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Sometimes I’m A Kitty Cat

October 1, 2018 By GlassMenagerie 4 Comments


I snuggled into my Daddy’s chest. Twirled his chest hair in my fingers. There’s so much I love about being with Daddy. Playing games, singing, being silly, taking cares of him (cause little ones know how to do that really good). Bedtime is when we would  talk most sweetly to each other; he made me feel so very safe. I could tell him anything that was in my head and he would listen. Anything at all. At bedtime he rubs my back, gives me forehead kisses, and strokes my hair. When he was petting my hair, I suddenly had an idea that I was super excited about.

“Daddy?!”

“Yes? Little one.”

“Tomorrow, tomorrow I wants to be a kitty cat!!”

“Ohhh? A kitty cat?”

“Uh huh. Wear ears and a tail and meow and purrs and gets petted”

“Mhmmm?” Daddy was sleepy I could tell.

“Yes, Daddy. A kitty cat”

“Okay sweetie. Tomorrow you can be a kitty cat. Tonight though, it’s time for sleepy”

“But Daddy, now I’m excited about being a kitty cat!”

“Little one, even kitty cats need sleep.” He kept playing with my hair.

“Hmmm, okay Daddy. I know time to sleep”

I settled further into his chest and drifted off in Daddy’s arms.

When I woke, Daddy wasn’t in bed, which was strange cause it was Saturday and I get up first on Saturdays usually. I stretched and yawned and rubbed my eyes and got up to use our bathroom. When I came back out, I noticed what was on the dresser. Daddy remembered!!

My kitty ears, gloves with little kitty nails, and my tail. They were all purple cause in our house kitty cats can be purple. I put on my kitty ears and gloves.  But I needed help with the tail. It was a special tail; you could wear it when you didn’t have clothes on cause kitty cats don’t wear clothes. Daddy said it was a plug and you would put it inside and that’s how your tail would stay on. So, even when you’re crawling on the floor it doesn’t fall off.

“Daddy!! I need some help please” I yelled from the top of the stairs.

“Be right there.” Daddy was in the kitchen probably getting breakfast. I was already on the bed in my “putting the tail in” position. That’s just like princess position with your face down on the bed and your bum high in the air.

“Mmmmm good girl,” Daddy said as he walked in. His footsteps came closer and I heard him open something. There was this special stuff that made your parts slippery when you used it.

“Ready little one?”

“Uh huh. Daddy puts the tail in please”

I felt Daddy’s hand on one side of my bottom. Then his finger dipped inside my little bum hole. Daddy usually put some of that stuff inside before my tail. I felt the plug go in. I likes the way it feels. Daddy gave my bottom a quick swat.

“All set you pretty kitty”

I meowed at him.

He petted my back and I arched to meet his hand.

“Kitty kitty I have a game for us to play”

I meowed again cause kitty cats don’t talk.

Daddy got something from his dresser. When he brought it over I could see that it was a purple collar with a little bell. I loved it. Purple to match his purple kitty.

He put it around my neck and did up the clasp.

“Purrrrfect,” he smiled at me. “Kitty cats, little one, are very quiet when they move. They are almost silent. That’s why some owners put bells on collars so they know where their kitty cat has gone”

I turned over so he could pet my tummy.

“I want to see how quiet you can be. You will crawl around the house just like a kitty. If I hear that bell though, I’m going to come find you, and then… well you’ll see, understood?”

Oh, I loved Daddy’s games. I meowed again to show that I understood. Daddy patted my head and stroked my tail and then left the room. I needed to be very, very quiet.

I slipped off the bed and down to the floor carefully. The bell moved, but didn’t ring. I began to crawl across the floor of our room slowly. I made it to the hall with no ringing. But the stairs!! I turned around to back down them so I could stay on my knees but the bell hit the stair above as I moved down and it rung.

“Don’t you move” Daddy’s voice carried through the house. I didn’t move an inch.

“Tsk Tsk, little kitty, Daddy heard that bell. So naughty, what should we do about it?” Daddy was already behind me. He made my princess parts tingle with his words. What would he do? Then he struck. I knew rights away it was the flogger. Across my bottom, across my back over and over. I cried out at first, but soon settled into it, arching my back to meet the flogger. It made my little honey pot drip. Daddy knew it and paused to dip a finger inside.

