On The Edge Of Arousal

I would like you to imagine something for me.  I'd ask you to close your eyes but it defeats the purpose of reading my words.  So, let's set the scene. I want you to feel the stirrings of arousal in your lower belly.  The soft shots of electricity that run from your lower back and up your spine.  I want you to imagine the sensitivity of your skin is so acute, the still air … [Read more...]

Negotiations With Myself

Negotiations are a fundamental part of kink.  But, it is more than just telling someone what you want.  It is the ability to get in touch with yourself.  It is the insight to understanding your own needs and wants as well as that of your partner(s).  It is the chance to delve into the depths of your own mind and learn exactly who you are. It sounds ominous to define … [Read more...]

A Letter To Sir

I have openly written about being in a closed poly unit.  I've spoken of my wife of a decade now who has split personality and the subsequent babygirl I got from that.  I probably have droned on endlessly about both of my wives and my husband. They are the center of my world; both in kink and outside of it.  Everything I do is for them.  In turn, they keep me sane.  It is … [Read more...]

Self Care vs Self Aware

I find the best way to help people understand my point of view is to be painfully honest.  With that being said, I'm going to share some deeply personal mental health experiences.  At one time, many years ago, I would have apologized for the possibility that I may upset someone.  I have learned, over the last ten years or so, that it is ok to be broken sometimes.  It is ok to … [Read more...]

A Little Fascination With Rope

I have always had a fascination with rope.  It is such a versatile medium to explore kink.  It can be used as a fashion statement, to lead someone, to bind them in place, or even to make them feel comfortable.   My own journey started with a class entitled “Basic Bondage and Shibari,” given by Magick42.  I have been blessed to have him help me with my knots and correct my … [Read more...]