so we thought it would be rude not to strap anniebear into them and give her a good spanking. I can confirm that she was held firmly in place and despite some considerable moaning and squirming, she was quite unable to escape… mission accomplished. These cuffs are part of the standard line … [Read more...]