“So wet already pretty kitty.” He brought his finger to my mouth.

“Lick it kitty, lick Daddy’s finger clean.” I looked in Daddy’s eyes and licked his finger; it was so good tasting myself on his him. I tasted soooo sweet.

“Mmmmm good kitty, another try? Don’t you let that bell ring.”Daddy left the stairs. My bottom stung, but I knew now to be extra careful to keeps the bell away from the stairs. This time  I made it to the bottom.

I started down the hall towards the living room. It felt like it was taking forever and ever to get there so, I moved a little faster, but my arms came up too quick and it knocked the bell, and it rung loud again.

“Kitty, kitty! Don’t you move!” And there was Daddy in front of me undoing his belt already. I tried to move fast. Cause kitties can be fast and I didn’t care about that bell ringing anymore. I wanted to be away from Daddy’s ouchie belt.

Daddy caught my leg and pulled me back towards him; I kicked and hissed (that’s the sound kitties make when they are mad).

“You hissing at me kitty?” He had a tight grip on my leg and down came his belt across my bottom hard.

“Stop struggling you naughty thing, “ He hit me again two more times til I stopped trying to gets away. I laid quiet on the floor. Daddy’s fingers were now searching inside my princess parts feeling how wet he had made me. Slowly sliding inside and out, I lifted my body up so he could go deeper.

“Oh, you frisky, little kitten. You want to play?”

I meowed and pushed back into his hand. But he stopped and wiped my wetness off his fingers and down my back.

“Turn around.”

I did what Daddy asked cause I was a good kitty (well, mostly). He now stood with his jeans undone and his yummy Daddy part was out. And it was hard. I liked that I made Daddy that way.

“Here Kitty Kitty, come get your treat.”

I moved closer to Daddy and looked up in his eyes.

“Lick your treat.” That’s all he needed to say.

I stuck out my little kitty tongue and began to give slow, long licks at first, making sure I got every inch of his hard Daddy part. Then, I opened my kitten mouth and took just the tip in, flicking my tongue against him. Daddy moaned. He grabbed my head and pulled me straight into him over and over.  I continued to suck and let him use my little mouth. Faster and harder. It made my eyes all watery when he did this. Sometimes I made that sound like before you throw up. Gagging on him as he hit the very back of my throat. I felt Daddy tense up and I knew what was coming. But he pulled out instead and he slid his hand up and down his Daddy part until his Daddy cum came spurting out. He held a little purple dish and caught all of it in there.

“Such a good little kitty for Daddy.” He put the purple dish on the floor in front of me. Patted my head.

“You know what to do.”

And Daddy watched carefully as I licked and lapped that purple dish clean. I’m such a good little kitty cat (sometimes).


About the Author

GlassMenagerie has a love and fascination with the written word, and the way it has the power to elicit different feelings in the reader, especially desire.

The last year has been one of self-discovery as she stumbled upon the world of kink, and found the very things she had been craving down in her core, at last, began to make sense.

Writing most often about her journey as a submissive (identifying as a Babygirl and Little), she enjoys sharing her erotic fiction and poetry on Fetlife. Her work is sometimes a reflection of her past experiences or just her kinky mind running wild.

https://fetlife.com/users/8127037

Tagged With: bdsm, Daddy, dom, fetish, GlassMenagerie, kink, little, pet play, play, power exchange, role play, sub

Being a Little and Its Healing Properties

October 9, 2017 By slave_bunny 2 Comments

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Most people have things from the past that they are not over, and many of those things stem from childhood. Many of our parents didn’t give us what we needed most, and our basic needs were not met. Because of this, we go into adulthood with this hole in us that feels like it can never be filled or eradicated. Although it is very evident that we cannot change the past, it is still possible to get what we missed out on in childhood in our adult lives.

My childhood was filled with a lot of extra- curricular activities and a regimented afterschool schedule, along with a very judgmental mother who needed everything, including me, to be her way. She did not give me the freedom to be myself that I so yearned for, did not give me the unconditional love that I needed, and did not provide a reliable and consistent structure for me. So, in my adult life I dealt with this void in various ways. Some healthy, such as: being task-oriented, list making, and loving my Master unconditionally and non-judgmentally. Others, in not so healthy ways, such as: emotional lash outs.

