Introducing a New Person to BDSM

We've written several articles similar to this topic in the past but with the caveat that you were either dating or romantically interested in the new person or perhaps it was a vanilla person you're trying to convert. This article will cover aspects and ideas for introducing a kinky platonic friend into the scene, something which I've had personal experience with multiple … [Read more...]

Learn From My Mistakes: Part Two

Check out part one here. In this installment, I will concentrate on Internet BDSM mistakes that I, and friends, have made. After all, in our fetish-tolerant age -- there are fetish parties and other opportunities for meeting potential partners real time -- the Internet still accounts for a significant number of BDSM hookups – and slip ups! So, here is my second list of … [Read more...]

Learn From My Mistakes: Part One

It’s that time of year for New Year’s resolutions that few of us keep. Here, at, we won’t burden you with advice you don’t need or guidance you will ignore. So, instead of the usual suggestions, we will offer a new concept for improving your kinky BDSM relationships -- “Learn from my mistakes!” We all know that the only way a child learns how to avoid a hot … [Read more...]

Dexx interviews Jenn Masri

Get to know our regular contributor Jenn Masri by reading this interview! Dexx: You’ve been a pro switch and you’re a kink aware therapist.  But for many in the LA kink community, you’re perhaps best known as the friendly face guiding them into the world of kink as the teacher of your BDSM 101 class series, which you’ve been doing for about a year and a half.  What inspired … [Read more...]

Pillow Princess Dom

So I was having a conversation a while back with a friend of mine. If you know me personally, you know my memory sucks and I can’t remember the details of the conversation. However, what I do remember is that, for whatever reason, the way she was describing a Dom caused me to blurt out, “He’s a pillow princess Dom!” I then had to explain what a “pillow princess” was. If you … [Read more...]