It is easy to think that what happened in your past, stays in the past. But unless it is dealt with in an effective and healthy way, it will keep coming back to haunt you.

I have found that when I go into “Little Bunny mode” I am able to get all the things I missed out on in my childhood: acceptance, laughter, silliness, and unconditional love. I feel free to be myself, and don’t have to be thinking a million steps ahead. I can just live happily and peacefully in the current moment, and be completely present and mindful with my Master.

Going into my little space also allows me to positively replace some of the negative emotions left from my childhood, and put things into a more realistic perspective. Because of my little mode, I was able to realize that I’m not a bad person; I just wasn’t living up to my mother’s standards. I know this because of the acceptance and love my Master gives me when I am in little mode. And that brings me a lot of healing. I don’t take my childhood so personally, because I am shown that other people accept my child self, which is exactly the person my mother rejected. In short, being a little can replace negative feelings from the past with new positive ones, and replace our old, pessimistic ideologies about ourselves as well.

My little side does not have a set time when it shows up or is supposed to show up. It usually makes an appearance in times of extreme stress, sadness, or happiness. But no matter when it comes out, it is always way more pleasant feeling these things through my little self, than feeling the strain of stress and sadness in my adult head space.

It also allows my Master to better deal with the intense emotions, because it is often easier to have compassion for someone who is small and youthful than a full- grown adult. I also find it is easier to move on from a negative emotion quicker and easier because that’s how children are wired. Children don’t always have the ability to see the big picture. So, when the moment is over, so are their emotions.

My little self is also much more forgiving towards myself and others, and less pessimistic because she has not been jaded by the adult world and all its disappointments. Because of this, I find my little comes out when I need to remain positive and keep my esteem intact. My Master has even given me assignments to write to my adult self from my little self. I will often read these letters in times of stress.

Roleplaying a big/little scene can also be very therapeutic. Roleplaying as a little can give you a healthy outlet to acquire what you missed out on as a child, and/ or a way to reenact things from your childhood that need working through. It allows you the space to feel more heard and be more taken care of than you may have been in childhood.

I strongly encourage those who go into little space do so only with those they whole-heartedly trust (due to the fact that going into little space can often leave one feeling quite vulnerable).  While being a little is not the sole thing one needs to work through their past, it can be a great and healing tool to use in tandem with other coping mechanisms and healing techniques.

I discovered my little with my Master by accident, and as time goes on she comes out more and more. I find being a little is a great emotional coping tool, and breeds a lot of acceptance and nonjudgement within myself. For me, when I am in little space, the lack of harsh criticism combined with unconditional acceptance definitely brings about a boost in my overall self- esteem.

I strongly encourage anyone who identifies as a little to look at who your little is, and try to link your little to your childhood. See what connections you can make. It’s important for everyone to fully process what they are not over yet, so they can move on and stop carrying the emotional weight around from the past. I have found that being a little is an amazing way to do that.

About the Author:

Slave Bunny, a 1950’s power slave, is involved in a wonderful and loving TPE 24/7 M/S relationship with her Master and husband. She is also the Creative Director of Kink Weekly.

She has dedicated her life to working on herself mentally, spiritually, and physically, and hopes to inspire others to do the same. Through teaching and mentoring, she hopes to help everyone in the Kink community as much as she can.

Feel free to add her on Fetlife (Slave_Bunny992) to see her upcoming workshops and classes.

 

Tagged With: big, daddy dom, little, little space, master, role play

Event Review: The Hollywood Academy for Wayward Boys & Girls

May 22, 2017 By Vice Erotica 3 Comments

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The Hollywood Academy for Wayward Boys & Girls opened its doors at North Hollywood’s BDSM club Lair de Sade last weekend for its Spring Session. New students flocked to their doors, with plaid skirts and sharpened pencils – ready for a day of learning and surely a bit of discipline. All students had previously registered online to ensure their admittance, read through and agreed to the Academy’s structure and curriculum, and had been properly vetted.

A school role-play scenario has always topped my list of kinky interests. Everything about it excites me – the wardrobe, writing on the chalkboard, flirting with the Professors, being sent to the Principal’s office, being humiliated in front of my peers… So when I first stumbled across the event page for The Hollywood Academy for Wayward Boys & Girls, I’m not sure I could’ve been any more excited. I quickly registered, and signed Daddy up to be a voyeur as all “Top” positions were already fulfilled. I listed my interests and hard limits, expressed my enthusiasm, and hoped for the best! I received a warm reply from the event’s organizer, confirming all necessary details and welcoming me to the Academy.

I was oddly nervous the day of the event. It was at a space I was familiar with, Daddy would be with me, and I knew limits and consent would be established – so I had no fears of being ‘thrown to the wolves,’ but the nerves still persisted. I dressed up in my ‘schoolgirl best,’ opting for an outfit substantially more “little” and less “Catholic school girl” as it was how I was feeling that morning. I smoothed my black skirt, adjusted my pink stockings, double checked my pigtails and pink bows, and willed my black Mary Jane shoes to carry me throughout this day. I grabbed my kitty tote bag and Daddy’s hand and walked through the door.

I stopped at the Registration Desk to complete my necessary paperwork (your usual consent and event liability forms), pay my tuition, get a nametag, and meet Principal Charles. He welcomed me to the Academy by name, recognizing me from my online application (aka: my Fet profile). Principal Charles gave me a brief outline of the day, welcomed Daddy, and invited us to head inside to relax before classes started.
We sat down with a few people we knew from the local community, and chatted with a few faces we didn’t recognize. I noted that most of the girls were in plaid skirts and crisp white button-up shirts, and quickly picked out whom I presumed was the Academy’s “troublemaker” from his all black attire, leather fingerless gloves, and hacky sack. Everyone seemed to know each other – my insecurities over being “the new girl” were in full force! I resolved to myself to be on my best behavior, make Daddy proud, and enjoy the day.

Principal Charles called school to order, and we all gathered in a room to be seated and await instructions. He explained the outline of the day, including our class schedule and how disciplinary actions would be managed and carried out. We were introduced to the professors, the Vice Principal, the student teacher, and the school nurse. Principal Charles then asked everyone to take out a pen and a piece of paper. I froze in panic, as I had a pen with me – but no paper! My flustered face met similar looks across the room, as well as disapproval from the Principal. He told all of us who were unprepared to stand, and come to the front of the class. We were all to be punished for coming to class without needed supplies. I was horrified! How could I have not thought of this?! I mean, I had snacks and my coloring book and markers for recess and after school – but no paper?! I was humiliated to be bent over in front of everyone and spanked, but I took my strokes without complaint. The others were disciplined in similar fashion, and then classes were to begin.

Our first class was math. Our poor Professor – he just didn’t know what was coming. A room full of kinky, rowdy, possibly horny students… It wasn’t a minute after Principal Charles walked out that the paper airplanes started flying, the notes were being passed, and general misbehavior was ensuing. Our basic lesson of Pi and Algebra were interrupted by bratty outbursts and crumpled papers being thrown across the class. Each offense was met with a Discipline Form, and soon half our class was in the throes of punishment. I defended myself against false accusations from the louder students, and giggled as I watched girls come back from the Principal’s office and wince as they sat on their wooden chairs.

We attended one more class with in which the antics persisted, but the Professor was slightly more successful in delivering his lesson. We then broke for recess, and I nearly skipped to go sit with Daddy and his friends. They had been sitting around a table watching the hilarity over the last hour, smoking cigars, and catching with up with each other. Daddy greeted me with a kiss, asked how my day was, and offered me some of his cigar. I smiled and warmly accepted, chatting about my day. Within 2 minutes, a stern “Young lady! Are you smoking on campus?” came from behind me and my eyes went wide. I was caught! I was grabbed by the arm and taken to the Principal’s Office, with Daddy smirking as I walked away – he had set the whole thing up as I was behaving “too good” all day! I filled out my Discipline Form, and received my strokes. I left the office to a chorus of “oooooooh’s” from my peers, and questions as to how “the good girl” got in trouble at recess. “Smoking on campus!” I spat back, shocking them all, and returning with a scowl to Daddy’s side. We shared a laugh as it was all in good fun.

Principal Charles announced recess was over, and we all shuffled back to class. Our 3rd class was English – taught by a ‘real life’ English teacher. I’ve never seen so many previously mischievous students furiously start taking notes! We knew there was a Final Exam at the end of the day, and all of these parts of speech and phrases seemed like just the sort of thing to be on it! The class was not entirely well-behaved though, as the boy I previously labeled a ‘trouble maker’ sat through nearly the entire class with his hacky sack in his mouth – at the demand of the Vice Principal. English was soon over, and we headed to Wood Shop – which we soon realized was Paddles:101. It was a surprisingly informative time spent learning about different types of wood, their sounds upon impact, and how their impact felt. Principal Charles popped into the class and informed the Professor that “a students Father just called, requesting a special instruction on the differences between ‘thuddy’ and ‘stingy’” – Of course, that student was me. I threw on my full ‘brat,’ stomping and pouting to the front of the classroom. I was paddled by every implement he had until I could distinguish the woods from their sound and bite alone, as well as determining my favorite. I walked back to my seat, and flashed Daddy a sarcastic “Thanks Daddy!” as he had joined in the room to watch the demonstration.

It was now time for our Final Exam, and we were all ushered back to the main classroom. We were given 5 questions and 1 bonus question, and we all wrote down our answers. Well, some students just doodled – there was lots of doodling the entire day. I was thrilled that I had paid attention, and beamed when I got all 6 questions correct. Myself and one other student were rewarded with “good girl spankings” from a wicked acrylic paddle, and then got to watch in amusement as the reprimands got increasingly worse as the Exam scores declined. I secretly wished I’d gotten just 1 wrong – I’d finally started to relax into the ‘role play’ of everything and yearned for a little chastisement! We exited class for the day, and I knew I had to invite my friends to study at the next Academy!

I had the pleasure of sitting down with Principal Charles after the class activities had commenced (some students required additional discipline) to learn more about the Academy, as well as the group he runs. We were joined by the student teacher, Naughty, who is his lovely wife.

Thank you both for such an awesome day – I didn’t know what to expect, but all of this was just great! Tell me about this group that you run, and how today’s event came about.

Charles: We took over the group almost 4 years ago now, from the original founder who ran it for a number of years out of his house. We moved it to the Lair de Sade when attendance started to get to be too big to be held in a house. When we took over the group, every September we would have a ‘school girl party’ – “Back To School” or so we called it. It was always one of the most heavily attended events that we had. So we said, “You know, people really seem to like this!” Both my wife and I attended some other parties – they had an academy and they ran it for several hours. They have teachers, classes being taught, a curriculum, you have to register, you go to different classes at different times. We thought, “Hey, that’s a great idea! It’s fun! We could probably do this at our local parties.” So first – we totally stole the idea. But we recognize that it’s a big trigger for a lot of people; it’s a scenario that people like. And so we’re running them now about once a quarter. On the other months, we still run our normal play parties, which are a typical open-play kind of parties.

Got it. Your first party – was it strictly a ‘school girl’ dress-up type party or did you have some type of structure to it?

Charles: The first one that we did was exactly as you saw today. Structured, we had teachers, we had classes – we had probably too many classes, it went a little longer. So that’s why we’re pairing it down and giving the attendees time for break or “recess” as we call it. We do try to get the students to move from one end of the space to the other and back so it feels like school. It’d be great if we actually had desks and things like that, maybe someday we’ll find an area where we can do that

So in addition to cutting down the number of classes, what have you learned from your first party to this party? Perhaps the pros/cons of those first ones versus today’s event?

Naughty: I would say the flow as far as making sure its consensual, but yet still trying to have it in a school setting. So making sure the students fill out the punishment slip and knowing what their limits are and what they want – it was a little haphazard in the first class today as far as the flow of it and figuring out how to set it up. So now its gotten more seamless as far as getting the consent, knowing what they can take, and implementing it.

Got it. I can definitely see how it’s a lot to organize and manage! So is the Hollywood Academy for Wayward Boys & Girls, this role play type event all your group does? Or is it more?

Charles: We are the Hollywood Spanking Plus Group – that’s the actual group. We run these parties about once every 3 months or so, and then the other months we run just a normal play party. We are Spanking “Plus” because we have gone beyond just spanking because people are into BDSM – I mean, we’ve always been into BDSM but spanking was the original trigger – but we just began to notice that with more and more people – the groups were meshing. There wasn’t the same distinction. Or there was more curiosity about trying something a little but more.

Naughty: We wanted to do some rope, try using whips, floggers, things like that. Traditionally speaking in spanking – once upon a time, it was very strict in all the different groups about what you could do; it was very frowned upon to have any kinds of ropes or that sort of thing. So in changing with the times and what we like, we just expanded it a bit.

So how did you both get into this lifestyle, meet each other, etc?

Naughty: A little bit of backstory… We met at a spanking party. It was this group, with the prior owner. I had been in the closet my whole life, never told anyone about my desires until I was getting divorced and went to a spanking party from a different group. Charles saw that I was listed to attend the next party, so he reached out to me and was asking some questions. We decided to meet.

Charles: I was actually mentoring somebody at the time, I was looking for a party that she could attend where the people were understanding – wouldn’t beat her up too bad as she was very skittish about the whole thing. I was also looking for submissive women who hadn’t been in the scene for that long, that had gone to one of the prior parties so I could ask a few questions: what’d you think/how were the people/how was it like/etc. Naughty was who responded to me. We started chatting back and forth through messages on Fet, and at one point she said “oh your girlfriend…” and I said “oh no, she’s not my girlfriend – she’s someone I’m mentoring” – and Naughty said “OH! Well in that case…” And it grew from there! That was over 5 years ago.

Naughty: We just got married last year and we have a Domestic Discipline Household. So you could consider us 24/7, but a lot of what we do is for fun. But we do have rules in our household.

Oh my gosh! That’s a whole different interview for a whole different day!!!

Naughty: It’s an amazing group, its been a lot of fun. Our regular parties are almost like hanging out at a cocktail party, but people are getting spanked!

That’s my kind of party! Is there a website or a FetLife page for your group?

Charles: We are on FetLife as a Group under Hollywood Spanking Plus, our Group profile which is Hollywoodspanko, and personally – we have a joint account Bluemeetsblue.

Vice Erotica is a photographer, writer, and babygirl from Southern California. She is a regular contributor for Kink Weekly. When she’s not photographing pretty things, she enjoys cigars, collars, and planning her next adventure. You can view more of her work here.

Tagged With: play party, role play, school girl, Spanking

Taboo Role-Play

April 10, 2017 By Jenn Masri 4 Comments

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As many Kink Weekly readers already know, I am a marriage and family therapist. Part of becoming a licensed therapist is putting in 3,000 hours of client work before taking the exams. The hours must be a combination of individual, joint, family, group and kid therapy. Part of what made up my group hours was the 8 years I worked as a co-therapist for a group of sex offenders. (I stayed on after finishing my hours) This group consisted of offenders who were on probation and therapy was a requirement for the duration of their probation period. The offenses ranged from the 19 year old getting caught with his underage girlfriend to date rape to the molestation of family members and every story in between. These guys (and one female in the 8 years I was there) made very bad decisions and broke the law and were paying for it.

Now that I’ve said all that, let’s move on to the topic of this article: taboo role-play. There is a reason I am linking the two. Role play can be anything. From pretending to be an animal, a celebrity, a pizza delivery person, historical figures, etc. You can use your imagination and get as creative as you’d like! Don’t limit yourself to teacher/student or doctor/nurse. Even just pretending to be strangers and “picking up” on each other at a bar or coffee shop can be fun!

However, there are also many types of role play that fall under a more “taboo” category. Priest/altar boy, nun/parishioner, kidnapping, sleep/drugged play, rape, consensual-non consent, daddy/daughter (or any other combo) molestation play. Some of these taboo role plays are the consensual version of what the sex offenders had done. What’s the difference? Consent and age. You are playing these scenarios out with another consenting adult.

Many people feel guilty for engaging in this type of role play due to the fact that it is not ok if done in the real world with a non-consenting partner. However, I am here to tell you that it’s ok in this circumstance. So long as everyone involved knows what they are getting involved in, is an adult, and is agreeing to it. Can this type of play lead to triggers that someone wasn’t aware would come up? Of course. But triggers can happen with any type of play. (See my article about triggers for more info on how to handle it if this happens.)

The world of kink and BDSM is a great place to explore all those deep dark corners of your fantasies with other people who share in them or who are at the very least willing to join your exploration. There is no need to feel guilty over it. Those guys in the therapy group have things to feel guilty about. In this community we should take responsibility to do it with consenting adults with no purposeful harm. As long as this is the case then all I can say is get your taboo kink on!

Jennifer Masri is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, specializing in Alternative Lifestyles for individual and relationship issues. She also teaches the BDSM 101 class series at Sanctuary LAX in Los Angeles every Monday evening. Read more about Jennifer on her blog, A Kink Shrink.

Tagged With: age play, animal play, role play, taboo play

Dom Wants to Submit

April 3, 2017 By Baadmaster 5 Comments

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Often my articles are inspired by questions I receive regarding BDSM, D/s, relationships and all kinds of kink-related queries. (After all, this is KINK weekly!) One of the most intriguing questions I have been asked is the following one:

“If my sincere desire is to be completely dominated, and I have a dominant personality outside the playroom, can my fantasy truly ever become a reality?”

The answer is an unequivocal “yes!” In fact, when one examines the real life dynamics of dominance and submission, you will find that there is a lot of role reversal in this lifestyle. For example, many bigwig executives, who are among the most dominant, type-A individuals you can find, seek domination in their off-hours. Ask any pro-Domme and you will find that many of their clients are high-powered business types. This stems from the most human of needs – to reverse roles when in relaxation mode. The last thing many a captain of industry wants, after a week of non-stop decision-making, is to spend the weekend making more decisions. It can go deeper than that psychologically, but the overview is still one of role reversal. Conversely, there are pro-Dommes who, when they are not working in the dungeon, like nothing better than to be dominated. And this has little to do with switching; this is a situation where the dominant businessperson, for example, wants his play life to be as a submissive.

(I will not address the question of whether a Dom/me ordering a submissive to “spank me” is an act of dominance. I might tackle this in another column.)

Of course, there are men and women who are dominant in their profession and dominant in their relationship; there are submissive/submissive people, too. You are far from alone in your needs and your ability to fulfill them. The first step is to let things happen naturally. Let me explain. Since you wish to be completely dominated, you must look for a potential partner who stirs your submissive feelings. This could pose a problem as many will perceive you as a dominant and be skeptical of your need to submit to any degree. So it might take time for you to find a partner that dovetails into you submissive needs. “Complete domination,” as you put it, is a state that you gradually arrive at over time; you won’t get there right off the bat. But finding a Master/Mistress who stimulates the inner submissive within you is the first step toward that goal. If you have spent time with a skilled pro-Domme you will understand your needs – and limits — more deeply.

The second step is for you to acknowledge that you will never be able to shed all the domineering characteristics of your personality. A sensitive Master/Mistress will never ask you to do that. What you must find is a Dom/Domme whose control of you in the dungeon dovetails into your kinky needs while encouraging you to continue your day-to-day dominance. A wise Master/Mistress knows he/she can affect some behavior modification, but will never want to change you completely. Nor should he/she try to. When you look for your “dream Dom/Domme,” make sure he/she instinctively gives you “domineering latitude” – without it, it will not work.

The third step is to actually find your ideal Dominant – and the best way to find him/her is to be honest from the jump. Tell any potential Master/Mistress about your domineering personality. Don’t hide it; don’t play “perfect slave” as a way of enticing that person. Many people use this technique and it is doomed to failure.

The key is to find a Dominant – whether a pro Dom/me or a relationship Dom/me — who finds your “domineering personality” appealing, and is willing to accept and even encourage your “outside the dungeon” dominance. After all, it is always best to accept a partner “just the way he/she is.” If you truly enjoy exploring your submissive side after a hard week of being “domineering,” you will likely find a Master/Mistress who will work with you. After all, there is nothing a Dom/Domme likes better than a partner who really needs to be a dominated! And you seem to fit this mold to a “T.”

By BaadMaster
After a ten year run as head writer for the legendary bondage.com, and an equally long run as the host of the hit internet show “Baadmaster’s Dungeon,” we are pleased to welcome the one and only Baadmaster to KinkWeekly. His thoughts about all things BDSM will now appear regularly on these pages. From the mental aspects of D/s to the nuts and bolts of S&M play, Baadmaster will cover every facet of this ever expanding lifestyle.

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